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Name: lilashli2

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Hi, my name is Ashli! Im 18 & im 18wks pregnant. Next week i get 2 go and find out if im having a boy or a girl and im very excited! I just have 1 problem, my baby daddy! He is the most heartless person ive ever met in my life. At 1st he was so excited about being a father but now he can careless. Ive been going through my pregnancy all alone and its been very emotional and scary. When we 1st found out i was pregnant we thought it would be best that my childs father moved back home to new orleans til the right b4 the due date so he could be with his family and so he could also get a job since things werent really working 4 him here in alabama. Little did i know things would just go down hill from the moment he left. We started fighting alot mostly bcuz we missed each other cuz we ve never been away from 1 another. We ve fought so much that we ve pushed 1 another away to the point we dont get along at all any more. Here in the last month or so he has changed big time, it seems like nothing matters 2 him any more, like im no body 2 him, and like hes not excited about the baby any more. It hurts so much cuz on top of all the stress from being pregnant with no job, i have him making me cry every time we talk. I feel like a complete fool bcuz i thought that everything was going 2 b okay and we were gonna make it through this 2gether but it seems like he just put on a front and played me. I never had a father grown up and ive always said that when i have children i want them 2 have a good father and it seems like 2 me that im going 2 b the only person my child is going 2 have and it hurts bcuz i feel like ive not only let myself down but my unborn child 2. I DONT KNOW WHAT 2 DO ANY MORE! ↓

Name: Jerrida | Date: Dec 16th, 2009 9:50 PM

Hi Ashli!, When i read this it sound just like me. I got pregnant when i was 18 i turned 19 a month before i had my son, but when i told my sons father he was so happy even though i didnt believe in abortions i felt like i might have to go that route. So after trying to get me not to do it and i wouldn't listen, him and i lost contact.Ttime started passing and i decided to keep my baby, next thing you know i was 2 weeks away from being 4 months, So i decided to contact the father and let him know but he didnt sound too happy even though he said he was and when i told him i really can take care my baby alone he laughed at me he didnt believe i could so from that day i went and looked for a second job i was already working at pizza hut and then i had my nursing assistant license and TMA license so at 6 months i finally found a nursing job i would work there in the mornings for 8 hours and go straight to pizza hut from there i worked all the way up to the day i went in labore i bought all my baby stuff after i found out what i was having i went shopping every chance i got and i also had my family and friends helping specially my mom and my dad and bestfriend was a big help. So now he looks very silly because he see that i wasn't playing around he's in my son life but he doesn'tt do much he wants to be with me but i dont't want him during my pregnancy i was emotional i was so hurt that i was doing this alone but i stayed focused a didnt want to be negative about everything to make myself happy i just thought about when my baby come how cute and little he going to be and it just warmed my heart i knew for the rest of my life that my baby was the most important thing in this world and nobody can make me feel any different thats why when i think of my baby any stress i have i forget about it and now my baby is 1 years old and im 20 years old and he has everything need and more. Your boyfriend wil come around soon just tell him how you feel let him talk then you go soon he'll understande what you going through some guys dont change untile they see your strength(having the baby) and that makes them see what they will be missing and what they need to do. but other then that just try to think positive about everything even when you feel hopeless i know what you going through i did everything on my own but its always that feeling of time passing when he can be there rubbing your belly and baby shopping together but like i said stay positive because right now your health is all that matters bcause your babies health depends on it. :) ↑