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Name: lash

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My daughter is 14 and very developed. She decided to go live with her Dad, out of State, this school year for the first time in her life. They have NEVER had a close relationship and he's barely been her Dad beyond being on her birth certificate and Child Support that has always been late. Since she has been there, she has explained a couple of situations that made her feel uncomfortable and as a result made me VERY uncomfortable. She said he has come into her room on a couple of ocassions and laid on her while in bed, tickling her and another time with his head on her hip and she moved over so he wouldn't be on her. He has never had this relationship with her in the past and it seems strange that now he would do this. Any thoughts on how this should be handled? ↓

Name: BEEN THERE | Date: Sep 22nd, 2006 7:51 PM

It's called making a police report....
Making a call to child protective services....
This sounds like the beginning of something BAD. Perhaps innocent enough right now...testing her to see how far he can go and get away with it. When I say 'innocent enough' I mean in as much as he hasn't reportedly touched her inappropriately (although his head has no reason to be resting on her like that).
Please let the authorities check it out...it could be a real lifesaver for your daughter. ↑

Name: molly-may | Date: Sep 22nd, 2006 10:07 PM

You need to get her out of that situation quickly. There is no reason at all for him to be touching her like that. You can have a joking realtionship with your child in terms of tickling....but for NO and I mean no reason should he be laying on her like that. You need to talk to your daughter and get her home. If he wants to see her then he can come and see her at your house where you can monitor them. Good luck! ↑

Name: goongirl1 | Date: Sep 25th, 2006 6:23 AM

This is disturbing...I would get her out of there before something really bad happens. He has never known her as a daughter? I wouldnt take any chances! ↑

Name: matthewsmom | Date: Sep 25th, 2006 8:19 AM

Why would you even ask such a question? common sense should tell you she needs to be back home. Common sense should tell the same thing. ↑

Name: Sheila | Date: Sep 25th, 2006 1:51 PM

She's 14!!!! You don't even KNOW this stranger that you allow your own daughter to live in the same house with.... This will destroy her life and will distroy yours if you let her spend one more night with that freak!!! ↑

Name: lash5674 | Date: Sep 26th, 2006 3:57 AM

Thanks for all the replies. My common sense and intuition told me to get my daughter, but I had to use wisdom in doing so. I am currently in the city in which he lives and it was planned to go get her and her things while he was not home and it went as planned. I found out after talking with her that a year prior he had taught her and her little sister (1/2 sis) that hugs were medicine. So he hugged her one night before she went to bed and she said he hugged her tightly and she heard him say "oh, this feels so good". It made me sick. The point of this thread was to validate my decision to go get my daughter before he did something I might have to k*ll him over. Thank God it didn't get to that point. ↑