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Name: Sara05

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Im not a parent , Im a teen.I need someones advice, I need support...Im hurting so much deep inside. For the last two years the relationship has been long distance. Ive neveer been tempted. Never looked at anyone . I had all I wanted. We had our ups and downs but we always pulled through. I have gone to the extreme by cheating ...and I dont know why ...i cant answer why ? I went out and got really drunk ,first time i must add, and a friend of a friend kissed me . I had met him few hours b4 going out . Therre was slight attraction .A few days later that person asked to come to see me and hang out and I said yes. He kissed me and I kissed back . He tried going further but i said no. But he tried again later and I dont know y but I went through with it although i knew it was wrong. I felt nothing . I have told my bf and ive hurt him so much but i want things to work again . and he says he'lll try but why why did i do it when i knew it was wrong ? why why why ? ↓

Name: Andckids | Date: Mar 2nd, 2010 4:30 AM

First of all as a teen you do not need to be in a long term relationship. Your teen years are all about playing the fieild, learning while dating differnet people what you like and what you don't like, as far as having sex with the boy please tell me you are using birth control. The last thing you need is a baby by someone you don't even like it sounds like. You were lonely stop beating yourself up. Focus on school and quit worrying about the boys for a while it will fix itself. When you are ready the right long term relationship will come. In the mean time, apologize to bf, and cut your losses and don't see sex boy again either. You need to lose the losers and gain some self respect. ↑

Name: passiton10X10.com | Date: Mar 2nd, 2010 5:04 AM

It is very brave of you to get on a site like this and ask for help and answers. I know from experience that when you get adult advice it doesn't always make since. You are a teenager you have a whole different vocab but think about this. You are curious, you want to be liked, you want to be accepted by others, and it is very easy to be pressured into something. You teens today face a lot of pressures your previous generations did not. We are always going to need strong people in this world. It is teens like you that need to step up. Don't do things just to make other people happy. Think about what you want people to know about you because when you are a teen everyone talks and gossips. You are smart enough to know what you did was not good for you. You were smart enough to ask for advice and answers. Be even smarter and think about what you want from this life and just work towards getting it. When you get older there is not going to be a lot of time to do that. You will have a lot of responsibilities later in life. Focus on you now. This is your time for you. Think about what you want. Think about who you want to be. and what makes you happy. You will be in this situation again (sex is everywhere) so start thinking now how you will handle it differently. You said you felt nothing. Trust me ...it will feel like that every time unless it is something or someone you really really want to be with. I know it is a horrible feeling. Learn from it so you don't repeat ↑