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i have just lost my border collie to cancer,she was a beloved friend to me and company also for my other dog since she has passed on he has been a little lost as i have been,would like to hear from people who are also greiving a major loss of a family member,does it get easier?. ↓
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| Name: Bridgette | Date: Dec 29th, 2005 6:58 AM |
| I completly understand where you are coming from with your loss. I lost about 4 months ago a Cat named Garfield. I adopted him about 4 years ago from my husbands family and once a set eyes on him I had to have him. They really didn't give him all the love in the world and I think they knew I would. He was like the Man in my life that held me when I was crying. He followed me around, gave me kisses. I still cry over him all the time. A lot of the people that I talk to say it was only a cat but to me it was the one "person" that I could talk to and I wouldn't have to worry about getting in to a fight if I said the wrong words. I think that it does get easier, but you will always have thoughts of them. I think about him a lot when I am sleeping at night my other cat won't come up on the bed and sleep with me. I cry over that. I don't think that I will ever find another cat that was as loveable as he was. Sometimes I think that it was unfair to only have him for 4 years when my husbands family had him for 13 years! But, what can you do? I will see him someday again but I know God will make it easier for me to move on. I hope that you are able to do that to. ↑ |
| Name: Leena | Date: Jan 19th, 2006 1:35 AM |
HI Jeda sorry to hear about your loss... my family had a cat, Sammy, who died about 2 yrs ago with hyperthyroid probs. He was almost 20 so he was like a true part of the family, and my mom was esp. sad about his loss. I adopted a kitty of my own soon after, Ginger, and she has brought me a lot of comfort and smiles but also to my mom. I do still cry at times esp. when I recall how I grew up always having him around, but I also think about how sweet he was and how wonderful it was to have him in our lives.
About the other dog, I understand his own feeling of loss, my family's second cat Brownie began to overeat after Sammy's death and died a yr after... I did not live at home at the time, and I think my parents just didn't realize that she was mourning and needed attention and sympathy as well. I would just say to give your other dog a lot of love and help him to understand that u are both feeling this loss and can both get thru it together. Wish you the best. ↑ |
| Name: Angela | Date: Feb 25th, 2006 8:44 AM |
I dont mean for this to be an insensitive question but y'all found out your animals had cancer did you try to save them or just have them put down?
My cat has a tumor in its belly and it is expensive to get it removed and we are not even sure if that will save him or if more tumors will appear. I need some advice. I am having a very very hard time deciding what to do. I love my cat, but he isnt cuddly. He does come to meet me at the door when I get home, although sometimes I think that is only because he wants out.
I really dont know what to do. I would miss him greatly. He is my first pet, but how much money would yall put into saving your animal? ↑ |
| Name: Sarah | Date: Feb 26th, 2006 12:35 AM |
| hello Angela, my beloved cat my best friend. got ran over 3 days ago. i only had him for 6 months. i wish i could have done something to prevent it anything at all but i couldnt, he was the same as your cat he wasnt cuddly to me but loved a good scratch behind his ears. if he had a tumor i would have spent anything on him no matter how much. because at least you know you tried to do the best for your friend even if the surgury didnt work out as planned. you tried. thats my opinion though because i love animals. some people would disagree. i miss my pus pus dreadfully but i know the time he had with me was great he had a great 6 months. hope i helped ↑ |
| Name: Hi Sarah | Date: Feb 27th, 2006 7:13 PM |
| We are going to get the surgery done, unless when he goes in there the tumor has spread or it looks like he is in pain, then we will put him down. I dont know how I will handle it if he isnt there when I go to pick him up. My cat loves to be scratched behind the ears too :) Maybe they were brothers. ↑ |
| Name: Sarah | Date: Feb 27th, 2006 10:42 PM |
Angela, im glad your getting the surgery done for your cat, if you are scared about him not being there when you pick him up talk it over with the vet first and ask him honestly what he thinks your cats chances are at surviving. it may make you feel better...
hope everything goes well good luck! ↑ |
| Name: John | Date: Mar 6th, 2006 5:42 PM |
| I know exactly what you are going through. I lost my boxer a little over a year ago, and it is still hard for me to deal with. One of my friends reccommended a book that has helped me dramaticaly. The name of the book is I Still Miss You by: Dr. Jack Titolo D.V.M. I think that you will find this very helpful in dealing with this. I know it helped me. ↑ |
| Name: Shellie | Date: Mar 19th, 2006 3:06 PM |
| I just had to put my sweet 10 year old Italian Greyhound down 3 weeks ago today due to lymphoma. It was me and her and she was my only baby. I sometimes think it is going to get easier but I find I do not want to go home after work and will procrastinate not going home. I go to the library and visit the adoption web site and obsess over getting a new Italian Greyhound or just look at those precious babies which make me miss her more. I thought the pain would subside but sometimes I think no one understands and I am all alone.. I understand unless you have lost a pet noone understands you and sometimes do not know how to approach you or won't cause they think you are crazy for grieving over what they think was"just a dog" I hope it gets easier and I know it will but pet grievers are not alone just look at this forum. I hope this helps me and someone else just by posting. I know they say time heals all wounds but my comment to that is that "this is a pretty big gash with pieces missing and everything" ↑ |
| Name: Jill | Date: Mar 30th, 2006 6:10 PM |
| I hope so, I just lost my Maxxie to leukemia and I can not bear it, ↑ |
| Name: Jill | Date: Mar 30th, 2006 6:15 PM |
| My Maxx was just 2 years old, he was the best german shepherd we have ever known. From the time we took him to the vet and got the diagnosis until the time of his death was 48 hours, my husband is in a tail spin and he also doesnt want to come home, we took maxx camping every other weekend and my husband would just parade him around. He was a very proud daddy, maxx was the biggest sheperd we had seen but he was the most gentle, I am not sure how are are going to handle camping without him.....I am not sure my husband can deal with it.....he was only a baby and it just happened so fast........our hearts are broken....we miss you Maxxi Roo! ↑ |
| Name: cathy | Date: May 27th, 2008 6:17 AM |
| Yes, it does. From personal experience, I would say it takes about 6 months. There will be times especially during the first month, that you will be doing the simplest thing, and that will somewhow trigger your memory, and you will brake down crying. People will look at you like you are crazy, and not understand. My best advice to you is cry. Cry all you want, let it all out. This is the only thing that is going to help you get thgough this as quickly as possible. You never forget them. You just get used to not living with them. After you go thru the crying phase, then comes my favorite phase. Remembering all of the good times you had together and laughing out loud without anyone knowing what the joke is, but you and and your loved one on the other side. Your dog, is going to have a bit of a harder time getting used to not having his/her companion with him. I know at the moment it sounds terrible, but if he/she falls into a slump you might want to consider adopting another compacion to help him/she and yourself get through this. Believe the thought of another pet replacing your loved one is terrible. I know. But if comes to this not only will he be helping you and your dog get throught thisd hard time, you will also be helping him. Best of luck, Cathy. ↑ |
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