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Hi, I'm 20yrs old & have been in a fantastic relationship for 2yrs, however I found out a few weeks ago that I am 8wks pregnant. Unfortunantly my partner has decided he does not want to be a dad & is leaving me. I have been very emotional as he strongly wants an abortion, I however have never been comfortable and went to a prochoice websit and read the 'pretty' version of the procedure and it still made my skin crawl. Any advice on how to cope during my pregnancy alone as I am quite depressed!! ↓
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| Name: bladerunnerx16 | Date: Nov 26th, 2006 9:52 PM |
| Im actually on single's by accident but if whatever you do PLEASE DON'T GET AN ABORTION!!!!!!! ↑ |
| Name: l3itchyl3unny | Date: Nov 26th, 2006 10:17 PM |
There are other options if you think you cannot cope as a mother right now, such as adoption and foster care.
You dont need a man to keep you happy and support you through this
I'm sure you have family and friends that would support you and help you through this time.
Ive been a single parent pretty much from the first month of my pregnancy, it has NOT been easy..its been difficult. But im due in 4 weeks time..and all i can think about now is this little boy growing inside of me not the asshole who left me behind to cope with all this.
Make sure you surround yourself with family and friends, talk to councellors and doctors...if need be you might need to go on anti depresents.
Good luck with whatever you choose ↑ |
| Name: M | Date: Nov 26th, 2006 11:53 PM |
| Not very good advice from bitchy. She lives with her parents and they want her out ! She really doesn't have much of a plan for her unplanned pregnancy. She has many mood swings on babycrowed forums and needs help herself. ↑ |
| Name: lagniappe | Date: Nov 27th, 2006 4:16 AM |
| I to was told to have an abortion, I went to all the counseling classes and went to the appointment , but walked out before i had the procedure done. i thank God everyday i did. My son is know 7. I know you are panicking and have no idea what to do. please talk to someone who you trust. abortion is right for somepeople but i just could not do it. my email is [email protected] drop me a line if you want to talk . i am always here to help out another who needs a kind ear. no matter what choice you choose. ↑ |
| Name: Lolly | Date: Nov 27th, 2006 9:16 PM |
Well what the hell do you call your advice M? Personally id much rather have somebodys opinion on the question thats been asked rather than have someone blaggin on about who does what on which forums. GROW UP!
Ruby im guessing that it must be very scary the thought of having to deal with this on your own but the best thing you can do is to concentrate on the baby and get as much help and support from friends family doctors councellors etc that you can. Ive found the more you let people help the easier it is to cope. There is a chance that your boyfriend might just be shocked by the news and needs some time to think about it i dont know and the more he gets used to the idea the more chance he might want to be involved. I suppose you have to decide how much he really means to you and if you think with time and help you could manage this without him then maybe your better off without but if he really means alot then maybe you should try stay in touch and talk about things and try come to some sort of decision together that still includes you and the baby.
Either way I hope things work out n ive been some help
Love Lolly xxx ↑ |
| Name: atomic snowflake | Date: Nov 27th, 2006 11:05 PM |
Don't have an abortion. When you see your baby look into your eyes and give you their first smile - you'll know that you made the right decision in choosing to continue with the pregnancy :-)
Having a child is a lot of hard work, but it's also fun and makes life worthwhile. It's difficult to cope alone, but millions of women manage it. Motherhood is a wonderful adventure.
If you have an abortion purely because you are being pressurised into it then you will suffer emotionally afterwards. You'll always be thinking "what if"? ↑ |
| Name: Ruby | Date: Nov 29th, 2006 5:51 AM |
Thanks for all your advice!!
I have decided to keep the baby although im still a little scared. I went to the doctors and found out Im actually 10 weeks so I go for my first ultrasound next week. Is anyone else from QLD in Australia?? Im in Brisbane and am wondering what hospital is best for maternity. ↑ |
| Name: cipherd | Date: Nov 29th, 2006 5:56 AM |
Ruby,
I can not tell you what is a good hospital but I can give advice as a single mother one son and twins on the way. I can feel your pain..if you would like to talk at any time just hit me up [email protected]... ↑ |
| Name: SaRaH | Date: Dec 1st, 2006 11:45 PM |
| Name: lil_dancer77 | Date: Dec 2nd, 2006 5:15 AM |
M..
i am so tired of coming on here and people just being rude and nasty for no good reason.
Its so not fair, what do you know about Sarah's situation and are you in the perfect situation that no one can judge you?
leave people alone, if you havent got anything nice to say please keep your mouth shut ↑ |
| Name: lil_dancer77 | Date: Dec 2nd, 2006 5:19 AM |
Ruby,
Im in QLD, i am having my baby at the Mater Mothers hospital as a public patient! they are fantasic, i also work at the mater and have seen the work they do its wonderful not only in the mothers but the adults and childrens. Get your GP to write you a referral ASAP. They won't judge you they make you feel wonderful and they treat ech pregnancy as special so you dont feel as though your just another person having a baby!
Hope you can get in with them!
They also offer a program where you have one midwife look after you right the way through and comes to the hospital when your in labour and delivers your baby free of charge of course if you go public!
GOOD LUCK
my email address is [email protected] if you want to talk! im 21 and in the same sitaution as you so im here if you need to chat! :) ↑ |
| Name: Lizzi | Date: Dec 2nd, 2006 9:20 PM |
| You will get over it and on with it in time. ↑ |
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