Hey everyone, congrats on your forthcoming bundles of joy! I would like to say that I am the mother of a 14 year old who is pregnant and due in March. She didn't get pregnant by following the rules her father and I set for her, but none the less she is.
I knew in my heart she was pregnant before she even missed her period, and confirmed it with the doctor by the time her period was due. I just want to say a couple things. YES, I was disappointed that she is pregnant so young, BUT what's done is done. I am NOT ASHAMED of her. Her father and I will do all we can to help her, as will her grandparents. I see ALOT of postings on here by young teens...I urge them to talk to thier parents, grandparents...someone in the family they feel they can trust. It is not the end of the world and with family love and support you young ladies can handle this. It won't be easy, but the joy your child will bring you will far outweigh the bad times.
Joy to all!! ↓
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| Name: Kristy84 | Date: Jul 25th, 2006 7:33 PM |
| I really respect the fact that you support your daughter through anything. I'm 22 and I felt so ashamed when I had to break it to my family, even though I've been living with the father for 4 1/2 years. It worries me though b/c I dont' know if I could be that supportive of my daughter-to-be. Before I got pregnant, I always said that if my child were to become pregnant at a young age I would definitely encourage her not to keep it, either abortion or adoption. I totally admire you for your unconditional love of your daughter. I guess that's something that I've never felt before, and never will until I hold her in my arms for the first time. I hope your post encourages the other young girls whoa re facing the same thing as your daughter to speak up to their families so they don't have to feel so isolated. ↑ |
| Name: EthansMom0213 | Date: Jul 25th, 2006 7:52 PM |
I am so happy to see a post like this. I think it great that you are supporting you daughter in this time. I wasn't a teen mother, but I know just having my mother their to talk to and be supportive through out my pregnancy was really helpful. I don't think that I would have handled it as well as I did without her support. I hope that this post helps other teen who are pregnant find courage in themselve to talk to their moms.
Kristy84-
I think you actually might feel differently if you were actually in a position where you your child was about to be a parent. It easy for alot of to say that this is what we would do in a situation like this, but when actually confronted with that actually situation, you may actually be shocked that you actually don't feel they way you thought you did.
I am pro-life 100% for myself and will be for my children as well. No matter if they are 12 or 25. I know I would be disappointment if my teen daughter or son would come to me to let me know that they are going to be parents, but being pro-choice I would look at it as what is done is done, now we need to deal with the reality of the whole thing. I feel if I told either one to go out an get an abortion that I would have turned my back on them and I simply could not do that. ↑ |
| Name: Kristy84 | Date: Jul 25th, 2006 7:56 PM |
| Oh I agree Ethan's mom. I don't know what I'd do, I'm just saying that a person like granny2be makes me feel quite inferior. I'm pro-choice, but I know that I'd give my daughter the option of keeping the baby. Like you said, I wouldn't want to turn my back on my child. I just hope that I can be a supportive nurturing mother while allowing my daughter to make her won decisions, icluding her own mistakes. ↑ |
| Name: granny2be | Date: Jul 25th, 2006 8:05 PM |
Kristy84,
I'm sure you will do fine. I hoped I would never find myself in this position...no parent wants to, but like EthansMom said, you never know how you'll feel until it slaps you in the face. I think you would handle it fine if you ever have to deal with it, just the fact that you are honest about your own doubts says a lot about you. ↑ |
| Name: Ashlie | Date: Jul 25th, 2006 8:33 PM |
| granny2be I think your wonderful, most parents wouldnt be so understanding! I think your great and what your doing for your daughter is absolutely wonderful. ↑ |
| Name: mommyagain | Date: Jul 25th, 2006 8:36 PM |
| That is so remarkable of you Granny2be. Your daughter should be very proud to have a mother as understanding and nurturing as you. ALSO LET THIS BE SAID... REMEMBER WE ARE OUR MOTHERS IN A WAY... YOUR DAUGHTER WILL LEARN FROM YOUR GENEROUS EXAMPLE WHICH IN TURN WILL MAKE HER A GOOD MOTHER AS WELL. Good job on a job well done raising your daughter. ↑ |
| Name: Angela1 | Date: Jul 25th, 2006 9:26 PM |
| Well said granny2be! Whats done is done! All you can do now is love her and teach her how to be a good mommy. and as soon as she has the baby make sure she is on birthcontrol. Take her to get a shot. i dont know what your situation before was. But a lot of parents dont even know there kids are sexually active. So from here. You get to welcome that sweet baby into the world! congrats on being a grandma! ↑ |
| Name: nicole jones | Date: Jul 26th, 2006 1:18 AM |
| That is wonderful granny2be. My father was very supportive when I got married, and supportive when I decided to get pregnant, and in everything else I've done. He doesn't necessarily agree (I got married very very young) but like he always says "What good would it do to be anything but supportive?". It would only make everything worse. My mother on the other hand has had to voice her oppinion anywhere she can, and it's made it so that there's a chance she may never meet her grandchildren (by her choice). It's wonderful that you see it logically, also, and didn't do that to your daughter. ↑ |
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