hey my name is sarah,
I'm 21 and just over 6 months pregnate with a little boy. I went overseas to be with my partner for 3 months and while i was over there i got pregnate, i had to leave after my visa ran out...but he broke up with be basically at the airport. The only way we could of stayed together is if we got married, and he absoultely refuses to do this. ( im australin, he is american) I was and am still in love with him, but he doesnt want anything to do with me anymore...and basically because im over here he refuses to have anything to do with his child once he is born. I had to move back in with my parents to survive, and they basically fight, yell and cause me trouble all the time. "this was my fault i live with the concequences" I'm really depressed i dont want to be a single mum, i dont think i can raise this child i can bearly look after myself. I feel like i just want to kill myself now before he is born, then to do it after he is born and have the guilt of leaving him behind by himself. I feel like i cant cope all i do is cry and i cant even enjoy whats susposed to be a mircle growing inside of me. I am so afiad that once he is born i wont want him...i just dont know what to do. i hate all of this. All i want is help and no one wants to give it to me. ↓
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| Name: cheyenne_terrine | Date: Sep 24th, 2006 1:16 PM |
| wow, you and i have alot in common! i'm 20 years old and just over 6 monhts pregnant with a little boy too... my now ex fiancee was an american aswell, he was living here with me and wanted to start a family but when i finally got pregnant he decided that he didn't want it.... we lived together for 5 months and for 4 full months he treated me like dirt... he drove me into a deep state of depression which caused me to want to kill mysefl.....i eventually told him that he had to move out because it was not only hurting me but the stress was hurting the baby... i really dont want to be a single mother either so i had to move in with my parents aswell, they fight and argue all the time about everything! i decided to go see my doctor that is dealing with my pregnancy and she put me on anti depressants as so i would not harm myself or the unborn baby! even though i resent the fact of the way that he was concieved feeling him move inside of me fills me with this sence of hope and joy of having my little baby in my arms and rocking him to sleep at night... i find myself rubbing my belling all the time for no reason! if you would like to chat further on your feelings you can drop me a line at [email protected], i'm a great listener ↑ |
| Name: ellen | Date: Sep 24th, 2006 3:46 PM |
| I know that it is a horrible and guilty feeling to be so unhappy while you are pregnant. When I was about six months pregnant I felt the same...I couldn't be excited that I was having a baby and I felt guilty. I'm 34 weeks now. I'm trying to leave a bad relationship and I live with my parents. I was severly depressed when I was 5 and six months pregnant...I was lucky because some of that has gone away...but if you feel like you can't overcome feeling so depressed ask your doctor to get on an antidepressant that is safe during pregnancy.If you don't you might get postpardum depression....and not want to take care of your baby.I have a six year old daughter that i had when I was seventeen....i was depressed and scared and her father was on drugs and very immature...but now I look at my life and know that I wouldn't be complete without her...no matter what her fathers part in our lives is.One day you'll feel like that about your son. It will just take time for your heart to heal from your ex. Talk to your doctor about antidepressants..it might be worth a try. It's still not to late to enjoy the last months of your pregnancy. ↑ |
| Name: rays and kassys mom | Date: Sep 25th, 2006 4:39 AM |
| STOP. Its ok. You'll be alright. Sometimes the pain of moving forward is what we need to go where we are supposed to be. I know your pain. I get it. I understand it. I am a single american mom. People from every country and back ground can be a-----holes . Dont blame yourself, don't belittle yourself or your baby. The laws in the US are on your side get child support and force this boy to be a man, then raise your son the best you can or if you can't find a resource ( adoption) that can support you and help you. ↑ |
| Name: l3itchyl3unny | Date: Sep 25th, 2006 6:16 AM |
| I really thank you all for the opions and advice on this. I just feel so alone and like im failing this baby but not having a father, its father for him. ↑ |
| Name: lil_dancer77 | Date: Oct 1st, 2006 6:07 AM |
Hey Sarah,
My name is Nikki and I am in a very similar situation to you. My babies daddy is in the Army and he is in East Timor at the moment, he has called me several times to ask if i have had an abortion yet and gets angry when i say im not going to do that. I am only 8 weeks along. I love this guy more than anything. However i have to accept that he does not want me. He has a new gf they are going to stick this out..and are going to try and get full custody of the baby when its born. So i am also feeling scared, frightened and alone right now. I have wonderful friends who have been there for me and are just wonderful.. I am also 21. I live in Brisbane, where do you live? Its a tough time for us, but you are not alone. Your parents are just angry but they will get over it. Trust me once your baby is born you will love him and your parents will to. You can do this. Trust me. Its ok to be scared and have regrets and feel scared and depressed but killing yourself is not he answer. The baby will be what you make it. If you want it to bring Joy and happiness it will! This is the time to get positive and i will do my best to be there for you. ↑ |
| Name: l3itchyl3unny | Date: Oct 8th, 2006 9:53 PM |
| I just wanted to thank you agian for the advice im feeling so much better about everything. I am really starting to get happy about things now and the excitement it kicking in. I still feel really scared that im not going to be a good mum and provide him with everything i always dreamt i would when i was younger, but other then that, no more feeling depressed and sorry for myself. so thanks again :) ( Nikki - I live in Kingaroy which is about 2 hours away from Brisbane ) ↑ |
| Name: juju | Date: Oct 9th, 2006 3:03 AM |
| Name: l3itchyl3unny | Date: Oct 9th, 2006 3:19 AM |
| how about adoption? ahh thats stupid but thanks! ↑ |
| Name: SweetTart | Date: Oct 9th, 2006 7:39 PM |
| Hi,i was depressed too,until i broke up with the man that was causing me to be depressed.Now i am very happy.I'm 7months pregnant and have 3 little boys already by him and this is my fourth.I thought for a long time that he was going to marry me but he didn't.So i broke up with him today finally.You don't need a man who will treat you Bad,you need a man who will treat you good!You can do it (if i can)you can take care of that baby by yourself.Just remember to take care of yourself.I just want to let you know that you are not alone,there are a lot of single beautiful moms out here who will support you and we're not ashamed of it! You should really get child support money out of him,then you can buy your baby boy whatever you want. ↑ |
| Name: l3itchyl3unny | Date: Oct 9th, 2006 9:44 PM |
| Money was never a issue, i can support him finacially. Just i was so overwealmed at the time i wrote that ( which was over a month ago ) that i was going to be a single mum and my son wouldnt ever have a father thats actually what was depressing me. But like you said there are alot of single mums out there and they do a fantastic job :) ↑ |
| Name: oklcowgirl26 | Date: Mar 23rd, 2007 2:58 AM |
| Bitchy Bunny I would like to find out what kind of help u want or need. My husband and I might be able to help u out some if u would like to talk to me more about this please feel free to contact me by email at [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: winnmom | Date: Mar 24th, 2007 5:06 AM |
oklcowgirl26 look at the dates,
L3itchy L3unny....aka sarah, had her baby boy a while back ...she is a wonderful mother....... ↑ |
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