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I try to understand what other people are going through but it is so hard for me. I found out i was pregnant about a week ago, and i am almost a month along. when i told the father he told me to have an abortion, and i have not heard from him since. I am so stressed out because i am a junior in college and i dont think i can do this alone. i know my family will be there but it is not the same as the father being there. I dont believe in abortions so that is not even an option for me. I am so scared, all i can do is cry. I dont know how to handle this. It does not make it easy for me because my baby will be mixed, and i dont want him or her to know only one parent with out getting to know the other side of his or her heritage. I dont know what to do. I am scared! ↓
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| Name: LJ605 | Date: Aug 6th, 2007 7:33 PM |
| I am just curious on how old this post is... ↑ |
| Name: andreakc | Date: Aug 6th, 2007 7:41 PM |
| Name: LJ605 | Date: Aug 6th, 2007 8:51 PM |
| Okay... so you haven't told you parents yet? ↑ |
| Name: LJ605 | Date: Aug 6th, 2007 8:58 PM |
| Raising a child that is of another race is a little challenging if you are trying to incorporate their heritage. But trust me it is possible. We have a Guatemalan baby and we are raising him with both cultures. Well, we are trying to. All you really have to focus on is loving and providing for your little one and all will work out. The initial stress that you are feeling will ease up in time and I am sure that you will realize that with the support of your family that you are not alone and that you can do this. If you want to email me and chat you can at [email protected]. Take Care....JJ ↑ |
| Name: gaiamom | Date: Aug 7th, 2007 4:41 AM |
| Name: andreakc | Date: Aug 7th, 2007 7:22 PM |
| thank you. i know it will be hard especially since the dad does not want anything to do with my baby. so in order to get both sides of the heratage i will have to rely on friends of that heritage but it wont be the same. i am so scared but the only thing i can do is relax i guess. i cant afford to stress out because it would not be good , but it is easier said than done. Yes i told my parents about the baby, they we supportive if anything. I am glad for that but it makes it hard that i am going to college in a different town i still feel like i will be doing this alone. ↑ |
| Name: robsmom | Date: Aug 7th, 2007 11:09 PM |
Noone can blame you for being scared but, women have and do raise children on their own, especially these days. It is difficult but not impossible. You may have a hard time believeing this but, if the father wants nothing to do with the child, you may actually be better off without him. Many two parent families, especially those where one parent feels forced into the situation, only cause more problems for a child. I know because, I had a child out of wedlock and eventually married my son's father but, we are haveing alot of problems now and my son has seen and heard things he shouldn't have. His father is being a poor parent and a poor example of a man and I wish now that I had just gone on my own.
I am not trying to belittle your situation, I only want to say that either way, there will be problems. From my point of view one good parent is better than two that don't get along. If you do your best , that's all you can do and, things will work out.
Good Luck. ↑ |
| Name: andreakc | Date: Aug 7th, 2007 11:45 PM |
| Ya you are right. It would be better to surround the baby with love and postive influences. I guess if that means i have to do it alone then i will, but i just hope he comes around. We were not dating when this happened, so it is not like he has ties to me now except the baby. I told him i am not asking him to be with me, and all he could do is tell me to abort the baby. I would never be able to do it, and i told him that. The crazy thing is that i go to school with his cousins so i hope they go and tell him how my pregnancy is going lol. that way he can either man up or realize what he is doing is wrong. It takes two to make this bed and i am the only one lying in it. It scares me, but the only thing i can do is go through with it. thanks for your advice. ↑ |
| Name: noodles | Date: Aug 14th, 2007 12:37 AM |
I can beleive how difficult that is, my daughter is mixed She has lots in her blood.
I know I don't beleive in abortion's either.
But don't put this all on your shoulders now. Besides, it doesn't matter currently. Try to find a new supportive person, if your boyfriend doesn't agree, and you really want to keep the baby, dump him. I'm sure you'll find someone. And until your baby asks, don't deal with it now. ↑ |
| Name: pregnantvoltage | Date: Aug 17th, 2007 8:14 AM |
I am single and pregnant as well. I just found out tonight, I am about three weeks along. He is older and already has had children (is divorced) and is not interested in having another family. I am so so scared. I have been crying all day.
can i do this? is my body going to be okay? am i going to be a good mom? am i ready? how do i know? ↑ |
| Name: 19mummy2b | Date: Aug 17th, 2007 8:20 AM |
| where is the father from ↑ |
| Name: 19mummy2b | Date: Aug 17th, 2007 8:30 AM |
| i am 19 and white australian and my babys father is black african so she will be very mixed he left the state when we found out ↑ |
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