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Name: Busygizzy

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Hi im 22 and i have a 3yr old daughter and i have just found out i am pregnant! I am pregnant by my daughters dad which i suppose is 1 good thing but he has never wanted much contact or helped me at all with my daughter so am i being cruel bringing another child into this situation!? I have been a single mum since my daughter was born and i do everything for her and make sure she never wants for anything! I would love to hear from anyone as im very confused and i dont know how im going to tell my family cause i think they are goin to be very upset and dissapointed!!! thank u xxx ↓

Name: jenny | Date: May 2nd, 2009 3:33 AM

They might be disappointed in you, but I think that if they were nice they would treat the baby with as much love as they treat your first daughter. Babies bring so much joy to the worst of situations. Dont be scared. ↑

Name: waylandangel | Date: May 5th, 2009 4:07 AM

Have you thought about adoption?
They are many families searching for a child... we are one... [email protected] ↑

Name: Bounty2009 | Date: May 14th, 2009 5:13 PM

I agree with Jenny - babies really do bring joy to a whole variety of complex situations. I hope you are doing ok hun! If you say you have been a single mum for three years but are pregnant by your daughters dad, then surely he is on the scene a fair bit? I'm sure he cares more than you think, and you can always take legal action if it came down to it and he really refused to support him? Try to stay positive, im sure it will all work out in the end! Do you know the sex yet? Or your due date? Try to think about the positive things like this and you can get excited! Plus its not good for the baby for you to worry so much! Have you thought about names yet? This is a really fun place to look for them http://www.bounty.com/babynames/ Know that whatever happens with your ex partner, there will always be a lot of support for you out there! good luck hun xxx ↑

Name: heather c | Date: May 15th, 2009 12:26 AM

if you want that baby and know you can care for it, then keep it. you are already an awesome single mom, and screw him for being a jerkbag. ↑

Name: segamon | Date: May 15th, 2009 6:36 AM

You can consider adoption. There are plenty of adoption agencies. You can even look in the yellow pages for them. You can have an open adoption which allows you to have a partial involvement in the baby's life with the new family. You can also have a closed adoption which means that you will have nothing to do with the babies new life.

This may not be right for you. Please do what's best for your baby. Also, research fetal development to realize just how special an unborn baby is. A website that shows this is babycenter.com/pregnancy.

God bless you! ↑

Name: HardplaceMErock | Date: May 15th, 2009 7:14 AM

Hi! Well first let me say congrats! I know exactly how you feel! But one thing that has helped me is to realize that babies are such a blessing! And I also am raising my two toddlers alone at a very young age(23) and I am 37 weeks pregnant! Don't worry about what the family thinks! They will support you and love you no matter what. Just know that eventhough their dad isn't around much doesn't mean you are at fault! You sound like a great mom! And that's all that matters! Good luck! If you need me I'm here! ↑

Name: Busygizzy | Date: May 16th, 2009 1:09 PM

Thank you every1 for replying! I've told my family and they are all fine just want me2 be happy and to make the right decission!! ive told the father and he doesnt want anythin 2 do with him/her and doesnt want me 2 tell any1 he's the father so i told him a few home truths!!! i feel alot better 4 tellin every1 but i feel so alone (probably the hormones!!) and emotional i was always happy with my daughter!! Also HardplaceMErock where do u get all ur strenght from!!?? if u wanna chat my email is [email protected] ↑