Hi everyone- I just found this forum so forgive me if I am not posting in the right area. I just found out last week that I am pregnant...I am 23 and it definitely a big surprise. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and live together....Anyway, out of all the people I have to tell about this, the one I fear the most is my boss. I have a very unique work situation- basically its a VERY small company (only about 5 employees, I am the only one who actually works in the office, everyone else from home) I do all the day to day stuff in the office. I started working here part time while I was in college and then gradually transitioned into FT during my Jr. year of college. I graduated last year and my boss asked me to stay with the company for one year and he would give me a raise. (Side note- my boss is about 78 years old- I thinks he's so used to the system that he and I have that he was literally afraid of change) Well, that year came and went and he decided he wanted to keep the business open and offered to pay for any classes in graduate school if I stayed here..
Well, I've been studying for the GMAT for two weeks and have no found this news out. I dont' know what to do. I don't think I can continue to keep my plans of going back to school at this time. I also don't know if he's going to look at me in a different light, since I'm not married, and not very established yet. I'm really scared that I won't have a job to come back to. Deep down in my heart I know this won't be the case but I am literally terrified of telling him. He's always been one of the most generous and caring men I've ever met, I just don't know why I think he's going to turn his back on me.
I want to wait until I am at least 9 weeks preg. to tell him but in the meantime I am supposed to be applying to Grad schools and taking my GMAT test. I can't concentrate my more than 2 mins since I got this news so I'm also worried I'm going to bomb the test. I guess my question is: How should I approach telling him? Should I just tell him and put it out there, or tell him and come prepared with some sort of plan (I.e. maybe we could get a temp in the office for the 2 mos or so that I am out and use my salary to pay for it) OR if I should just tell him and see if he can put together a plan?
Please help. He is the NUMBER ONE person I am scared of telling, not even my parents...which seems backwards to me but hey, it is what it is, right? Even though this pregnancy was not planned and we are not really ready per se, I know I have what it takes to provide for my baby, I have a great support system of family and friends, and I have a good head on my shoulders. I want to convey this to him as well that I feel blessed by this but at the same time scared.
Thanks for reading, sorry for the length!! ↓
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