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Hey everyone, I need some advice on something. My sister in-law is pregnant almost 30 weeks pregnant to be exact. She is due in October however, is scheduled to have a c-section. Anyways, ever since she became pregnant she has been smoking marijuana and sitting around cigarette smoke. I don’t mean that she is doing this occasionally; she is smoking marijuana at least 10 times a day and sitting by the smoke most of the day. I am very worried about her unborn baby. I don’t believe that her midwife knows about this. I am not sure what to do. I feel as if it is not my part or any of by business to say anything, however, if something happens to that baby I will never forgive myself for not saying or doing anything about it. I don’t know what to do. Please help. ↓
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| Name: Petrona | Date: Aug 1st, 2006 3:51 PM |
| Well, unless your sis-in-law is completely illiterate or a moron she has to know that she is subjecting her baby to potential health threats by smoking pot and inhaling cigarette smoke. Her baby is now most likely to have small birthweight as well as have potential breathing problems at birth and develop asthma later on in life. That said, I don't see what you can do apart from talking to her about it and pointing out the above, but at this stage I can't see her making any changes. What about your (brother?) the baby's father? Does he not have any input? Is there anyone you know of that she'll listen to? ↑ |
| Name: whittney1 | Date: Aug 1st, 2006 4:03 PM |
| Petrona, I also think that she is a moron. Earlier in her preg. i asked her if she was going to stop and her reply was no that she smoked with her other two kids and they turned out fine. My husband hates to see it as well, however, he also dont know what to say or do. I also told her that her baby is going to be very small and she said good that she dont want a large baby. She just dont care. Its soooo sad to see. She doesnt do anything she is supposed to do or not do. Her reply is that she only lives once and her kids are not going to run her life. So with that said I don't know what else to do. ↑ |
| Name: Sarah M | Date: Aug 1st, 2006 4:26 PM |
| I dont really think you can do anything but inform her as to what she is doing. Since the baby is not born yet you can do anything about it. I would just make sure she knows everything that can happen. if she doesnt want the kids to RUIN her life as she says which they would actually be saving in this instance she should not have had kids. I wish there was more you could do cause thats just not fair to that lil life. ↑ |
| Name: sweety29 | Date: Aug 1st, 2006 4:36 PM |
| i am 31 weeks pregnant right now, and i don't even want to stay next to a barbecue fire much less actually inhale smoke into my lungswhich will definately harm the fetus. some people are meant to be mothers others are not. your sister in law maybe going through some stuff that she need to get worked on. she may very depressed. try getting her to do things that would take up her time in the day so she won't get the time to sit and roll a blunt. ↑ |
| Name: patricia | Date: Aug 1st, 2006 7:31 PM |
| So sorry that ur in this situation, it must b hard for u watching ur sis in law puttin ur unborn niece or nephew through this. Sorry to say but at thirty weeks any damage that could be caused to the child through pot and smoking has already been caused even though it would still help a bit if she gives up now. All you can do now is keep reminding her about the potential risks to the little life inside her, and if she continues on being so selfish and thinking of herself tell her how tough labor is gona b on her body with all this smoking, appealing to her selfishness might actually work. Good luck. ↑ |
| Name: Kristy84 | Date: Aug 1st, 2006 8:25 PM |
| I agree with everyone else, although as much as this sucks your sister-in-law could be right. She sits by cig smoke, which isn;t great, but the impact of 2nd-hand smoke on a fetus hasn't really proved anything tangible. The effects of 2nd-hand smoke in general are very controversial. As for the marijuana, the only thing that has been proven in studies, is that 1 in 20 babies born to pot smokers have a lower than average birthweight. That's only 5%. It's obviously not good to risk the health of your child, but there are healthy babies born to heroin addicts and other women who do everything "right" miscarry. I've seen women like her and there isn't anything you can do to stop her except advise birth control after she has it. I used to be a smoker and I quit. I wasn't excited about this pregnancy at first, but I decided to keep her, and I'm not going to half-ass my pregnancy. It's not the child's fault how idiotic her parents are. ↑ |
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