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Name: Lynn
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Can you direct me where to post this information if not here. I am 35 years old have an 8 year old child and have been discussing with my partner, father of my child, having more children. These discussions have been going on for awhile. He hasn't been sure and has put it off for over a year b/c he has been changing carreers, money, room. He tells me after all this tiem he doesn't think he wants any more children and I am really having a hard time with this. I want to get some feedback from others in my position.
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Name: Serina | Date: Apr 24th, 2006 5:23 PM
See (Pick your crowd) under Divorce heading
My husband doesn't want to have kids-heading for divorce
This might help you see all the comments.
Good luck and be happy you have at least one! 

Name: Lisa | Date: Apr 25th, 2006 1:31 AM
Well,you choose between remaining married to a man who doesn't want more kids and divorcing so you can find another man who wants kids with you.No,it's not an easy decision but it is one you'll have to decide. 

Name: Lili | Date: May 10th, 2006 3:48 PM
Lynn, I am 34 and have 2 kids one is 6 one is 4 and my husband and I have had similar discussions. He thinks 2 is enough because we are a one income family and renting, so he wants to buy a house and having more kids would make that nealry impossible now. We also live in a 2 bedroom apt. so space is limited. I get all of his points, and I too am looking foward to having both kids in school this coming Spetember and maybe getting back to work, and if I was 28 I would do just that, but I am 34 and I can't help feeling like time is not a luxary I have anymore so it is soon or never. 

Name: pj033070 | Date: Aug 21st, 2006 12:54 AM
I am in a similar situation. My husband kept putting a second child off for various reasons, then all of the sudden decided that he didn't really want any more. We have always talked about two kids, and I am heart broken. We are a two income family, we do not struggle financially, but he insists that we couldn't afford college for two kids (which I believe we can). I guess I don't allow money to rule things such as this! My parents could no much afford college for one child, let alone all three of us, and his parents were the same. Thoughts? 

Name: www.really-rich.com | Date: Sep 11th, 2006 2:40 PM
Hi Lynn,
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Name: jamberrt | Date: Sep 11th, 2006 3:06 PM
Hi Lynn, not sure if this helps or not...my husband and I were high-school sweethearts. Met at 15, dated, broke up, reconnected and married at 25. Children wasn't even a discussion. It was when, not if. Then came the infertility reality and my whole life changed. I didn't know who I was because for as long as I can remember I was going to be a mom.

So I assumed we'd do invitro, adopt...whatever. NOPE. He said we weren't meant to have kids and that's that. Then I was really grieving. Here's the man I loved and what?

I had "friends" tell me to leave him and find someone else. By then I was 30 and our 15 year relationship had received so much nurturing and work, I couldn't imagine...I didn't want to start again. So I decided I would be a forever "aunt."

I don't know if it was my resignation or because a little girl in my extended family needed parents, but HE came to ME and now we have a 12 and 2 year old. We were both 41 in July.

I'm exhausted most of the time and yeah...it worked out for me. But it was a hard decision at the time and there are times I have questions about some choices along the way but the biggest decision I've made is to try and find something every day to be grateful for.

Let me know what you decide. 


Name: sam | Date: Sep 25th, 2007 5:32 PM
i'm 34 and want more kids 

Name: sam | Date: Sep 25th, 2007 5:33 PM
i have a 12 year old and dont mind having another one. 

Name: clshadrick | Date: Sep 26th, 2007 7:45 PM
me to, i've been wanting a child since august and still do. My husband says no but I need a child..I have a 2 year old child already, and I hunger for another child. i want to be pregant again, and give birth. [email protected] 

Name: Jane | Date: May 22nd, 2008 9:50 PM
Don't do it!! 

Name: jen | Date: Dec 16th, 2008 12:07 AM
i know how u feel my partner promised me over 12 months ago we would talk about having another baby but now everytime i try too we fight about it then he turns around and says no more we fight to much . we have a 3 yr old who is asking if she can have a baby sister for xmas its reaking my heart . 

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