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Just wondering if it is less sell shock second time around and also if its easier on the marriage? ↓
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| Name: Brandy | Date: Jul 8th, 2006 2:43 AM |
| I think it is easier with 2 because you are not as scared with every little sound and grunt. You know how to deal with all the things that come up. As for the marriage that all depends on what it was like before I guess. I don't know if this help any seeing as I don't have alot of details but I am sure others will come along soon. ↑ |
| Name: mommyagain | Date: Jul 8th, 2006 2:48 AM |
hmmmm thats a hard one... I have 2 with the 3rd on the way so lets see....
Of course having 2 is more work than 1 but it also has its advantages as they grow up... They have a sibling. As har as pain I owuldnt know... I had vaginal with the first and c-section with the second... both were pretty bad. My marriage was doomed when I got pregnant with my second child... she was my depo baby!! But I dont think she hurt or helped us. It just depends on your marriage. ↑ |
| Name: Denise | Date: Jul 8th, 2006 5:11 AM |
| I think it is harder with two, especially if they are close in age and it is especially harder on your love life. There are so many day to day demands and lack of sleep. However, this time around you are more confident and soon they will have a buddy to play with, which will give you and your spouse more time together. ↑ |
| Name: Fiona | Date: Jul 9th, 2006 9:32 AM |
I think that 0-1 is much easier than 1-2. Life is much busier for me now that I have two - I never seemed to be this way when I only had one child.
It's hard to keep both of them happy and split your attention and there's so much tidying up and laundry as well.
I'm glad that I've got my toddler, but it is hard work!!! ↑ |
| Name: Danielle | Date: Jul 10th, 2006 2:44 AM |
| I have 2 kids and 1 on the way.I don't think it is easier.I think it is a little les scraier.But it isn't easier. ↑ |
| Name: Livy | Date: Jul 10th, 2006 4:05 AM |
| Thanks for all the response! Did anyone else jump the gun cause they felt so good and loved their first baby so much that they got rpegnant again really quick and kind of think maybe it was too quick? I don't regret it at all and am really excited, but I am glad at least it won't be as scary. What I meant by the marriage thing was that we had (I though) a super solid marriage and I could'nt believe how stressed we got right after our baby was born. We were just less patient with eachother and it was definately a stress to our relationship. I am hoping that now that we know what to expect with midnight feedings etc. that this time we will handle each other more patiently. ↑ |
| Name: Sarah M | Date: Jul 10th, 2006 3:23 PM |
| How old is your other baby just curious? ↑ |
| Name: Livy | Date: Jul 10th, 2006 3:38 PM |
| My other baby is just about 15 months, they'll be twenty months apart. ↑ |
| Name: EthansMom0213 | Date: Jul 10th, 2006 3:41 PM |
I am not sure as to whether or not it is easier with two then one but the pregnancy itself is definately alot easier. I do know when I started watching my newphew who is 7 months younger then my son until I had them on some sort of schedule I felt like I was going to lose my mind, but as time went by things became less hectic. I am currantly 13 weeks pregnant, but did want another baby when my son (who is now 2) was 6 months.
I haven't really thought about whether or not things are going to get harder with another child. I probably would have it I hadn't been taking care of my nephew (who is 7 months younger then my son). In the beginning I thought that I could have possibly went in sane, but then I was told by my son peditrician to have some sort of schedule. Took her advise and I have to tell you it was the best advise anyone has ever given to me. Obviously when you come home for the first time with your new baby there is going to be some adjustments to make because now it is not only one child you have to take care of but two. But I'm hoping that with my son already being on a schedule that the adjustement won't take as long and things will move some what smooth during the days. ↑ |
| Name: Livy | Date: Jul 10th, 2006 3:48 PM |
| Hey ethansMom, I hope you are right! My son is on a pretty good schedule and a pretty laid back kid, so hopefully that will help a little. My husband and I just adore him though and still cna't seem to get enough of him, so hopefully it won't be too hard on him to get less attention. We try really hard not to spoil him, but he is just so darn sweet and cute! ↑ |
| Name: Sarah M | Date: Jul 10th, 2006 3:57 PM |
| my lil girl is spoiled but she seems to love to help with babies so hopefully she will want to when my lil guy is born haha ↑ |
| Name: EthansMom0213 | Date: Jul 10th, 2006 4:16 PM |
I told my husband that we need to make sure that the baby isn't getting all the attention, although it might be hard at time. I said we have to make sure that my son has time alone with daddy as well as time alone with mommy and then we can have mommy time.
My son is actually a very well behaved 2 year old. If he didn't have his moment I wouldn't even know that he was two. People are actually shocked at how polite he is, he make sure to say please when he wants something and thank you when you give it to him. And he's spoiled, but not spoiled to the point where he thinks that when we walk into a store he is going to get something. But spoiled enough where when you walk into a store you can't find anything that he doesn't have. ↑ |
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