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hay im 15 weeks pregnant, i really need some advice, falling pregnant has been a total shock and wen my x found out he questioned the baby was his, when he knows it is and im not a slag, and then told me at 3 months he still loved his x and wants nothing too do with the baby, i went too have a termination but just culdnt do it, its broke my heart he left me and is now going around saying the babys not his and is now back with his ex who is threatning too kill me, i feel so alone i want too die, yer ok as my parents say u brought this on urself, u deal with the situation and i relise that, my parents want me out asap and i have no where too go, theres no room here i share a room as it is and i hate my dad, i live in london so n e 1 that lives in england that reads this will know that i can go too the council, cut a long story short i said too them i was homeless, single have no one and scared and they didnt help me at all, they told me im a priority but the priorty waiting list is 3 years, they offered too put me in a hostel which is a room u stay in like a block of flats with other people, and u share bathroom, shower etc, im just so scared staying there alone with no one im sick 6 times a day and am ill from my pregnancy ive lost a stone in weight and again as my parents say i just brought it on myself and want nothing too do with the baby, can someone give me some advice please, i just want too live in a 1 bd room flat with my baby and be ok, but i cant, please please help ↓
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| Name: megan or riley? | Date: Aug 27th, 2006 11:08 AM |
| Name: ell | Date: Aug 27th, 2006 3:54 PM |
| dont worry.i know it easy to say.u didnt bring bring it on urself.there possily mad at da moment.how old r u?? im 21 have a 2 year old son.my parents were da same but love my son.i am waiting 2 years 2 geta hse of da council they r so slow.i live in ire.email me and i chat 2 u if u want it is [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: jess | Date: Aug 27th, 2006 7:05 PM |
| do you have crisis pregnancy centers where you live? here in the US, we have them. you can call to get help. ↑ |
| Name: carol | Date: Aug 27th, 2006 7:54 PM |
| your parents are hearthless if they wanted to punish you for getting pregnat there are better ways like spanking you or grounding you but not by makeing you homeless once the baby comes thay will change their minds i hope ↑ |
| Name: daisyusa | Date: Aug 28th, 2006 2:04 AM |
I know you probably already have, but try talking to them again, this is their grandbaby after all. They're probably just as scared as you. I'm confused as to why the council isn't helping one of their own. My husband is from England and still has family there, they've told me of women going to England just to have babies because the council will pay for everything, although I believe they said they are cracking down on it. That really upsets me and it's so flippin expensive to live in London as it is. What if you went to the council in another area, would that work?
I pray that your parents have a change of heart, maybe the first thing you need to do is work out the riff you have with your dad. If you feel he's too hard on you, there's a reason and if you coming home and saying you're pregnant may be part of the reason he is hard on you, I'm sure he wants to protect his little girl.
One thing you have to remember is your parents will always be there, think of them at this time as well so you can all work this out.
I will be keeping you in prayer. I'm going to find out what my sister in law gets, she's not single and her husband works and they still get help. I'll let you know later in the week, they are on holiday at the moment.
God bless and take care of yourself and this baby. Where are you that you have access to the computer, home? ↑ |
| Name: sally24 | Date: Aug 28th, 2006 3:20 PM |
| have u thought of adoption are there places that will help you with this , giving your baby a life is a great gift but no means does it mean you have to a mother and you shouldn't feel bad for this i know several people including my aunt who adopted and are blessed by being able to do so , it doesn't sound like you are in any postion to give this baby any kind of decent life right know. ↑ |
| Name: astacy | Date: Aug 29th, 2006 7:40 AM |
Please visit this Board, BIRTHMOMS only and where here to help you no one can read your post and we can help you find a home, and a Adoptive family:
http://groups.yahoo.
com/group/Birthmoms4aAdoption
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| Name: Kylie58 | Date: Aug 29th, 2006 7:44 PM |
| Hi sweetie I live in England too, I'm from Staffordshire. I'm 19, 8 weeks pregnant and I still live at home, you can go on counil and housing association lists but they take ages, and my parents are bein brill and want me to stay at home with it. However, as you know loads of young mothers get by in England because it is possble ↑ |
| Name: icechick | Date: Aug 30th, 2006 3:20 PM |
Hi we are looking to Adopt a baby, would love to chat with you.
[email protected] ↑ |
| Name: J moffat | Date: Aug 31st, 2006 5:41 AM |
Dear 15 weeks pregnant,
Perhaps you could try a few churches in your area and ask them if they know of a family there looking for a boarder. Quite often the church admin know other charity groups who can organize suitable accommodation for you. Through child healh you would probably be eligable for some one on one counselling which you really need some supportive people around you. Also check out some community centres in your area they have some support groups and have low cost workshops. Hang in there. Try to contact your parents once you have settled down in your living arrangements. Tell them you would like to see them and have lunch sometime. Leave the father of your child alone and avoid his abusive partner. ↑ |
| Name: megan or riley? | Date: Aug 31st, 2006 11:10 AM |
hay thanks everyone so much 4 ur advice, about adopting i couldnt do it, i already love this baby inside me so much. since i posted my last ad i went too the council and they have put me in a bedset and can only keep me there 4 6 months untill they place in accomation somehow im finding the strenth too go forward as silly as it sounds, ive just turned 20 by the way. my parents arent there 4 me at all, theyre so against the idea and hate me. again thanks everyone. and about the abusive girlfriend ive got the police involved as its got out of control
single parents i have the up most respect 4 u i really do, ↑ |
| Name: megan or riley? | Date: Aug 31st, 2006 11:20 AM |
| ell ive added ya by the way thanx ↑ |
| Name: pam | Date: Sep 8th, 2006 1:07 AM |
| we are looking to adopt. would you consider talking? ↑ |
| Name: b | Date: Sep 15th, 2006 12:34 PM |
hey u shudnt wory the exact thing happend 2 me. if u wana chat u can add me [email protected].
u'll b alreite or jus ask them if u can stay in a mother n baby unit. ↑ |
| Name: e | Date: Sep 16th, 2006 7:44 PM |
| you can start by looking for jobs and grab the first job offer you get and keep looking for better ones. you can start saving money if you plan to keep the baby. if you dont want it because the father is a loser and you don't have family support, then maybe consider adoption or abortion and then you could continue living your life the best way you can and start over ↑ |
| Name: Peta ANN | Date: Sep 22nd, 2006 4:06 AM |
| hey darl youl be fine if i was over there i england id look after you as im pregnant as well i live in australia and over here once the baby pops out we get $4000 straight away so that helps you out alot dont you receive anything over there i wish it was alot easier for you if you want t chat and you have an email addy add me to messanger mine is [email protected] ok ADD ME im sure i can give you a bit of support by being your friend cya megan or riley take care ↑ |
| Name: GodsServant | Date: Sep 22nd, 2006 5:58 AM |
Email me at [email protected]
How old are you? Do you attend church? Can you go to your pastor for help? Maybe there is a fellow member who has an apartment that you can rent cheap or free until you can get on your feet...or until after the baby comes....maybe your local church has a job/employment board? Go and check out local organizations that can help single pregnant mothers who's baby father who have walked away. If you need more information email me and we can speak, until then God bless you and your baby. ↑ |
| Name: megan or riley? | Date: Sep 26th, 2006 9:34 AM |
| thanks 4 all the surport everyone, things have got better and my mum and dad have came around, it all changed wen i thought i was losing my baby i was rushed in too hospital and they were there, i think it made them relise. i dont talk too my ex at all now ive changed my number and he doesnt no where were moving too, somehow i feel alot stronger, i just want all them single mms out there whos baby fathers havent been there ive got the upmost respect 4 u and u all such strong people, thanks 4 everything ↑ |
| Name: zoeee | Date: Sep 29th, 2006 1:27 PM |
| hi, i just read all this and its good to see it is all working ou for you. good luck :) ↑ |
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