THE DARN RESPONSE SYSTEM ISN'T WORKING ONCE MORE, SO I AM POSTING MY RESPONSE RIGHT HERE.
to stay in school...are you married or have a bf? when someone doesnt support what you do...even if its a simple thing like spending money or buying something for yourself that wasnt necessary, wouldnt it make you feel bad? i mean, ok, maybe the word low wasnt right, but it did bring my spirits down. im used to getting what i want...that might be why im happy..haha..
My real name is Karen, and yes I am married, but the thing is I am a very independent person. I am in my late thirties, and have worked since I was thirteen, so I guess that is why I couldn't interpret your message correctly. WIth or without my husband I am going to make it because God is my provider, and he is the only one I really depend on.
If I can make a suggestion without offending you, just don't try to depend on your boyfriend too much. I've seen and heard a lot of stories where stay-at-home moms were married, but had no skills and no independence end up divorced with nothing to back them up. I'm not implying that you and him won't grow old together, but I am simply saying you don't want to get in the mindset of believing you MUST depend on him. So, continue working on your degree and don't stop even it if takes ten years. ↓
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| Name: heather | Date: Dec 27th, 2005 9:31 PM |
| thank you karen, i didnt mean to argue at first...im really sorry. i hate making people mad, so yea, i guess im one of them sensetive people...haha. I dont try to depend on him but it kind of works both ways..ecspecially since im only 18. 18 is the age when im supposed to be making something of myself...i DID move away to go to another college in Lubbock, Tx but after TRYING to sign up, i found out i was pregnant. I couldnt go to college there anyways because my mom had claimed me last year on her tax returns and they wanted her income, which she wouldnt give out, it wasnt a problem thought because even if she had given them out i wouldnt recieve any loans or grants. my mother makes too much money and i would have had to pay for everything myself. i didnt have that much time to find a job and make that kind of money before school started. SO when i found out i was pregnant i moved back here with him and claimed independent. Which goes by our income..I dont want to be a stay at home mom..im so lost now that i cant go back to school right now. i switched to a school that is a one year. Its VERY pricy, much more than a university in a year..or two for that. but i needed a school that i could get somewhere fast to support us more. I still want to go to a college though. but maybe after my bf gets situated also, that way we dont have to worry so much about finances and the baby. i want to become a physical therapist which takes some years to become. i LOVE elderly people and thats what i want to work with the rest of my life. but sometimes you have to put your dreams on hold in order to do whats best. when i left for college in lubbock, Him and i were still together but we were going to try and find our lives first. He wanted to join the army, which all had changed when i moved back, and im pretty sure he wont go now that were having a baby. he'll probably go to college. he wants to do criminal justice but you have to have a clean record for 10 years and he just got a DWI...he wasnt drunk though, he's just not old enough to be drinking at all or to have a little in his system. I know that god wont throw anything at me that i cant handle, thats why im trying to go to college. i know i can do it but i want to be happy doing it. Im not going to lie, ive never had to do anything for myself. ive always been spoiled but i realize that life cant be that way. since ive been pregnant, its really opened my eyes. college is not a state law requirment, you have to want to be there. I remember these girls that used to cheat on test at college and i always thought whats the point? you dont have to be here..people are here to make something of themselves. i dont get it. i dont know. i know i cant depend on everyone but we go through this together. he is not an angel...i keep his head on straight for him, i lecture EVERY time he wants to leave the house, i make sure he gets it through his head that life is more serious...and in return he helps me be on my feet. i dont know. im sorry i rambled on... ↑ |
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