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I feel so depressed, and have for the last couple of days. I feel so alone because my husband is in iraq and i have to do this pregnancy on my own. Yes i have the support of my family and friends but its just not the same as having your husband(or boyfriend) there for you. He's missed out on all the big stuff, like feeling the baby kick and finding out whether or not its aboy or girl and he's going to miss out on the birth and i am just having a hard time right now, we have bill galore and money is a struggle and now i dont have a car to run around in and i havent talked to him in 4 days and i need to discuss somehting with him..i think i am just feeling the weight of all this responsibility on me right now and i need something to lift but i cant even catch a break from my mom cause i'm not doing things the way She would...sorry just needed to say all of this and get it out of me.......... ↓
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| Name: mother2five | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:08 PM |
| awwww you poor thing I'm so sorry your going through this right now. I wish there was something that we could do to help you through this rough time for you. I can't even imagine what this must be like fro you. I admire you for your strength and courage. ↑ |
| Name: DaneseS | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:12 PM |
| just writing all that made it somewhat better...i just needed to release some of it ya know ↑ |
| Name: saphira02 | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:12 PM |
I know exactly how you feel girl. Mabe not to that extent but I feel for you. My husband may be here right now but he deploys in June right after our baby is born. Yeah I know he'll be here for that but he's goign to miss out on soo much more for 6 months.
Oh and mothers... Sounds like yours is alot like how my grandmother is. She thinks Im doing wrong stuff too and not to her liking. Your not alone though. Were in a financial wreak ourselves. So liek I said I feel for you. I don't have family where I am at either so I'll be all on my own myself. You have people here too that care. Just remember that. ↑ |
| Name: Double_K | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:13 PM |
| sorry hon. I HATE that ANYONE feels depressed--especially when they are about to bring another little person into the world! I can't really imagine what you are going through---I didn't have a boyfriend/hubby with my first---had to do it by myself---but it was because he didnt want to be there. I would think it would be even harder with your situation---he wants to be there, but can't. I guess you should feel lucky you do have him though---and you will ALL be together as soon as he is able. Sorry there is not more I can say or do!! I hope you "talking" about will help though. ↑ |
| Name: tubbybubble | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:14 PM |
| aww deneses, i'm sorry you feel that way, but i'm not going to sit here and say, i know how you feel, b/c i've never been in that situation before. i have the highest respect for men and women over in iraqu and their wife's at home to care for everything else. i find ya'll to be some of the strongest women out there...i mean your faced with so much in one day, it's unreal. but i hope you feel better!!! ↑ |
| Name: saphira02 | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:18 PM |
| No kidding to that. Our loved ones miss so much when they go on deployments like that. Im terrified to be on my own with a new baby. He dosen't want to leave but at least he'll be here for it. If I didnt have hom here I think I would flip. I do know that depending on the situation they can come home for stuff like that. Have you thought of mabey doing a red cross call?? I know when I was in the service I got one of those for when my grandfather was dying. He didnt raise me but the fact that I was so strung over it I got to go home. Mabey that could work to your advantage for this situation. Then at least he could be there with you. Mabey not at the exact moment but he could be there for a few days to hold your baby and help you out. ↑ |
| Name: dmt | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:21 PM |
Hi Danese,
I am so sorry that sounds tough. I can"t imagine being in your position. Just think It won't be long before you have a little angel. I don't know it might make you feel better to make a little scrap book of your pregnancy so you can share it with him when he gets home. Like maybe pictures of your tummy , ultrasound pictures and little things like cards and stuff from your ultrasound. Maybe that would make you think less about he is not here and make you think more about all the things you get to share when he comes home. Do you know when he will get to come home? If you ever need someone to talk to to you can email me at [email protected]
God Bless,
Michelle ↑ |
| Name: DaneseS | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:21 PM |
thanks everbody...it did help to write..theres more i think to write but i dont know how to write it and all that
and yeah my momis drving me nuts..everybody back home is mad cause i dont want to go there to give birth..its not that i dont love my family but i know the pressure there is there is soo much greater and if i am at my parents house i cant just hang up the phone..im there...i want them to be there and share in the baby's birth but i dont want them trying to tell me what i should and shoudnot do with my baby...my mom does that enough already over the phone and chil isnt even born yet..i want to pull out my hair....and she always goes oh well your husband is comtrolling you cause you dont want to come here..NO i dont want her controlling me..i could be home ifi really wanted..ugh...anywho thank you all for listening (reading w/e lol) ↑ |
| Name: briseis | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:23 PM |
| DaneseS. I feel for you. I really do! I won't pretend that I understand what you're going through, as my fiancé lives with me, and apart from the odd week away on business trips, he's been there. I think you're really strong to go through this on your own. I know it's not something your husband can help, so I don't know what I can say to make you feel better. I just hope that you will feel better soon; do things your own way, not your moms. I'm sure her heart is in the right place, but it's hard enough on you without the extra pressure. xxx ↑ |
| Name: DaneseS | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:24 PM |
| he's supposed to be home in august or september..i know its hard for himt o be away too he wants to be there...we discussed the the red cros message thing but he thinks they wont let him go home if he's just going to be home in august..they did talk about sending him home early but theyre arent going to anymore.. ↑ |
| Name: saphira02 | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:26 PM |
| Sounds like my family.... Well mabey not so much my mom and dad. They are thrilled to be grandparents even though they still have three in the nest..lol... Yeah my mother had 6 of us.. It'smore my grandmother and family back up in Michigan and Ohio that are making the pains. My grandmother more so that I don't raise my kid in a specific relgion, or do things that my parents did to us when I was a kid that wasn't bad.. Mabey to her.. but gah.. yeah I see where that comes from. I would love to have my family around me too for the babys; birth. my mother wants to be here but can't due to the fact they moved to florida and have all that being taken care of money wise. Now the one person who I am glade isnt goign to be there is my mother-in-law... *shudders* ↑ |
| Name: DaneseS | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:28 PM |
| my mother in law is here and its ok..shes wonderful and she realises that i want to do things my way....also she speaks very little english (my husband is puerto rican) so i can pretend i dont understand if things get too annoying lol ↑ |
| Name: saphira02 | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:30 PM |
| Try the Red cross message. I mean it can't hurt and if it's just you there and no family it makes it a bit more proiroty to get him back to help you. You never know what could happen. Yes I know all about the stupid military crap. Where goign threw that now and he's here... He has to put in baby leave and it just so happens that when I am due they have a change of command and say noone is getting leave for anything.. yeah uh.. I know for a fact that my hubby isnt a priorty for this thing.. Stupid Admrial lower half I think thats comming in... lol... But seriously what could it hurt to try?? I mean it may not be that he would be there as you give birth depending on your labor and when the messege got out.. but they could always send him for a couple weeks and then have him go back. That's what I think would happen. I heard of a friend goign threw that when Iwas out in the navy and that's what ended up happening. ↑ |
| Name: Randi | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:31 PM |
I do that too Danese and my MIL speaks english lol
Randi hearts you [3 ↑ |
| Name: mother2five | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:31 PM |
| i THINK THATS A GREAT IDEA DMT ↑ |
| Name: Randi | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:32 PM |
| No, she will not give you her baby dmt. ↑ |
| Name: DaneseS | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:33 PM |
| hmm maybe..do you know how to go about sending a red cross message? and would i have to send it when the baby is born or around when she is due...i dont know anything about this..i am military myself...he and i are both marines lol ↑ |
| Name: DaneseS | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:34 PM |
| randi you make me laugh!! ↑ |
| Name: mother2five | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:35 PM |
| Name: DaneseS | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:35 PM |
| wow..your mother in law sounds special ↑ |
| Name: Randi | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:36 PM |
| Kaden is great. Playing in his excersaucer beside me. How about you and your litter? ↑ |
| Name: saphira02 | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:37 PM |
OOOO I could go on about marine jokes but I'll be nice...lol...
As for a red cross messege I believe you literly call the red cross and they send a messege. You give them the info for his unit and where he's at.. all that good stuff. ↑ |
| Name: mother2five | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:37 PM |
| lol, emilee is right here sleeping and the other 2 that are home are building w/ legos at the moment. ↑ |
| Name: saphira02 | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:37 PM |
| My mother-in-law is mentel... what can I say...lol ↑ |
| Name: DaneseS | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:39 PM |
oh i like marine jokes...i can laugh at myself lol...and i can throw some navy jokes your way too lmao..hmm...by the way..i hate corpmen...atleast the ones at bootcamp lol.....
i love legos..lol ↑ |
| Name: saphira02 | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:39 PM |
Here you go:
American Red Cross communication services keep military personnel in touch with their families following the death or serious illness of a family member or other important events, such as the birth of a child. The Red Cross quickly sends these communications on behalf of the family to members of the U.S. Armed Forces serving anywhere in the world, including ships at sea, embassies and isolated military units. The information or verification in a message assists the service member's commanding officer with making a decision regarding emergency leave.
How to Contact the Red Cross to Send an Emergency Message
Active duty service members stationed in the United States and their immediate family members may call the Red Cross Armed Forces Emergency Service Centers for help 7 days a week, 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. The toll-free telephone number is available through base or installation operators and from local on-base Red Cross offices
When calling the Red Cross to send an emergency message to a family member, it is helpful to have the following information:
Service member’s:
Full Name
Rank/Rating
Branch of Service
Social Security Number
Military Address
Information about the deployed unit and the home base unit (for deployed service members only) ↑ |
| Name: Randi | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:40 PM |
I forgot to take Kaden to swimming lessons yesterday :|
I went shopping and then came home and played. I was so bored. We are having a giant snow storm :( ↑ |
| Name: DaneseS | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:41 PM |
| Name: DaneseS | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:43 PM |
| do you have swim lessons everyday or just like once a week? i would love to do that with gabrielle when she gets here...well when shes old enough lol ↑ |
| Name: saphira02 | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:43 PM |
| no problem.. that's what were here for!! ↑ |
| Name: Randi | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:43 PM |
| Every tuesday and thursday. I am going to miss next weeks b/c I am taking him home with me for a week (YAY) ↑ |
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