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I'm 13 weeks preg. ironic, since it was on the week of friday 13th. i cant wrap my head around this whole parenting thing. I'm definitely going to keep my baby. but it's almost like at 9 months everythings just going to go away, and my life will be back to normal again... like, the thought of a kid, much less mine, doesent even register in there. has anyone else felt like this? should I feel bad for feeling like I'm not a mom? ↓
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| Name: emilymccoy | Date: Oct 15th, 2006 10:00 PM |
| No, don't be too hard on yourself. I'm 28 weeks pregnant with a very planned child, and I still don't feel like I'm going to be a "Mommy." Maybe once you get farther along and start feeling movement and are able to bond with your child, you'll at least realize that things are going to be different in your life. As far as feeling like a parent, though, I doubt that sets in for most first time mothers until the baby comes home. At least, that's what I've been told, and how I tend to view it. ↑ |
| Name: tylersmom06 | Date: Oct 15th, 2006 10:03 PM |
| First of all don't feel bad! Finding out you are going to be a mother for the first time is ALOT to take in! But in answer to your question No your life will never be back to "normal"! Normal will eventually have a different meaning. Once that baby is here you will not even remember what life was like without him or how you lived without him! It's amazing. Dont get me wrong things can get trying and mommies need a break every now and then BUT nothing compares to that angel you are carrying! ↑ |
| Name: l3itchyl3unny | Date: Oct 15th, 2006 10:25 PM |
| Ya its very normal, my pregnancy wasnt planned and the father has nothing to do with me or this baby, but i have alot of friends who's pregnancy are planned with lots of support..and they ALL felt the same. Its worse as your hormones kick in and you doubt yourself and decisions you made. But really once you feel him/her kicking inside you, or the lil heart beat on the ultrasound..it does settle you down. I'm 29 weeks..and everyone keeps telling me once you see there little face all doubt and fears wash away. :) ↑ |
| Name: Kristy84 | Date: Oct 15th, 2006 10:48 PM |
| I found out I was pg when I was 21...I'm now 22 and 31 weeks along. The pregnancy was completely unplanned, but that's what you get for not being careful:) I didn't want to keep the baby, but I had been w/ my fiance for 5 years and we decided that we could do this. I didn't start to actuially feel happy about the pregnancy until I was like 5 1/2 mths. along. And although I feel her all the time and have seen her face via a 3/d u/s it still doesn';t feel real. I can't even imaginemyself in labor, but I'm startiung to get used to the idea of being a mom. This site has helped me out alot and I hope it does for you as well. ↑ |
| Name: daisyusa | Date: Oct 15th, 2006 11:14 PM |
| Your life will never be "normal" again...but you will love all the ups and downs. Count on smiling at least a million times a day and equally wanting to pull your hair out. None of us moms are moms over night and these same feelings come back for each child. It just kicks in and you learn as you go. Trust me when I say, you are a already a mom, you are nurturing your baby so he/she can grow inside your womb, ready to meet his mommy on the big day. God bless! ↑ |
| Name: Lizzi | Date: Oct 15th, 2006 11:33 PM |
| Don't worry as time goes on you will get more attached to the baby growing inside you! And once you see that babies beautiful face you will know being his or her mommy is exactly where you want to be! ↑ |
| Name: tonysmomma | Date: Oct 16th, 2006 12:04 AM |
| Don't worry it will all come with time. i felt the same way with my son I was 19. He is now almost 4 and being a mother is the most rewarding thing in the world. I wouldn't trade it for the world when my little boy calls me beautiful. It's worth giving up being young. ↑ |
| Name: Thismakes2 | Date: Oct 16th, 2006 12:51 AM |
| I felt the same way with my first. I was 21 and had her just before I turned 22. I was soooo scared. To be honest, I needed a lot of help to get by the first few months and my fiance helped a lot. I was never really around babies and she was so small it scared me, now I melt everytime she says "Mommy". This time around I am really excited because I know that I can do it. :) ↑ |
| Name: dojia | Date: Oct 16th, 2006 4:41 AM |
| how can you bond if its inside of your stomach? ↑ |
| Name: babybug | Date: Oct 16th, 2006 4:53 AM |
| Name: jillw | Date: Oct 16th, 2006 1:52 PM |
| dojia- being a mom is the hardest and most wonderful thing you will ever do. I know that you are still young and maybe feel like you are not ready, but it will come to you. When i was pregnant with my son I was only 17 and scared to death. The this is I could picture him getting older, but I couldn't picture my self any older so it just felt very scary. Things just happen day by day and what now seems so abnormal and scary becomes routine. When you think about it life is really just a big routine and if you make adjustments here and there you will adapt and it won't seem so bad. I did have a hard time with the whole bonding in the bely thing too because it just didn't seem real and I wasn't happy about it. even after he was born I still didn't feel that motherly love right away, but about 24 hrs later as I was feeding him I just broke down into tears because I realized how much I loved him. Don't be to hard on your self it will come to you. Good luck ↑ |
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