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Hello, Ladies, I'm hoping someone out there will reply to me. I am 36 years old, and have just found out that I am pregnant. However, I am unsure as to my due date b/c of irregular periods, and conception date is important because it will determine whether my previous boyfriend or the husband I recently reconciled with is the father. Also, I am Canadian, and have no Social Security Number, or any entitlement to any Social Services. My husband will not support me in any way if this child is not his, and I have absolutely no family or friends in any position to help me. I had a baby girl that died of SIDS in 1993, and really want to have my baby! I want absolutely nothing to do with my ex-boyfriend, but I suspect that he is the father. I need prenatal care, as well as many other things, but have no idea whether any American services will help an alien. Any advice would be appreciated-I'm so scared! ↓
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| Name: to Andrea | Date: Oct 16th, 2005 7:57 AM |
| Hey, how are you?? congrats on your pregnancy!!!!! it will be okay. ((((((((hugs))))))) i am soo sorry you lost your baby girl to SIDS. :(:( if you need any support, advice or a shoulder to lean/cry on im here for you. just reply to me on here. Good luck!!! ↑ |
| Name: Andrea | Date: Oct 16th, 2005 9:00 AM |
| Hi! I'm in tears that you replied to me so quickly...thanks. I'm feeling awfully lost, my options seem so limited. But, you know what? I am SO excited to be having a little one, your congrats are the first I've received.....I just hope I can find some way to take care of us. Do you have children/a baby on the way? Would really like to talk to you some more, please keep in touch. ↑ |
| Name: Brandi | Date: Oct 17th, 2005 2:01 PM |
| Hi Andrea congrats hon. Hang in there sweetie everything will work out. Glad you found this board we are all here to support you. ↑ |
| Name: Roxanne | Date: Nov 7th, 2005 6:22 AM |
Andrea,
I suggest you become an American citizen, that's the only way you can get US assistance. There are a lot of perks and free medical assistance covered under Title 19. That's how I am affording my pregnancy. I understand what you're going through with the possible single parenting but just keep your head up and remember that everything you're going through is for your baby. That's how I get along. ↑ |
| Name: Jackie | Date: Nov 8th, 2005 3:26 AM |
Hi ! Congrats on being a new mommy !!!
I think that is wonderful! I would think that you would be able to go to any clinic ... planned parenthood / birthright etc.. that would be able to assist you medically and help you with public assistance. I am not sure the legalities on being a citizen.
But Andrea - the most important thing at this point is for you to seek prenatal care ... you want to be sure that your baby is well taken care of.
If you would like to email ... my email is [email protected]
I am here for you if you need a shoulder to cry on ...
Take care!
~ Jackie ~
www.momdad.bee.com ↑ |
| Name: Andrea | Date: Nov 12th, 2005 8:11 AM |
Hello Again, Ladies
Thank you so much for all replies, all of you are so very kind for taking an interest in my situation. I have taken advice from you, here is an update: I am 20 weeks pregnant (!), due March 26. The baby is growing normally, although I have only gained 4 pounds. I can still wear my jeans, but I suspcet that will change soon! My husband and I have decided to welcome this little one into our lives, although he is concerned that being 50 years old with a newborn will be a huge adjustment! I contacted a Crisis Pregnancy Service in my area, and they have simply been wonderful, I am blessed. I have found a Social Services program that covers all of my prenatal care, ultrasounds, prescriptions....whatever I may need. And, through them, I have established a wonderful relationship with the OB/GYN who will be delivering my unexpected (but much-loved!) Little One in March. I am still anxious about the future, but having reached out to find people who truly care has made such a difference. Thank you to One and All.....
Andie ↑ |
| Name: ~ Jackie ~ | Date: Nov 13th, 2005 1:45 AM |
Andrea: I am so happy for you ....... everything happens for a reason - and I am sure when that precious baby is born - your husband with love him / her NO MATTER WHAT!
Good luck and God Bless !
Jackie
www.momdad2bee.com ↑ |
| Name: cheenita30 | Date: Nov 30th, 2005 6:34 AM |
hi andrea,
am happy for you..am also pregnant (unwed) and due march 13-21, 2006...
i can relate to your situation as I am also a foreigner in Singapore and was concerned about Insurance Coverage for a while..thank God my boss intervened and our HR made sure that am covered (prenatal checkups and delivery fees) and maternity leave.
prob with the father of the baby tho is still up in the air...hope it all clears up once the baby is born..
btw, how are things going? ↑ |
| Name: bela | Date: Feb 5th, 2006 12:21 PM |
| i'm now 8 weeks pregnat and i feel so scared, scared of telling my boyfriend that i couldnt get an abortion that i have to keep the baby, scared that hes gonna leave me, what should i do right now? ↑ |
| Name: bela | Date: Feb 5th, 2006 12:22 PM |
| i feel so alone and empty, i'm about to start crying again not knowing what my boyfriend is gonna say bout this ↑ |
| Name: ree | Date: Feb 18th, 2006 2:15 AM |
I andrea You may or may not be eligible for services from the goverment here but there are many religious, non for profit agencies that will help you as well there are clinics that charge on a sliding scale and will help you. I am a mother of five children and my last child died of SIDS. Janaury 2006 I would suggest that you seek out other assistance just in case it is the boyfriend. and if your husband loves you he will go with you for conseling and accept that child as his own.
P.S.
The bible says, Lean unto god and not man, for the fruit of your womb is blessed, honey and that means jesus has to help you with that baby now and for ever. May God smile upon you. ↑ |
| Name: Cori | Date: Mar 3rd, 2006 5:39 PM |
Hi there, I am also 36 years old and my situtation is very similar to yours as far as ....having a irregular period, and having been with my ex-boyfriend once before reconciling my differences with my fiancé...this is a very difficult situation...if my fiance ever knew we would not be together so I am hoping that the baby is his....I don't know what I was thinking of when I was with my ex! I don't speak with him anymore and want nothing to do with him either but just like you I also have a feeling he is the father.... but still...i hope not. Well this my situtation and it is what it is. As far as service for you are you in the US? if so, what state? I may know of some services for you.
Did you tell your hustband? I have not decided not to tell my fiancé until I know exactly....I am sooooo scared, but if I tell him now it would only make things worse.. I'm still not sure what I am going to do, but I know i will not tell him at this point. ↑ |
| Name: Pamela | Date: Mar 5th, 2006 1:10 AM |
| Name: charmaine | Date: Mar 6th, 2006 12:30 AM |
congrats Andrea good luck with everything
2 Bela - if u want 2 keep ur baby thats ur choice and as hard as it will b if ur boyfriend decides not 2 stick around u can do it on ur own there r many places and people who will support and help u. If he decides not 2 stick around then he will b the 1 2 miss out on 1 of the most precious gifts u will ever get.
good luck :) ↑ |
| Name: Helen | Date: Mar 17th, 2006 8:02 AM |
| Hi, Andrea, I have almost the same problem, the father of the baby is American, and I don't know if I can do anything, since I live in another country. I would like to find out if he can get away just like this, or there is some way to make him pay at least first months.. ↑ |
| Name: Bea | Date: Mar 17th, 2006 5:40 PM |
| If you know your husbands name, date of birth, and state of residence you can file a petition for child support in the courts regardless of your citizenship. Also, try a free clinic and don't tell them that you are not an American citizen they may help you. ↑ |
| Name: Andrea | Date: Mar 18th, 2006 5:25 PM |
Hello, Ladies
I am so sorry that I have been unable to keep up with this site-I have had so much happening...Anyway, I just wanted to let all of you know that I had a baby boy on March 14, 3 weeks premature....he weighs 5lbs 11ozs, 19 in long, with a head full of black hair and perfect little fingers and baby toes! I'm just in tears writing this, because he is in the NICU until next week, and I have to leave him there every day until he weighs 6 lbs......I look back on my first entry here, and just can't believe how much everything has changed-I was SO scared when I sent my story out to all of you who actually care! Once again, I apologize for not keeping up-to-date, but anyone who wishes to contact me again:I would love to hear from all of you! If my story can have a Happy Ending, it is possible for all Mommies out there, too. Thanks so much for Everything, I can't put into words how much ALL of you have meant to me.....
Hope to hear from you soon...
Andrea in Michigan ↑ |
| Name: Andie | Date: Mar 19th, 2006 4:54 AM |
Cori are you out there? Contact me if you can...
And to Jackie, our Mom 2 Bee-I tried to e-mail you, but cannot get through. I am at [email protected].
And to Everyone else who was there for me-I'd love to hear from you. I could not have survived the past few months without the support on this site.
P.S. I just got home from the hospital, and my little boy is now in a crib (instead of an incubator), and will be coming home next week!
Andie ↑ |
| Name: BRITTANY | Date: Mar 30th, 2006 12:55 AM |
| I'M 12 AND PREGNET HOW CAN I TELL MY MOMMY? ↑ |
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| Name: TIFFANY | Date: Jul 22nd, 2006 11:54 PM |
| WELL THERE ARE PEOPLE OUT THERE THAT WILL HELP YOU WITH INSUARNCE FOR YOU'R PREGNACY AND STUFF.AND CONGRATULATION'S EVEN IF NOBODY DOES SUPPORT YOU YOU CAN DO IT WITH OUT ANYBODY JUST THINK ABOUT THAT BABY? AND GOOD LUCK TO YOU YOU WILL BE IN MY PRAYER'S? ↑ |
| Name: TO BRITTANY | Date: Jul 22nd, 2006 11:57 PM |
| YOU JUST TELL HER YOU ARE VERY YOUNG SWEETHEART AND SHOULD NOT OF BEEN HAVEING SEX BUT THERE'S AN INNOCENT LITTLE BABY INSIDE OF YOU THAT DESERVED'S A CHANCE AT LIFE SO DON'T ABORT THE BABY GIVE THE BABY A CHANCE? RATHER THAT'S ADOPTION OR KEEPING THE BABY YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO REFUSE ABORTION? ↑ |
| Name: jolaine | Date: Jan 8th, 2008 9:30 PM |
hey Andrea
my name is Jolaine Scheerle i am from the US i just found out not to long ago that i am pregnant as well. I feel a lot of greef for you for as well i am having problums with this too. my bf does not want anything to do with me now also. i feel that everything happens for a reason no mater how bad or good no mater how big or small. i think that you are ment to have this baby with or without a male there for you. i know its got to be really hard but that baby needs you and i beleive in some way you need it. women are very strong. just think of it as a gift. i hope you can look at this a see that it is not a bad thing but a wonderful thing and make the best of it. i really dont know what happens with the hole no ssn thing but i bet if you can move here the gov. will help you because you are preg. you will just have to apply for one thats all.... i wish you the best
Jolaine ↑ |
| Name: lindsey | Date: Feb 25th, 2008 9:37 PM |
| Hi i am 19 years old and i am five months pregnant. I am so scared about everything including labor. I had my first ultra sound and it was taking way longer than it should have, in the end the guy said ok everythinh looks good, ten fingers, ten toes, and i was like phew...than he said and there is your OTHER baby all ten finger and ten toes!!!! I was like what!!!! Any advice for me will be good cause I have never even held a baby or change a diapper. I love them though :) ↑ |
| Name: ashley | Date: Mar 5th, 2008 4:48 PM |
| hey, dont be so scared...... i have a child of my own and he come before the date the dr told me.... but nothing to be scared of it wil be ok... ↑ |
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| Name: Brandy | Date: Dec 10th, 2008 4:40 PM |
| My fiance doesnt want to go to my ob appointment with me. How can I convince him in a loving care way. Screaming at eachother is getting us no where. ↑ |
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