Can I first say I'm sorry to make this my first every post on here but I didn't know where else to post it. I've been a sahm for about 5yrs now and initially I had no problems with it, my youngest was born in May and my best friend had a baby in the Oct before that. All through my pregnancy I was dreading having another baby, she wasn't planned and it totally threw me. My one thought that was helping me get through was my best friend would be able to do baby stuff with me, we could go to groups etc and it would make everything so much more fun.
Anyway, she won't do ANY baby stuff with me. I love my little girl and I'm long past the initial shock of the pregnancy (thank God! lol) I want make the most of her as she's my last kid I'm having. I'm not saying I need my friend to do these things but I'm just so disappointed that she wants nothing to do with that side of our friendship. I'm really quite upset about it. I've offered to do stuff with the kids but she comes up with an excuse not to do it or she suddenly has no money. She also has a niece who's the same age as my eldest and the same thing applies, I offer and she declines in a round-about-way.
To top it all off, I haven't got that many friends but I really feel like I'm being totally ignored at the moment. I sent a msg to one of my other friends over a week ago and she still hasn't replied. Did I do something wrong?! A girl I'm supposed to be meeting with on thurs has suddenly become unavailable (her net's down apparenly) and I don't have her number. I'm sick of my friend not wanting to do anything fun and when I try to broaded my social circle people become unavailable :0(
I sound so desperate and I hate that but I just feel so incredibly lonely at the moment. I usually post on a different board but I know my friend reads it sometimes so I've had to seek help else where. I'm sorry if this is a depressing post but I'm at a loss.
Thanks for reading if you got this far.
Jewels ↓
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| Name: winnmom | Date: Nov 30th, 2008 10:30 PM |
Jewels,
First off I would like to say welcome!
Being a sahm can get lonely.....I hear you there...........
Maybe try going to some of these things, and meeting other Moms who also enjoy these things? That way you are still getting out, meeting people, and the people you are meeting are intrested in doing the same things.....????
I can not say what is going on with your friend.......But I do know that it is exhausting raising children and maybe , she just is not up to it???????Maybe she may be in a bit of a rut???? I dont know...........
But yes I would suggest you may want to look into some groups........mommy and baby, or toddler groups.......most cities have plenty to offer ..... ↑ |
| Name: Joeys_Mam | Date: Nov 30th, 2008 11:48 PM |
Welcome to the forum
Friends can be unpredictable, and sadly you can't depend on just one to get by in life. You could try going to a Mother and Toddler Group on your own and meeting new mothers, or start going to your local park; I bet there will be other mothers there with their kids.
A lot of us here are in the same shoes as you. All of my family and most of my friends live 80 miles away and I rarely see them. I have friends where I live, used to have loads more but only one of them is a mother herself, and so I see her once a week, the rest have their own children free lives and you know how that doesn't really work with SAHMs like us who can't just drop everything to go clubbing or to the cinema, and we'd be too exhausted to do that even if we could. !!!
Tell us about your family. :)
I'm Gill, 25, from Ireland. I'm also a SAHM to my 14-month-old son. ↑ |
| Name: jewels26 | Date: Dec 1st, 2008 12:40 PM |
| Thanks for the replies :0) You've both made some good points there. Such a moody first post though, sorry about that. I'm normally quite content, maybe it's a Christmas thing?! You start reflecting don't you. Anyway I'm Julie, 26, I live with my DP (of nearly 10yrs!) and our two girls Sophie (almost 5) and Jayne who's coming up to 7mths now. I must start going to baby groups, I took Sophie to one around the corner from me and it was nice but it's a bit cliquey (sp?) I really need to broaded my social circle though. Being at home can get a tad depressing! I'm not depressed though :0) Just bored most days. The net's a lifeline though! Thank God I can come and have a chat with nice ladies when I need too :0D ↑ |
| Name: winnmom | Date: Dec 1st, 2008 7:32 PM |
Jewels,
No worries about first post Hun......haha that is what we are here for......we all vent here, give and get support ....shar e etc..........
I am winn, sahm.......live in B.C Canada.......we have 5 children total, as we are a blended family......... ↑ |
| Name: jouwhoo | Date: Dec 2nd, 2008 12:02 AM |
Hi, Jewels.
I just had my last baby in July. He, too, was a shocker, especially since he's only 19 months apart from my third baby.
Anyway, I think your friend probably just wants to stay home, she's probably not outgoing, or she's just a "home body". I'm like that alot. My husband always wants to go places and I just want to stay home. Maybe you could see if you could just go to her house? Unless her house is messy and she doesn't want anyone over. Just talk to her. She probably doesn't even realize she's doing it. ↑ |
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