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hi, i found out that i am pregnant on friday. i am 15 and single. i am 6 weeks 1 day pregnant and due october 5th. i am not sure that i am ready to be a mum. i never wanted kids and to be i dont think i want this baby. when i took the test i thought yh i will keep it, why not it is a cute little baby to play with, cuddle, and it will be cute. but a baby is not a toy is it ? i mean i locve the baby and only want the best forit. but i have no money no boyfriend i am not excactly the best role model fgor a child am i knocked up at the age of 15. all i have to offer this baby is love and all though that is important its not enough is it ? i told my mum about this amnd she wants me to keep it. am so confused i ont know what to do. my heart is telling me to keep it but my head is telling me to put it up for adoption please i really need some support love, rosie ↓
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| Name: BrookeW | Date: Feb 11th, 2007 2:33 PM |
| Rosie, I think you are being extremely mature and responsible for trying to think of all your options. How does your mom feel about the whole situation? There are a lot of things that you need to think about though when it comes to having a child. ↑ |
| Name: Rosie_Waldron_91 | Date: Feb 11th, 2007 2:38 PM |
| thanks BookeW my mum is angry about it but she is trying to be as supportive as possible. i tried telling her that i was thinking abut adoption but she didnt listen she wants me to keep the baby. ↑ |
| Name: Rosie_Waldron_91 | Date: Feb 11th, 2007 2:39 PM |
| Sorry i spelt your screen name wrong *BrookeW ↑ |
| Name: BrookeW | Date: Feb 11th, 2007 2:48 PM |
| She wants you to keep the baby? Does she plan on helping you? Financially and emotionally? Babies are cute and adorable, but they cost a lot of money, and need a lot of love and time. ↑ |
| Name: Rosie_Waldron_91 | Date: Feb 11th, 2007 4:26 PM |
| yes she does want me to keep the baby. she said that she will help out with money and everything. but i dont want to rely on her its not fair on her is it ? ↑ |
| Name: breemichelle | Date: Feb 11th, 2007 11:00 PM |
| I had a friend who got pregnant at 15 and she chose to give up the baby for adoption. It was really hard, but she made it through it and is now a great mommy to three beautiful girls. I really admire her for everything she went through, she went to school for as long as she could (she eventually had to finish the year at an alternative school that was able to work with the prenancy better) and then instead of staying at the alternative school or dropping out she came right back to school the next year. I can only imagine how hard it was for her to see all the people whispering behind her back about her getting pregnant at 15 and giving the baby up, but I think the way she did it, staying in school and coming back only made her a stronger person and helped stay strong after the pregnancy. It's tough but it can be done and if you know that your baby can have a better life than what you can provide than go for it. There are plenty of wonderful couples out there just waiting to be parents. ↑ |
| Name: babey_g_311 | Date: Feb 12th, 2007 5:34 AM |
| I think putting the baby up for adoption would be the best thing for it.....when I read your post I saw that you thought of the baby as being cute and cuddly and all that which yeah they are....but I have a newborn right now whos about a week old and Im lucky if I get 4 hours of sleep a night! not even joking! Don't get me wrong I love my baby to death but it is soooooo stressfull taking care of a baby, at 15 it would be alot more stressfull....unless your mom says she will take care of it money isn't everything....best of luck to you I hope it works out for you....and even though I suggested adoption the choice should be purely yours not your moms or anyone else's....just do what you feel is right ↑ |
| Name: Rosie_Waldron_91 | Date: Feb 12th, 2007 11:38 AM |
| well thanks for your replys they have made me think i am not entirely sure what iam going to do i am just going to leave it a while and see what i feel in a few months. randi i understand that you and all of the girls on here have been hurt by wild_thing and i understand that you find it hard to trust new people and sweet tommorow explainde to me that my name is rather similar to wild thing's but i am not wild thing. ↑ |
| Name: PiageM | Date: Feb 12th, 2007 5:21 PM |
| Very mature decision, Good luck with whatever you decide ↑ |
| Name: seatrout | Date: Feb 12th, 2007 9:58 PM |
Hi Rosie - Just wanted to offer you support - I was adopted as an infant and I'm greatful my mother (17) at the time, was kind enough not to abort me and to give me a better life - I think it's great!
You are right, if you keep your child, it will be a tough road and you will likely be very dependent on your mom/family for a while - and there are more ways now to stay involved in your biological child's life than there were when I was adopted. It is wonderful that you are looking at both sides with a clear head. ↑ |
| Name: chrissie6988 | Date: Feb 12th, 2007 10:12 PM |
hey rosie,
at th end of the day it dont matter what anybody tells you its ur choice. ppl can say a baby keeps them up all nite mine didnt but that not to say they dont my sisters is 3 and she is still sleeping in her mum and dads bed every nite and refuses to go down tell 1am.
i think you should speak to someone outside you friends and family that can tell you all ur choices. iagree that a baby is not cheap and is more then cute and cuddle which you have pointed out your self and all though your mum can offer you help she can never give back you own childhood.
i wish you all the luck in wot ur gonna do and remember its up to u and no one else. ↑ |
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