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I know I probably sound a little petty, but I really don't know how I feel about my doctor. She is very nice and personable, but I don't agree with her ways. She is a general family practioner but has delivered lots of babies. Here are the things that I don't like though. First, at my last visit (I was 15 and half weeks) she asked if anything was going on pregnancy-wise and I told her happily that I felt the baby moving. She laughed and said it was way too early, even though I felt my first son at 16 weeks! She also told me not to work out my abs cause its useless when your pregnant (not true, I am a fitness professional and have done a lot of prenatal fitness study!) and she told me I should eat as much of whatever I want which I feel is irresponsible and terrible advice to give to a pregnant woman. Luckily I know better and will gain the recommended 25-35 pounds only. I like her as a person and she seems very accomodating, but I am wondering if with these three red flags in just two visits, if I should go with someone else....gosh I miss my other doctor, but we moved! The only problem is I really want to have a woman do all the checkup and delivery, I have issues with men doing the personal stuff, but there arent' any other women in my town, the closest is an hour away. I should probably just suck it up right? Anyone else with similar feelings? What did you do? ↓
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| Name: timmygirl | Date: Jul 9th, 2006 12:41 PM |
| Hi Livy, it sounds like your doctor is crazy. I would probably change a doctor if I had a choice, but like you said there aren't any other women in your town... that's up to you. I like a woman doctor also, which what I have now... she's an OB-gyn, I haven't delt with her regarding pregnancy though, I am about to see her soon... and we'll see how she tells me stuff. ↑ |
| Name: patricia | Date: Jul 9th, 2006 12:55 PM |
| I felt the exact way livy, i wanted a female doctor to deal with my pregnancy becos i thought that i would feel alot more comfortable with a woman. Well im 31 wks now and i havent seen my female doctor throughout the entire pregnancy because she is in so much demand! Instead ive been seeing another doctor in the same surgery, a male, and he has really been the best, i thought i wouldn't have liked it all but he has been so supportive and listens caringly to all my concerns. Ur doctor at the moment doesn't sound to be giving u the best advice and if i were in ur situation i would change, perhaps give a male doctor a go? u mayb suprised! Good luck anyways!! xxx ↑ |
| Name: Livy | Date: Jul 10th, 2006 4:00 AM |
| Thanks a lot, maybe I need to give another male doctor I chance. I just loved my doctor when I had my first baby, she was fantastic and it would be hard for anyone to compare. Thanks again for the support! ↑ |
| Name: ARMANISMOM | Date: Jul 10th, 2006 5:55 AM |
| I would bring my research to her on your next visit and address each issue with her like you are doing here. Anyone that tells you to eat whatever you want and as much as you want is crazy. What about preeclampsia and so on and so forth. If she doesnt appoligize and see it your way than I would tell her I'm changing docs.... ↑ |
| Name: ARMANISMOM | Date: Jul 10th, 2006 5:58 AM |
| I actually felt that way with baby # 1 and only wanted a female but she was on vacation the day I went into labor and a male doc was the one who saved my babys life (cord wrapped around neck 2x's and in 3 knots..... ↑ |
| Name: EthansMom0213 | Date: Jul 10th, 2006 3:22 PM |
For me I have always been more comfortable with a male doctor. When I started going to the OB I thought that I might have been more comfortable with a female but after I had an appointment with a male OB I found that I was alot more comfortable. I've actually change doctors with my second pregnancy because the OB that I was going to now has a female doctor and they require to see everyone because who ever is on call is the one who ends up delivering your baby.
If you are truely uncomfortable with some of the things that she has been telling you it really up to as to whether you want to stick it out a little longer or switch to another doctor. But being 15 1/2 weeks pregnant you should probably make the decision soon. I'm sorry but I had to laugh when you had said your doctor told you to eat as much of whatever you want. This is the sort of advice you'd get from someone who's not a doctor and who did just that during there pregnancy.
I have been feeling my baby at 9 weeks now. At first I thought that it was gas but then when I did have gas I was like no that was the baby. I'm not 13 weeks and definately know with out a doubt that I am feeling the baby move. I personally think that yes if this was your first pregnancy you may feel the baby move but may not think you are because your not sure as to what you suppose to be feeling. But by your second, third or fourth you know the difference between your baby moving or a bubble of some kind. ↑ |
| Name: zasamich | Date: Jul 11th, 2006 3:51 PM |
Switch!
You have the right to be comfortable with your doctor, AND to have a doctor whose philosophies are compatible with yours. My OB's practice has two female and one male doctor. I'm comfortable from both. And from what I've heard, when you hit labor, you don't care if your doctor is male, female or whatever. You're too busy to worry about it. :) ↑ |
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