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when i have this baby i cant cope what if i hate it because of what its dad did to me. the nurse at the hospital said something about keeping the baby as a way of healing myself is that what i am doing using this baby to cover up the pain of the rape wjhat if i am bad mother what if mum and dad were right when they said getting rid of this baby was for the best i am mess after everything that has happened lately the rape losing one of the babies it really isnt fair to keep a baby to make me feel better is it ? ↓
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| Name: Mom2Be2007 | Date: Jan 3rd, 2007 6:18 PM |
| Alone are you in any sort of counseling? ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Jan 3rd, 2007 6:19 PM |
| honestly, we all have those what if's .. i wasnt raped and i def think about alot of those things, you're not alone. and i dont think you're keeping the baby b.c of what happened.. but maybe b.c you know its still a blessing from god, for some reason, that rape you got pregnant and you're gonna have yourself a little angel. do what you feel is right in your heart, no one can tell you why you're keeping the baby, why you didnt abort, only you can. i honestly think you'll be fine, you'll overcome everything and have a beautiful child in the end. :) ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Jan 3rd, 2007 6:21 PM |
| and counseling isnt a bad idea, it doesnt make you a bad person, neither does being on anti depressants after the baby is born, hell i know there are some you can take during pregnancy. i plan on going through counseling, i was actually hoping to start soon. ↑ |
| Name: Alone | Date: Jan 3rd, 2007 6:50 PM |
| no i am not in counselling i was offered it when i reported the rape but i refused to have it maybe i will go and see my doctr and see what he says ↑ |
| Name: Mom2Be2007 | Date: Jan 3rd, 2007 6:51 PM |
| Yes everyone has their anxieties about being a parent. I went through it with my son and I am currantly doing it now. I keep wondering if I am going to be a good mother now that I will have to children to take care of. I fear that I will not be able to provide for my son as well as I have been able to before the new baby. I fear that all the promises I have made him about having mommy and daddy time I will not be able to keep.. And regardless of how this baby was concieved this little girl is still a blessing in it's own way. I would definately recommend counseling of some kind. And maybe talk to you doctor about an antidepressant/antianxiety medication to help with your anxiety. ↑ |
| Name: daisyusa | Date: Jan 3rd, 2007 7:05 PM |
I think it's great that you're reaching out. You're stronger than you give yourself credit for. Look where you are right now. I'm not sure how far along you are, but you are still carrying your baby. You're showing your strength and love just by getting to this point. I don't know if this really makes sense, but not all babies are conceived out of love and by that I mean my first baby. I knew his father for about a year, I knew I didn't love him but we just had sex that resulted in me getting pregnant. So even though this baby wasn't conceived out of love, my love for my baby was and is stronger than I ever imagined. Now I know that your situation is completely diferent, but the end result is the same.
Don't let people put words in your mouth or pressure you to do things. I'm Christian and don't believe in abortion even if it's by rape. There is a reason for this baby, just as there was a reason I lost my baby. The pain is horrible and even though this happened in August, I still cry. I am blessed with 2 beautiful children and perhaps they are the only 2 I will be blessed with. Ask yourself....what if this is the only child I will ever be blessed with? I know it's not easy to get passed what happened to you, but the first time you lay your eyes on your baby, you'll never stop smiling. That man is no longer a part of your life and it's down to you to keep him out...and that includes the pain of what he did. You have to remember that this baby is part of you as well, you're the one loving this baby and you're the one who's going to raise your baby. When you look at it that way, it's all you, all he did was donate the sperm.
Like I said, it's down to you. You can stand up, hold your head high, and just love yourself and your baby. Please know that I speak from experience. I live my life as an ordinary person and what happened is in my past and will always stay there. I made a vow to not become a statistic and I have kept that vow which I made 15 years ago. Be strong, if I can do it, you can. God bless sweetie, my heart is with you. ↑ |
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