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My ex and I have a year old son, we split a month after we found out i was pregnant. After the birth, he signed two aknowledgement of paternity forms and then went on to request DNA testing. At our hearing I wanted to let him, but the judge wouldnt let me get a word in. He has filled out a petition for another one. My question is what can i do when i get to the court house so that we can just get the DNA test and be done with it. ↓
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| Name: mel211985 | Date: Feb 13th, 2007 11:17 PM |
| my ex has asked for a paternity test to be done on our second child but he is paying through it from the csa or was anyway until they went bust dont quite know whats happening now but what i do know is that if its taken to court a dna test can be requested and after the results are given the juge can then order maintainence for your child but thats the way it is here are you in the uk? it takes a long time coz the papers have got to go through the courts and what not you could be looking at along trip but then again you have stated you agree to to the test being done. Talk to ure soliciotor he/she should be speaking for you anyway when you cant get a word in juges can be annoying sometimes my ex was a solicitor in family law. ↑ |
| Name: nwass | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 1:33 AM |
| I just want to make sure that I can. I read in PA law that the court might not grant him one since he signed so many AOP's. I'm just worried that if I give it the go ahead after the judge says no, then i'll be stuck with the cost and at over $300, its a pay taker. Does anyone know the process, if I need to take my son with me for this hearing or should I wait? ↑ |
| Name: mel211985 | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 1:36 AM |
| i cant help you to much by the sounds of it you are not from the uk. I know that if it goes through the csa payment is only required if it proves the person taking the test is the dad in court its similar if he wants a dna test so bad y dont he pay private $300 is alot of money. ↑ |
| Name: mel211985 | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 1:37 AM |
| i would assume that you dont need to take your son with you as the dna tests are usually done elsewhere but like i said i can only really tell you from a uk perspective sorry. ↑ |
| Name: nwass | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 1:43 AM |
| The thing that really ruffles my feathers is that I told him if he wanted a DNA test we could do it, I just wouldnt help with the bill. Now hes getting a court order and has to foot the bill. We could have been done with this so long ago and only after realizing that he "hang out anymore," that he wants the test. I kinda just want the judges rulling to stand but then I know we'll never be done with this. Drives me crazy! ↑ |
| Name: mel211985 | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 1:56 AM |
| he just wants to be centre of attention thats all he thinks that the courts will pay for it well unlucky him i know its stressful when i was facing courts i spent so much time with my solicitor its unbelievable luckily i dont pay for them it was a family member but it will come together ↑ |
| Name: nwass | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 1:59 AM |
| I hope so, I just am trying so hard not be a bitch through all of this. Do you know anything about child custody? Like if his past record for assault will affect his visitation. Personally I want him to have supervised visitation until our son is old enough to explain things to me (hes 10 months). ↑ |
| Name: mel211985 | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 2:09 AM |
| if you say that you feel because of his past recoerd he could be a potential danger to your son perhaps he will only be allowed supervised visits. Ive recently found out my kids dad has convicted kiddy fiddlers in the family, has been arrested for child pornography being found on his computer, been charged with rape and has had 5 children taken away from him and his wife. I told my solicitor and she wrote to his solicitor stating that i would not want him near my children and then ordered an injunction out on him. Now he is allowed no where near me or my children. ↑ |
| Name: nwass | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 2:12 AM |
| Oh wow, I am sorry, I dont know what I would do if I ever found that out about the father of my son. I know that his other "baby mama" is a on and off heroin addict and in an abusive relationship. And he has his record. I just feel worried that if he will begin to feel frustrated about paying support and take it out on our son. Hes tried to take out some frustrations on me before but atleast I can fight back ↑ |
| Name: mel211985 | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 4:10 PM |
| its ok ive dealt with it now its just a case of protecting my girls. you gotta do whats best for your son does he pay child support for his other child? ↑ |
| Name: nwass | Date: Feb 15th, 2007 3:05 AM |
| The child's grantparents "forced" him to give up his parental rights, which is what he tried to do with me. So he doesnt pay anything. He rarely gets to see him too because of the grandparents. It wasnt until just last year that they allowed his son to stay with him without supervision ↑ |
| Name: mel211985 | Date: Feb 15th, 2007 9:17 PM |
| hmm sounds bit fishy to me was there a specific reason that the grandparents forced him? and is the child now at the age that you would prefer your son to be if he sees him without supervision? something dont sound right to me but you know him better than me i think that that on its own might affect his case for visitation unsupervised. The fact that 2 other family members of another child of his wouldnt allow him access is rather worrying and the courts will probably look down on that. ↑ |
| Name: nwass | Date: Feb 16th, 2007 4:00 AM |
| Him and the mother were into some heavy stuff, so it was easy for them to get custody. They wouldnt let him have unsupervised visitation until he was off parole. I want our son to be at an age that he would be able to talk to me if anything was wrong. ↑ |
| Name: mel211985 | Date: Feb 16th, 2007 8:40 PM |
| wise idea at least then you can keep an eye on things without being noticed. Id be more worried about perhaps the influence he could potentially have on ure son if he hasnt changed. Young guys and girls are very impressionable at about 10 upwards. I know its along way off and i dont want to worry you but talk to ure solicitor tell him/her ure worries his past may well affect any visitation he gets. ↑ |
| Name: nwass | Date: Feb 17th, 2007 4:19 AM |
| Right, I would flip my lid if our son came home upset with me because of something that his dad said to him. It happened to me for years because of all of the stuff my parents talked on eachother to me. I was so confused about who was the good guy and bad guy. I just dont want the same to happen to him. ↑ |
| Name: l3itchyl3unny | Date: Feb 17th, 2007 1:58 PM |
| Name: mel211985 | Date: Feb 18th, 2007 1:12 AM |
| i hope everything works out for you and ure son you have the got the right idea hopefully the courts see it as well. they keep giong on about the best intrests of the child if they are telling the truth they will see that for the moment your son needs supervised contact if he gets any until he is old enough to stand up for himself ↑ |
| Name: LovesBeingAMommy | Date: Feb 27th, 2007 7:36 AM |
| I got my paternity tests at DCSE-Department Child Support enforcement. And I believe they hold up in court too. If you have a social services where you live go apply for TANF. They can help you get a DNA test through DCSE ↑ |
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