| Name: michelle | Date: Jul 3rd, 2006 2:52 AM |
| my bad i mean i couldnt talk to me friends cuz i didnt have any..... ↑ |
| Name: michelle | Date: Jul 3rd, 2006 2:54 AM |
| GOD LOL...so dont go and have her friends talk to her cuz she might not have any......IM VERY SORRY FOR HAVING TO POST 3 TIMES ↑ |
| Name: Tiara Mann | Date: Jul 3rd, 2006 10:22 PM |
hi my name is tiara
i have rescently gone through something similar. you see i was in love and he broke my heart. I shut out the world because i thought it was my fault. I felt unloved. However i got over it on my own. you have to give your daughter space but at the same time let her know that you love her. Let her know that even if life is going wrong you willl always remain by her side. But first see that this so called depression thing is real not a effect on the hard life that teens have. Talk to her and whatever she tells you(if she even speaks)don't judge her just listen and remember back to when you were young. If this doesn't work you should seek real help. Someone who knows how to help these things, ↑ |
| Name: LetMeDownAgain | Date: Jul 4th, 2006 4:31 AM |
| im a teen just like ur daugher i feel the same way its cool that u care enough 2 see whats wrong my parents couldnt care less talking 2 her might help or might not life sucks ↑ |
| Name: TonyandKenny | Date: Jul 4th, 2006 5:06 AM |
| Oh wow..im 17..been there done that..it coulda been a guy?..well here ya go..find her some help..she may not like u for it..but she'll thank you later on down the road..if not that..try talkin to her but dont push it..Let her know u can understand..my advice keep her from knives and razors..thats never good..if u see cuts on her arms i suggest give her a rubber band make her put it on her wrists and whens shes stressed or just feels like cuttin or something make her snapp it..this could just be something a teen girl and guy goes through..i went through it my sister went through and so have my friends..good luck ↑ |
| Name: Kristen | Date: Jul 5th, 2006 8:33 PM |
| im ruining my life i need help fixing it im only 13 years old and i dont know what to do help me fix it please ↑ |
| Name: Simba | Date: Jul 6th, 2006 9:06 PM |
| i am a depressed teen. i'm 15, and i can totally empathise with your daugher. don't have the doctor prescribe medication. it may make her feel worse. what is she depressed about? is it still happening? i'm depressed because of my homelife. she won't become suicidal as long as she knows you're there for her, to listen when she wants to talk. don't just listen; hear what she says. that's the most frustrating thing, when parents pretend that they are listening, and understanding when they don't. and don't ask her for answers neither. this stage might pass. i'm not suicidal, but i mark my arms with plastics rulers, pen lids, anything handy. the pain feels like a release, even only temporary, and you have to understand this. listen to her, hear her, but most of all, love her. and make sure she knows you do love her. hope that helps ↑ |
| Name: Simba | Date: Jul 6th, 2006 9:20 PM |
| as an after thought, you could try and get your daughter to go into school, even just for half a day, to talk to her favourite teacher, or someone she trusts. speaking to someone is sometimes enough. the main question your daughter probably has is, 'can i trust you enough to stick by me, even when i act like this?' that's what she wants to know, and she'll only open up if she knows she can trust you to be there by her side, the whole way there. i have been speaking to one of my teachers, and although she thinks she hasnt done anything to help, she has helped more than i ever expected. i'm still deeply depressed, but it goes to show that just talking to someone you trust and like, can help. she's pulled me back from the edge a few times now, just by showing she cares, and wants me to chat to her. it can help more than you know. try to get one of her teachers to come out to your house to talk to her. but don't get social services or counsillors involved until. they are so goddam patronising. good luck. my thoughts are with you and your daughter, and anyone else who is going through depression. it's more severe than what people think. x ↑ |
| Name: Simba | Date: Jul 6th, 2006 9:34 PM |
| Maybe she's sleeping more, because she doesn't get to sleep at night? i listen to my iPod until 3 or 4 in the morning, because i have nightmares. so i don't want to sleep. but after she does fall asleep, she can't wake up. i want the nights to end, but maybe she just wants a constant existence, either awake or asleep. the day and night inevitably have to come at some point, and maybe she's trying to put it off, by sleeping longer? ↑ |
| Name: Simba | Date: Jul 6th, 2006 9:41 PM |
| I just want to say (you must be getting sick of me now lol) that GRANT is right. being the age i am, i also feel older than i am. ive been forced to grow up far faster than normal. and some of the posts are very childish, and you should disregard them. amazingly enough, this forum is for a mother trying to get help for her daughter, not for other people to take a lend, and try to get sympathy. its ridiculous. grow up guys. if you really are, or have gone though depression, then you will know that you don't feel like a kid. you feel like the world is on your shoulders, and you have to deal with it. a lot of these posts are just attention grabbing, and you guys need to see that this woman needs help with her daughter, not post upon post of people wanting help for themselves. grow up ↑ |
| Name: sum 1s mum | Date: Jul 6th, 2006 10:03 PM |
| well i no how u feel becuse my daughter is getting bullied and all i did was talk 2 the head teacher and he spoke 2 my daughter soo she became happy ↑ |
| Name: anela | Date: Jul 7th, 2006 2:48 AM |
| well think about it she need to go get some help now if i was like that i would go get help but if she dont leave her room or anyrhing like thtat you need to talk to her ourself if that dont work ask her friens or she can go to the counsler ↑ |
| Name: lucy | Date: Jul 7th, 2006 9:09 AM |
| erm i was once like that when i was about 14, now that i am 16 i have sine sence of the matter however the thing is to chill take an intresst in the music your daughter is listning to, have a word with the school to see if any bulling is going on if so you might want to consider her moving schools, alot of teenaged girls are like this and do want to commit sicide but if they feel the support of a loving (not to over the top) mother they may calm down. thats all i can say try it and aBELIVE IT WILL WORK ! ↑ |
| Name: Need Help? | Date: Jul 13th, 2006 2:53 AM |
There is a trained psychologist I know that helps people with their problems for free over the net.
[email protected] ↑ |
| Name: Randi | Date: Jul 13th, 2006 3:24 AM |
| I know how your daughter feels... at one point I was like that. Don't pressure her to talk about it unless she wants to because pressuring her will only make it worse. Don't theaten to send her to counsling because that doesn't make it better, if she wants to go then let her and tell her you'll support her all the way and that you'll always love and care for her. And if she is cutting or has before don't yell at her if she tells you because that's what my mom did to me and all it does is make you want to do it again. All you can really do is be there for her and help her when she needs it. ↑ |
| Name: SweetNightmer | Date: Jul 14th, 2006 1:04 AM |
| hey mom23, from what ou said your kik sounds fine, im 16 and i whent through a stage like this were you think the worlds against you, just try and be poswasive do things u know she likes doing, but dond be clingy dont give her hugs all the time and tel her how much you love her, shes lerning how to stand up for herself and trying to find a place in life, try teling her about the fun things you did in your child hood and tel her that when shes older she can look bac and laff at things like that if u need any mor helf u can drop me an e-mail at [email protected] x ↑ |
| Name: Just_Me | Date: Jul 16th, 2006 8:31 AM |
| Im not a mother or anything but i used to be exactly like your daughter. Try getting her into writing poems and songs and stoires. They help to release stress. Still let her listen to the music, shed hate you for taking it away. She should eat though, thats unhealthy. Try taking the family out for dinner sometimes/ now school is a big problem. since she seems very isolated try home schooling. if that doesnt work sit down with her and talk to her about school. I may be only thirteen but i used to be like that. Im recovering from cellophone and it is preventable. I feel bad becasue iknow i put my mom through this. ↑ |
| Name: megan_gruber | Date: Jul 16th, 2006 5:06 PM |
| Im only 14 but I have been through what ur daughter is going through right now whether she admits it or not she jus wants someone to listen to her and how she feels about whatever is makin her this way. She needs attention and if U dont ive her any attention then she will just turn away and might look towards killing herself. Make sure u tell her u love u ALL the time so she know at least one perosn cares about her even if their is more ↑ |
| Name: bob | Date: Jul 21st, 2006 6:10 PM |
| Name: rain | Date: Jul 21st, 2006 9:00 PM |
Hey Bob,
How old are you hun? And who is picking on you? ↑ |
| Name: twostepsback | Date: Jul 24th, 2006 2:35 PM |
This could be normal.
But if it doesn't work, concider talking to her about medication [anti depressions] for her benefit.
She might just need someone to talk to. ↑ |
| Name: mandy | Date: Jul 24th, 2006 7:17 PM |
| i just got out of a bad breakup but i feel like i should be over it by now its been so long i`ve always been depressed and i used to be suscidle when i was yunger and now i feel like i want to die but im not going to kill myslef i just feel so sad and it wont stop,i think i need help and i dont want tell my friends or family because i dont want them to think im over reacting they were never understanding when i wanted to die ↑ |
| Name: rain | Date: Jul 24th, 2006 7:51 PM |
Hun,
You should see your physician. It sounds like you have had long term depression, and may need anti-depressants to help you out of the dark. ↑ |
| Name: mchael | Date: Jul 25th, 2006 2:16 AM |
| h m really depressed downt kno what to do ↑ |
| Name: Cindi | Date: Jul 26th, 2006 9:41 AM |
| You should get her into counsuling it sounds like she has depression, my daughter actually became suicidle but i got her into counsuling and it helped her alot. ↑ |
| Name: mom_2_three | Date: Jul 26th, 2006 10:10 AM |
| Thank you all very much.I have tryed a lot and my Daugther is now on Lovan 20 she takes 1 1/2 tabs and thank you all again [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: xxdarkfairyxx | Date: Jul 27th, 2006 3:05 PM |
| well since im a teenager myself i would say talk to her maybe she is hiding something from you i had a bad stage not long ago due to a horrible event and i closed myself from others i think you should do that she may not want to talk straight away but show her that you are willing to listen she may have some problems i hope everything goes ok x ↑ |
| Name: suzanne | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 1:18 PM |
you can talk to her about her problems or at least try to.
your going to have to accept your child is trying to become emo. ↑ |
| Name: ralton5 | Date: Aug 3rd, 2006 10:30 AM |
| hey i am very depressd i want to know what i do ↑ |
| Name: molotov.cocktail | Date: Sep 1st, 2006 9:53 PM |
Look, you have to let her know that you really actually care about her, you just have to go into her room and tell her that and don't go out no matter how much she screams at you or tells you she hates you because she just really really needs to know that somebody cares about her. You just have to try extra extra hard to let her know it because it's probably something she doesn't even dare believe is true right about now. If there's something traumatic that's happened to her previously she's not gonna wanna talk about it or be reminded about it but you have to remind her- just do it in spades, get it out gently. There may be something that happened just recently that built up her depression, but that won't be it- she's probably remembering just about every bad thing that ever happened to her and it's all blowing up inside her mind and every tiny thing becomes a massive tragedy.
A lot of parents make the mistake of thinking that because their teen doesn't want to hang out with them anymore it means they don't want to talk to them, and so they leave them alone totally. It's a big mistake but and easy one to make, I don't blame you if you did. Only when that happens then the teenager just thinks they don't love them anymore, even if they do. You just have to keep trying and reminding her that even though she'll get pissed off about it, because getting annoyed at your mom for bothering you constantly is way less deep than thinking your mom doesn't care about you. I know this is pretty garbled but I really hope it helps you. ↑ |
| Name: outofthebluez | Date: Sep 3rd, 2006 6:19 AM |
| you should tell her t oget off her butt or you'll call a phscairtrist! ↑ |
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