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I am 18.. And I know I'm at an age when I can do what I want being an adult but I'm scared of how to tell my mum. I was pregnant at 15 (misscarriage) and she took that really well as she had me at that age but I feel she might be upset now as everything is good for me with just starting uni and also I think she will be upset cos she doesnt particularly like my boyfriend who i only met in march. he has a 1 year old daughter and she seems wary because of her past (she fell pregnant to my dad shortly after gettin with him and he left her while she was pregnant with me to go back to his ex + sons mum). how do i tell her? ↓
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| Name: dojia | Date: Sep 25th, 2006 2:36 PM |
| i have the same problem, girl. i'm the first one out ofall of my sisters to get preggers and i dont want to tell her. of course, i cant just tell her that thiss baby is just one i found on the side of the road. I'm afraid she's going to flip hard out.so maybe we can both get some advice. but youre lucky, youvde already been pregnant. none of my sisters nor i have ever been. i'm the first. i bet she'll be glad that you waited longer than she did. but i will tell you this!!! MAKE SURE YOUR DUDE IS WORTH KEEPING!!! IF HE'S A SACK OF CRAP[i.e.- no job, no car, no school, no nothing, then get rid of him. ↑ |
| Name: Kristy84 | Date: Sep 25th, 2006 6:09 PM |
| I'm 22 and felt the same way about telling my grandma. My mom was the 2nd person I told, after my fiance, but I was so scared to tell my grandma b/c my fiance and I were planning our wedding and BAM this happened. How far along are you? I waited until I was 12 weeks along to tell my grandma. It was so hard b/c I felt like she'd be sooo disappointed in me. I'm also a student and felt like this baby would ruin everything. I seriously considered abortion but my fiance really wanted to keep her. She was upset at first, but I tolod her how unplanned this was...I was bawling like a baby:( She told me that she loved me and the only thing that she asked was that I stay in school; which of course I did. I took 3 summer courses and I'm currenlty enrolled in 3 courses. I honestly think that your mom will handle it well. If she understood when you were 15, then regardless of how she feels about your bf, she'll supprt you. ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Sep 25th, 2006 9:42 PM |
| When i told my mother, she MADE me go get a blood test after taking 5 urine tests. She said she wanted it written on paper as proof so it would be more real to her to accept. After that she was upset she's only 36 (i am 20) and she says she's too young to be a grandmother.. but now at 10 weeks, ive told a couple ppl in my family and they're all wicked excited, especially my fiance (sometimes i think more so than me) and my mom has come around to it. I called her from the test, and said so how much do you love me, and she said i love you alot why? and i said well im pregnant and she went silent and she said okay we'll get through this. I think reguardless of how much you mess up in life, not saying this is a mess up, but they always love you and eventually they come around and support what you do, b.c they know theyve raised you to do the right thing. your mom will understand. I wish you the best of luck! ↑ |
| Name: babey_g_311 | Date: Sep 26th, 2006 1:59 AM |
| Im 19 and when I had to tell my dad (who I knew would not be happy at first) I sent him a text message that way he could calm down and think before he said something wrong, or that he'd regret, alot of people didnt agree with writing a message but when you think about it its a good idea, that way they have their space to think first, and than when shes ready she will tell you how she feels in a more rational state, best of luck ↑ |
| Name: vane20 | Date: Sep 26th, 2006 3:04 AM |
Hi zoeee
I got pregnant when i was 17. Right now im 20 and have a wonderful 21 month old boy, the love of my life. Like you, i was terrified to tell my mom. i actually waited until i was almost 6 months (my belly hardly grew) to tell her because like you, i was so afraid of how to tell her and how she'd react. You've been with your guy about 6 months? I got pregnant the first month i met him!!! imagine how terrified i was. When i told her, she told me she kinda knew but was waiting for me to tell her.
I missed out on so much with my mom, ultrasounds, the heartbeat, you know, the first exciting things about pregnancy.
Please tell her, she loves you and she'll understand. I wont lie to you, the first few words will be tough, but give it a few days and you'll have so much fun shopping for baby clothes.
How did your boyfriend react? Like Dojia said, if he's not worth keeping, get rid of him. Me and my baby's dad broke up when i was 4 months pregnant so when i told my mom, i wasnt even with the guy anymore!
I know your mom will suppport you, if she's like my mom, she'll be mad about shcool, but it all works out. Im going to school right now full-time finally and she insists on taking care of my boy. She HATES the idea of daycare and gave up her part time job to take care of my son. I love her with all my heart, and trust me, she'll be overjoyed with the idea of being a grandma GOOD LUCK!! ↑ |
| Name: zoeee | Date: Sep 26th, 2006 5:59 AM |
| this is making me feel so much better! thank you! yeah i'm not to sure how far i am just yet- went to a really stupid doctor who had no clue what he was doing, so will be going in the next two days. my boyfriend reacted really good. he aready has a 1 year old daughter & we had been a tad distant the week i found out so was abit worried at first but hes been all excited, perhaps more than me to be honest. ↑ |
| Name: vane20 | Date: Sep 26th, 2006 8:07 PM |
im happy for you girl
hope everything goes well! have you thought about when your gonna tell your mom? ↑ |
| Name: zoeee | Date: Sep 26th, 2006 11:16 PM |
| ive booked in an appointment tomorrow to actually find out how far, then im going to tell her straight after. ive actually got some courage now so better do it before i cicken out! ↑ |
| Name: vane20 | Date: Sep 26th, 2006 11:24 PM |
yes, i recommend you do it ASAP!
dont be like me, i waited much too long, and trust me, she's gonna be upset at first (my mom's biggest reason was school of course) but she'll get over it. It's such a joy to share with your mother, and if she understood when you were 15, why wouldnt she understand now? im sure your mom is great and is gonna be so happy. How do you feel about it? Are you excited? ↑ |
| Name: zoeee | Date: Sep 29th, 2006 10:59 AM |
| I think she will be fine, I'm probably worrying about the littlest things. I did the same last time and didn't tell her till way after i should of. which is why im making sure i do it asap this time. im excited. to be honest i hadnt really planned on kids, ever, but the idea was growing on me before i knew i was pregnant after being around my boyfriend and his daughter and now im looking forward to it. just scared, nervous. ↑ |
| Name: zoeee | Date: Oct 31st, 2006 1:08 AM |
| just thought i'd update this because i havent been on in awhile..and theres a few other post asking if i told her yet.. i did:) and it all went well. ↑ |
| Name: A Mom To Be | Date: Oct 31st, 2006 4:16 AM |
zoeee when are you due?
I am glad to hear that your Mum took it well. ↑ |
| Name: zoeee | Date: Oct 31st, 2006 6:14 AM |
my ultrasound last week said april 16th- which would be nice; thats my birthday lol.
but that means I am only 16 weeks, and I have been getting kicks for a good 2-3 weeks now.
I said that to the doctor and he said its based on size and might be a week or 2 off.. ↑ |
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