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I feel so alone. I have a lovely husband but he works such long hours and the kids are in school now. I dont feel like I have any real friends just associates,how can I stop feeling this way? ↓
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| Name: To rebecca | Date: May 10th, 2006 2:55 AM |
| Why don't you get a job you won't feel lonely...Personnaly I have a 17 month old and I stay at home because the day care is too expensive in my state...at the same time I am very happy to raise my baby myself...There is no need for you to be at home if you kids are at school what for? ↑ |
| Name: Trish | Date: May 10th, 2006 4:09 AM |
| Hi Rebecca,I know exactly how you feel .My bub is still at home but you can't exactly have a conversation with a 14 month old.I think getting a job is a good idea your confidence gets a real boost.There are other things you can do too ,I just make sure I have goals and they keep me occupied.I have the same problem with friends I have plenty of associates but no one I can just have a coffee with and open up to.My advice is don't worry about having plenty of friends around you ,if you've got one good friend at least you've got someone to have a laugh with.And if you are too in need of friends you are going to surround yourself with people you don't really want there in the first place.Good Luck. ↑ |
| Name: 3 time nursing mom | Date: May 10th, 2006 7:57 AM |
Rebecca,
If you do not 'have' to work, and if you haven't a desire for starting a specific career, might I recommend volunteering? So many agencies need people's help, from kitty rescue shelters to domestic abuse agencies, from the Red Cross to the League of Women Voters. Just pick whatever interest you may have, and I have no doubt that there is some group out there that would love to have your free assistance. This is also a wonderful opportunity to indeed start on a career through volunteer work. Most places, when having to choose from a pile of prospective employees, will pick the one that has volunteered in the business. For such a person has shown a definate desire, and has experience which is always far greater then education.
I like to volunteer. The library always need help in one way or the other. Some need people to read stories to preschoolers, other need assistance in shelving books. Or maybe you could work with a local agency that tutors people to read, children or adults, whichever you prefer.
You could also volunteer at your children's school, if they are not of the age that would die from embarrasment. I remember my mom doing that in elementary school. The kids loved her and I felt like a celebrity
If you are a member of a church, check into the many opportunities that exist there. If you are not a member, consider becoming one now, if the desire has ever poked your heart.
My older daughter and I used to go to a local nursing home and just visit. I befriended quite a few people that way, and boy do they have interesting stories to tell! I have met a woman that was in silent movies, another that was a rodeo star, a woman that was an olympic swimmer back in the 1930's, a man who used to play organs at theaters for silent movies, and the war stories! Holy cow! Every old guy has a war story, and they are all absolutely interesting, seriously. Many of these people long for interaction.
If you look in your paper you will find a ton of volunteer opportunities. Neighborhood and Community papers, the kind that land on your doorstep and get all mucky from the rain, are filled with great opportunities.
Also depending on your neighborhood, and your cities local rulings on boulevard gardens, I have found that working a flower garden near the street where neighbors walk by is a great way to meet neighbors. My best friends are former neighbors that I met that way. Not only do you meet people, you have a gorgeous garden, and self satisfaction. There is something wonderfully therapeutic about working in the dirt.
Good luck, I hope this helps. ↑ |
| Name: 3 time nursing mom | Date: May 10th, 2006 8:00 AM |
oh, and I meant to mention, that when you volunteer for something that piques your interest (library or politics, for instance) you are more apt to find like minded people. And if you volunteer for school stuff, you are apt to find people with kids that know your kids. And it's always easier to get together with that kind of interaction, lol
It just takes a little bit of courage. ↑ |
| Name: Rebecca | Date: May 10th, 2006 7:58 PM |
Thank you all for you support I really appreciate it. Isnt it funny how we can be so honest with people we dont know and how much the words of strangers can make you feel better.
I forgot to mention I do work 2 days a week, while the kids are at school and I have 1 day a week I dedicate to cleaning, its just the other two Im so bored and then I sit around watching doctor phil and eating for comfort, which i dont want to do, because then i feel disgusted in myself.Dont get me wrong I dont want you to picture me as this overweight person who sits around miserably on the couch eating potato chips because im not, and once again thanks heaps for all your support. ↑ |
| Name: Lynne n | Date: May 10th, 2006 8:19 PM |
Hi why dont you try doing some charity work or you could join a clooage course part time maybe evening or something so that you could make freinds.
Ihope you find something that helps! ↑ |
| Name: Jacinta | Date: May 20th, 2006 6:07 AM |
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