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I am almost 4 months pregnant. My bf he had a not so good job, he is saying he wants to be there for the both of us, he wants to help me thru this and go thru it with me. Its just that I dont know what to do! I never saw myself as depending on a man for much. But he cant get too much of a better job because he is an ex convict. So.... on top of that my family doesnt think too much of him. I am 23 years old, not sure if i want him to move in with me, i could really use his help financially of course we would pay half of the bills on everything. On top of every thing else there' is the trust issue. ive never actually caught him cheating, but i know he likes to flirt. He's a cutie and i know he gets approached alot! so i dont know if he will or has already given into temptation. I just dont know what to do, id like to talk to someone. The option of leaving the father and raising the child on my own has kinda passed my mind, its just im not even eligable for wic according to them i make to much money. I really dont because i stay on my own, i have my own bills and no one helps me, taking care of a child?! i definetly dont have enough money for. ↓
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| Name: SaRaH | Date: Dec 4th, 2006 9:52 PM |
Well why cant you move out with some friends, or a family memeber and they help pay the bills with you?
There is no point in living in the same place, with someone you dont trust and could possibly be a bad influence on the child. Even if you do seperate from him, he would still have to pay child support and maintenence to you.
It doesnt seem like you love or care for this person, just want to use him because its convientent for yourself.
All i can suggest is to ask around, get a flatmate or a friend/family member to move in with you instead of this guy. ↑ |
| Name: beckysd | Date: Dec 5th, 2006 8:53 PM |
| no, i DO love him, thats why its hard, cause he's an azz. But i dont know if these are my hormones that cause me to trip over stupid shyt. I dont know what and what not to put up with ya know? I do love him i really really do, Im just not sure if i want to wake up every day to him, this must sound dumb or krazy. He is the only guy im with, and that i want to be with. But I was raised with no dad, so its just that men have never played much of a role in my life, I know its sounds retarded but i just dont know what the hell i want. I guess im just scared what if it goes bad and dont work out? What if it does? what if?? what if?? what if?? ↑ |
| Name: molly-may | Date: Dec 6th, 2006 6:40 PM |
| You can't live on what ifs, and you can't tell the future. All you can do is live in the now, if you want to live with this guy then do if not then don't. He is willing to be there for you, so just take one day at a time. If you don't trust him then sit down with him and tell him straight out, if you are cheating then you are gone, you will not have that in your life or your childs. ↑ |
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