Yes that was against your better judgement but you did the RIGHT thing in only letting him stay 2 1/2 hours! Although I'm sure if you could repeat the situation he would NOT have even been given that little luxury am I right?
I also have a teen son,(15), and I don't let him just go wherever either. Teens have to realize that they are NOT adults YET and that as long as WE are responsible for them then THEY WILL do as they are told no matter if they think it's fair or not! My son is under the impression that when he gets his drivers license he will just be able to hop in the car and go "wherever", I'm like,HA!!! I DON"T THINK SO!!!!!!! The teen years are difficult for both the teens AND the parents. If we say NO then we are "the bad guys" but someday they will see WHY we said NO. It may not be until they have their OWN kids one day and are having to tell them NO but someday they will understand and realize we weren't such "bad" parents afterall! You're a good parent,keep up the good work! I know it gets rough sometimes but us parents HAVE to stick together and raise our teens up right!!!!! Lol ↑ |
Lizzi,
You are right, if I had to do over I wouldn't let him stay at all. It's good to get confirmation that I am not an overprotective parent. It also worries me that none of the other kids parents checked out the situation.
As far as you son and driving - my oldest son drives and we had him sign a contract (I cut and pasted from several on the internet) of what he can and can't do. For example no passengers and no radio for the first 2 months, permission for every trip and must go straight to the destination and back again. It's worked out great - he knew months in advance of getting his license just what our expectations were.
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| Hi again bravebusch! I know what you're saying about how some parents don't check things out and just let their kids go! Kids can get into trouble so easily,ESPECIALLY teens!!!! And our kids can be persuaded into doing things so easily too it's scary really. I think some parents just find it easier to let their kids do whatever to avoid arguments but that's NOT the way to go. I'd much rather have it out with my son than let him tear off into the unknown! Sure he gets mad at me sometimes but that's o.k,he'll get over it,and I think deep down he KNOWS why I say NO,and it's not to punish him! Lol I've been really lucky so far,my sons been in very minimal trouble over the years.Parents don't realize that THEY can be the ones in serious trouble should their teens screw up badly enough! We are responsible for our kids at least until they're 18,maybe even later I'm not real sure.In my case I'm glad I chose to only have one!!! And so far I can pat myself on the back I think! LOL ↑ |
| i know that it can be scary but how well do you know your son? he sounds an honest, kid, i mean how many kids especially boys tell you there going to hang out in a hot tub? i say give him an inch if he takes a mile you know what to do. good luck, you know the saying give them enough rope and they'll jang themselves. ↑ |
