Hello:
Just wanted to let you know I lost my mom in 98 to cancer as well. I recently had twins in April and I wish she was here.
I have to take care of them by myself. It is tough. I miss my mother being here also.
Just take one day at a time and trust in yourself. Just remember all the good things about your mother.
I find myself thinking about things she told me when I was a little girl. I use them to help me take care of my babies. I am a new mother and I wish she was here myself. ↑ |
| I didnt lose my mom... but I lost my father almost exactly one year ago to cancer also. It is so hard because I want him here to see his grandchild so bad and it just cant happen. I get very angry, very child like and very sad. You are not alone. A girl here at my work was telling me that her dad died and 8 months later she had her daughter, she says it was like she lost her dad but God gave her her daughter to help ease the pain. I dont know. If you ask me I go through many different moods about it. First I will be very worried like I will be mad if it is a boy because thats not fair that finally there is a boy and papas not here to see it... see dad had 3 girls, I had 2 girls and sister had 4 girls!! NO boys!!! But then I think maybe this is what dad wants and somehow he is cutting deals with God... I get very crazy when it comes to my dad because it hurts so bad and I am just not over it yet. ↑ |
| Lost my mom 5 years ago to ovarian cancer. She was 45 and it was hard. I now have two children and wish she was here. She would have loved them so much. I think you really find out how strong you are when you lose someone close to you. I try to show my daughter her picture often and tell her about my mom. ↑ |
I lost my mom right after I turned 18 and when I had my son at 33 I started to really miss her, not only for myself but for him as well. My father has passed too so my son only has his paternal grandfather and he has health problems so he can't do anything with my son. I really have a hard time with this.
Just wanted to let you know you are not alone. I did read a book that helped me before my son was born. It's called Motherless Daughters. ↑ |
| Lisa A. who is the book by (Motherless daughters). I think I would be interested in reading it and maybe passing it on to my sister she is 23 and really still has trouble with our mother's passing. ↑ |
| I am so sorry for your losses, I get mad at mine a lot for various things, but I couldn't imagine life with out them. ↑ |
