I'd been feeling cramps for a few days, but hadn't had any signs of my period other than that. I was "supposed" to start Wednesday, but wasn't terribly concerned since it was only Friday. I happened to be talking to my cousin who is currently 5 months along and she said that was exactly how she felt when she found out. I started to get worried. Went to the store, bought the test. Came home and within 20 seconds had a positive result. Took another test later just to be certain that it was real... Another positive result.
I've just graduated from college. I'm supposed to sign a contract for my new job on Thursday (I won't have health care insurance until August). The man I'm seeing is a marine and is stationed in California... 1500 miles from me. He's about to be done and has *so* much on his mind right now. I booked a flight to see him a few days ago, before I knew about this, but I'm terrified of telling him. I'm worried about telling my folks because I can already imagine the looks of disappointment on their faces.
I feel completely and totally overwhelmed. I am at most 20 days into this pregnancy. I don't even know where to begin... what to do... what to say...
Please... for the love of all that is good in this world, help. ↓
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| Name: mandymr25 | Date: Jun 17th, 2006 5:13 PM |
| Ok first and foremost you must calm down. I know how difficult this is for you. Believe me when i say i completely understand. I am getting ready to have my baby in five days and this past year was my first year of teaching. You need to decide what your views are on adoption, abortion, and keeping the baby. Weigh each factor carefully. This is a life you are talking about, not yours, the babies. You need to talk to the father, see what his feelings are. I would discuss this with him before you even discuss it with your family. This needs to be a decision you both make together, not fair to keep him in the dark. I feel for you, and i hope others on here will answer you as well to help you in this huge time of your life. feel free to email me at [email protected] if you feel the need to chat some more. I'm happy to listen. And i'll try my hardest to give you what i feel is good advice. ↑ |
| Name: flowergirl | Date: Jun 22nd, 2006 3:02 AM |
| My heart goes out to you during this difficult time... You have a lot going on right now, but try to be strong for yourself and your baby. I suggest you begin, by taking a deep breath and remembering that you have a little person to take care of now. I agree with the pp, that you should share this with the father as soon as possible, as there is nothing better than the truth to give you direction. If you ever need a friend, just to listen or offer support, I would love to chat via email or IM, [email protected] or flower2fotogirl. Best wishes to you and your little one! ↑ |
| Name: LisaB | Date: Jun 22nd, 2006 4:11 AM |
First things first, calm down - - - - - and remember that everything - yes EVERYTHING happens for a reason. Sometimes we can't imagine why things happen as they do - but it will all work out.
Imagine the worst scenario - parents aren't happy? They'll get over it, and if they don't, they'll regret it someday.
Boyfriend not happy? He too will regret it someday if he chooses to not be involved. If he doesn't want to be involved, then you probably don't want him around your baby anyway!
Consider giving the baby up for adoption. There are thousands of couples unable to have babies - - if the time isn't right for you, but you want to have the baby, you have total control over who will get your child.
If that's not an option, for whatever reason, you can terminate the pregnancy, but I have several friends that did that when they were younger or 'not ready' or scared to death and EVERY ONE of them has regretted it.
I probably haven't been much help - I feel for you though. You just have to believe that it will all work out. Have faith and you will be given a direction to go.....
Take care - :-) ↑ |
| Name: Lynne n | Date: Jun 22nd, 2006 8:23 AM |
Hi it is your choice as to weather you keep the baby or not.
Remember it is your body.
If your boyfriend loves you then he will stand by you,
And i am sure that your parents will be there for you.You can still take on your job but just explain to them when you start what is happening.
At the place that i last worked at a women started one day and found out she was pregnant the next,they were fine about it and once she had her little girl she came back to work part time. ↑ |
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