Okay. I know this is a little personal, but for anyone who knows my situation (as far as health) goes... you might understand where I'm coming from. I am scared to death to have sex with my husband. I am 6 weeks and 1 day along, and have a tumor. I've had some really bad pain and was at high risk for miscarriage at one point - but the doctor says that the tumor has shrunk and from what he saw on the ultrasound and hormone tests I'm out of the woods miscarriage wise. he's 99% percent sure I'll carry the baby to term just fine... but when the tumor was bigger he said absolutly NO SEX... and I was happy to oblige because I'd do anything to make sure the baby was okay. I was also having some pain, and had no interest anyhow.
But at the last visit I forgot to ask if the sex was okay again, and my husband and I have broken down twice now and done it. I didn't have any pain or bleeding afterwards, but I'm still terrified. Did anyone else feel like this? I know the "orgasm contractions" are so small the baby can't possibly be harmed by them, and I don't think the tumor has been bumped or jarred at all.... but I can't keep myself from thinking it could hurt something. If it was possible (or would help) I would sit on my couch for the next 34 weeks and not move a muscle to make sure the baby wasn't hurt at all - but I was told that wont make a difference. I don't know what to do to make myself not feel so guilty about even walking to the store, or picking up the garbage or simple things that I know aren't hurting anything. ↓
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| Name: connie | Date: Jul 19th, 2006 11:16 PM |
I think sex is fine, as long as you don't have any pain you should be able to have sex for a long time.
My husband is afraid and I keep telling him that I will let him know if I can't, but since I am soooo tired I have no engery yet.I am at 8 weeks and I am soo tired.
I would call your doc one more time and ask, but I am sure it's fine.
Good luck with everything1 ↑ |
| Name: nicole jones | Date: Jul 19th, 2006 11:38 PM |
| What about feeling guilty for taking out the garbage or doing anything physical at all? I just feel like I want to put myself in a bubble until the baby is born, because if I do miscarry I know I'll blame every little thing I did, and every time I exerted myself at all, no matter how little. ↑ |
| Name: connie | Date: Jul 19th, 2006 11:50 PM |
Well that's what we have husband/boyfriends and family for to help us out with household chores etc. I am still working out, but I am not working out hard because I don't want to strain myself either.
But I still take my dog for a walk twice a day. I am sure everything will be fine, try and not worry about those little things you have allot on your plate already.
Take care ↑ |
| Name: timmygirl | Date: Jul 20th, 2006 2:17 AM |
if you are considered a risky pregnancy you shouldn't do anything heavy... I would worry for your baby... and yeah I would call your doctor and ask again about the "sex" thing... you might be okay.
Connie, what kind of exercise do you do? aerobics? lift machines? I still lift machines because my OB said it's fine as long as I don't lift more than 35 pounds, and it should help to ease labor. ↑ |
| Name: nicole jones | Date: Jul 20th, 2006 2:24 AM |
| hehe... I like how you put sex in " " ... I guess maybe I should have picked a better word, huh? ↑ |
| Name: Petrona | Date: Jul 20th, 2006 3:48 PM |
| Nicole: If you're having a healthy, viable pregnancy there isn't much that's going to make that baby jerk free and cause a miscarriage. On the other hand if there are chromosomal deficiencies or something already wrong with the baby, nothing is going to make it stay in place and develop either. Most m/c aren't caused by anything we do; it's because there was something wrong at conception or during development that we had no control over. So don't worry about every little thing. You'll regret the worries when it's all over and chide yourself for creating more stress than you needed. I have painted, wallpapered, moved furniture, carried boxes and suitcases while pregnant and my baby was fine through it all. As for the sex, some of us can't get enough once we hit the fourth month. :-) ↑ |
| Name: mommyagain | Date: Jul 20th, 2006 4:08 PM |
| I can almost understand Nicole. Even though I dont have a tumor I still worry about having sex. I know it isnt suppose to hurt the baby but i still worry. the best thing i can tell you is to just make sure and tell him to "be easy!" That will probably help your worries a bit. ↑ |
| Name: connie | Date: Jul 20th, 2006 4:09 PM |
Timmygirl
for excersie I walk on the treadmill, lift small wieght and situps. Nothing to hard as long as I get my hearbeat up and a little sweat I feel good.
I also have a dog, so I walk her ever morning and evening. I am so afraid that I will gain too much and not be able to lose it I have been eating really healthy so far with no sweet craving so hopefully it will last.. ↑ |
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