| Name: zen | Date: Jan 24th, 2009 10:58 PM |
| I am a parent of a 12yr old and i am looking for answer. For some reason my daughter can't seem to consentrate in class and she to so very hiper how can i handle this situation? ↑ |
| Name: karen thomson | Date: Jan 25th, 2009 5:59 PM |
Hi, I completly understand how you feel. My son is now 16 and was given a diagnosis of ADHD when he was 6, but like you we knew that "something" was wrong.
In the end we stopped going to functions and our life revolves around our son.
You will not get him diagnosed til he is 6 as the guidelines for precribing medication is not authorised til then.
The only things may help just now are adding Omega3,6,&9 to his diet you can get these as supplements and the best are (eye -q).Other than that i would suggest enforcing boundaries at all times,forward planning events and avoiding those events with excess stimulation.
And for you always have the same bedtime for the kids so allow you some adult time, have "quiet time" each day adaing for all the kids, this is a time when th ey ahve to stay intheir rooms and play.This will be difficult to enforce in the beginning but kids with ADHD love set routines and he will respond to this in time.if you want to chat just contact me at [email protected]
I wish you and your family well. ↑ |
| Name: jennifer | Date: Feb 8th, 2009 2:56 PM |
| I have a son who I thought had adhd from the start of last year. I brought it up to his doctor and he has giving me ideas but none of them have worked. so we proceeded to go see an behavior consultant at Children's Mental Health Services this year. We go see them once a week . My son Christian hit's.kicks, screams, throws long tantrums. I have gotten to the point where i didn't know what to do but put him on meds. i also want to get myself some consoling. i have read that this type a disease is genetic. If anyone has some good idea's to try to help with a child that has adhd please e-mail at [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: rochelle | Date: Mar 3rd, 2009 7:19 PM |
| my son was diagnosed with autism. i am having the same problem. just count to ten.yes get him reevaluated he is not to young. just stay calm everything will be ok. ↑ |
| Name: rose | Date: Mar 4th, 2009 6:32 PM |
i have a 4 year old very sneaky. like to get in things that are dangerous i am tierd of repiting my self. she does not want to sleep in her own room. She acts up in the stores all the time she wants to be notice.
when she in school she pees on her self dont want to play with other kids.. or when i bring her around my friiends and her kids she strats to be a bully. with her sisters is the same way her older sister she look up to her middle sister she is mean to her.. she wants her way my mom spoils her to much and baby her. my email [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: Isabella | Date: Mar 9th, 2009 3:01 AM |
| Name: sarah | Date: Mar 28th, 2009 10:05 AM |
I am struggling with my 3 yr old boys behavior! It has only become an issue since he started nursery sessions that he has begun to hit, kick, bite etc. There has been issues where he has scratched the teacher, hit etc but its like they are describing a completely different child to me as he does not behave as bad as this at home! He has never lashed out at me like this, he's been such a sweet, affectionate boy and i feel awful as a parent because everytime i go to pick him up from nursery i am always geting told he has done something wrong.
I have tried disciplining him at home, im not a parent who would turn there head and ignore it i DO NOT want my child to be the bully in school! Only two weeks ago i got called into the headmistresses office to talk and try and come up with a solution so we tried some different things reward chart, naughty step etc and i also agreed to see a lady at the school that deals with behavioural problems in school this was a week ago i saw her and also agreed to some other things to try i cut out his sweets completely in the week and used them only as a treat at wkends and limited his intake of juice, he has a regular bedtime routine etc and the nursery informed me there has been a bit of an improvement but then only yesterday i went to pick him up i got called into the headmistresses office to be told he has bit one of the nursery staff and that he can no longer attend nursery there!!
I am a working parent and cannot afford not to work and this has put me in hell of a situation, he was also down for a placement to start school there in september and my 6 year old daughter attends the same school.
I am frustrated that i do not feel the school has at all given it long enough to try and help my son it was only a week ago i saw the behavioral women and the school has not even given it a chance to try and change his behaviour i feel they have just given up on him! where i was seeking help agreeing to try things to change his behavior yet i know that staff dont need to put up with him scratching and biting them but i just feel completely lost now, i feel as if no one is really trying to help me overcome this problem and yet i want my son to have a good education! ↑ |
| Name: clyton | Date: Apr 23rd, 2009 11:23 AM |
| Name: trasca | Date: Apr 29th, 2009 4:38 AM |
| Hi Please Please Please do me a favour people if you haven't already read these books do so. One of them will help you understand adhd from the point of view from the person that has it and the other just gives you a great insight into buys.the first is called ONLY A MOTHER COULD LOVE HIM...Writtern by the boy him self Benjamin Polis..If this is the only book you ever read or have time for please do it and the other one is called Raising Boys By Steve Biddulph.I also have 2 sons 1 is 16yrs old and the other is 6yrs old and yes I have lived through it and still going through it.but there can be some good news it does get better for some kids if not all of them in time.I know it sounds like its a long way off especially when your little one is only 4 yrs old but they can control at some stage when they are older with alot of help and no meds either. if you would like to hear more please leave a post thanks from Australia. ↑ |
| Name: robin | Date: Jun 1st, 2009 10:31 PM |
| trust me it's not just you. i have an almost four year old with the same problems...look into a pediatric behavioral/developmental specialist. if you'd like to chat about it let me [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: chn | Date: Jun 6th, 2009 4:10 AM |
| my 2year hit me always what 2 do ↑ |
| Name: grace | Date: Jun 13th, 2009 11:39 AM |
| say pooooooooooooo it makes them calm down for me ↑ |
| Name: sarah | Date: Jun 18th, 2009 4:44 AM |
| i need help with my 4 year old son. when i tell him to old something he tells me no or to shut up. he does not listen and when i try to punish him he is very mouthy and he thinks everything is funny. does this have anything to do with his age group . i need some help ↑ |
| Name: twila | Date: Jun 26th, 2009 2:05 AM |
| my son is the say way what have you found that works????? ↑ |
| Name: phyllis | Date: Jun 30th, 2009 2:13 AM |
my two great grandchildren have moved in with me ,can not control them ,they will not listen or continues bad behavior ,they are both boys 3 and 4
does no good to do the time outs or spanking ,what can i do ↑ |
| Name: Tierra | Date: Jul 6th, 2009 3:42 PM |
| Your just a hater u have to many kids get over it women leave folks alone some times gosh i dont beleive it you are a hating lier ↑ |
| Name: jenny | Date: Jul 9th, 2009 10:43 AM |
| hello my daughter is 5 and was diagnosed in feb now the only reason i got her diagnosed so young is cos i took her to the doctors every week untill they would help me, you know your own child and when they not average as a mother you know. my daughter is hyperactive innatentive and impulisve she acts out when we visit people and i have had the same you dont telll em off enough, its not a case of telling them off they need a consequence say removing there toy from them for ten mins they have it back when they calm down or things they enjoy doing they cant, sounds mean but does work but if you do that you must reward them for being good , also children with adhd thrive on routine and good praise and i mean over the top good praise if he buttons one button its omg your such a clever good boy , trust me there are plenty of methods to try i have just come off a course about it and would love to share with anyone so feel free to ask away im no proffesional but i live with it just like you ↑ |
| Name: Chelsea | Date: Jul 27th, 2009 9:27 PM |
Hello, I am having the same problem with my 4 year old, I dont know what to do everyone says he's just being a boy..but something feels wrong..hes so mean, yet can be the sweetest little boy..but he will never listen and the more I spank him the more he acts up, Ive tried everything a I am persistant but, no one will keep at it with me. He always has to have his way and he wantsw to always be eating...its getting to the point where I cant handle him.
I think I may have to go to a certain kind of doctor...Im not sure what else to do ↑ |
| Name: reachstar | Date: Sep 1st, 2009 1:53 AM |
| There is help at an early age, somehow I stumbled on checking to see if my son was autistic, some of the signs are the same. I called the #number for autism and they referred me to a number where they actually have testing at the school. He went through about 5 different tests and we filled out extensive questionaire. He didn't quality for any program but it did show ADD/ADHD and they put him in a pre kindergarten setting to get him up to speed in his motor skills. There is hope but you have to find any source that will get you to the next step. I'ts so hard ↑ |
| Name: fishman | Date: Sep 18th, 2009 12:03 PM |
| You may want to look into a child behavior modification program that will help you get a handle on your child's defiant and [a href="http://www.thetotaltransformation.com"]out of control behavior[/a]. ↑ |
| Name: Jen | Date: Feb 25th, 2010 5:30 PM |
Dear Steph,
If you doctor can not help maybe the school district can, call and request an evaluation and let them know your concerns and you need a "FBA" a functional behavior analysis as your child is displaying out of control behavior. The district you live in should have a program for special needs children and it is all free. Once they have done a series of evaluations and hopefully your child will not need them, but if he does you will be given a placement for your child and the the special ed teacher will help. We are not experts in this area from birth we are going through learning curves as parents and sometimes need help too. I am against medication for children, sorry. Try this first, if the school can't help you call Google TASK, call SELPA the regional center maybe they can direct you to correct services. Hope I helped. Best of luck! ↑ |
| Name: Tricia | Date: Feb 25th, 2010 6:57 PM |
| My daughter was about that age when we started seeing symptoms of what now we know is ADHD and Bipolarism. The best advise i could give you, and I don't know what behaviors he is doing right now, but try counseling and bring a video tape of him at his worst, My daughters counselor didn't believe me either but i was persistant. We finally got a referral to a psychiatrist who had her test at moderately ADHD, Good luck, I know how frustrating it can be. ↑ |
| Name: amanda | Date: May 10th, 2010 7:52 PM |
| i have an out of control 4yr old that i dont know what to do with anymore he doesnt listen to me he has a hard time sleeping at night he is mean to others he is getting stronger than me and i have a bad back and cant have him running from me and hurting me like he does i have tryed to take him to the dr and see if he has ADHD but the dr says there is nothing they can do for him til he starts school in september but i cant wait that long i need help now i am worried for his safety and for me ↑ |
| Name: pam | Date: Jul 1st, 2010 8:05 PM |
| ok i have an out of control 4 yr old step son!!!! Hes mean to his sister he is disrespectful to me and his teachers at school he has been kicked out of 3 day cares for his behavior! He spits on people and when you ask him why did you do that he says because i can or because i wanted to! i gave him a spanking the other day and he laughed at me and said that didnt hurt! This is starting to come between mine and my husbands marriage what do i do ↑ |
| Name: maria | Date: Jul 17th, 2010 8:33 PM |
| I have a3 year old daughter she spits kick scream curse and she talk back and she very very hyper please help me ↑ |
| Name: Mis mommy | Date: Jul 27th, 2010 11:09 PM |
| I know how u feel my 3 yr old soon to be 4 yes old is well vary out of controle I can't deal wth him he is so bad i just had a baby she is 2 months old and he is so mean to other kids he has to have his way or no way even for hrs he will cry and not stop I don't give in all the time but sometimes if I am not givingin in then it's hell I know he has some problems he can't talk to good and he can barley dress himself it's a strain he don't get anything I say aaah anyways I feel your pain huni hang in there one day u will get some help I am fighting my doc now to get him on ADHD meds ↑ |
| Name: theresa | Date: Aug 1st, 2010 11:59 PM |
| OMG!! I totally relate to you!!!!!!!!!!! My 4 yr old drives me over the edge. discipline doesn't work. Family doesn't want to keep him b/c of his behavior. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD, which makes me believe he has it. I have read that a child can't be properly diagnosed until age 6. I will discuss this with my childs dr. but more than likely he's to young for meds, I can't wait until he's older to get on medication. I know without a doubt he has it. Good luck to you! ↑ |
| Name: Lori | Date: Aug 10th, 2010 5:19 PM |
| Hi there, My situation is similar, I am a mom of two and expecting, my adhd son is 3, and i have a 2 year old as well. Alex torments his brother to no end, pushes him downstairs and has even tried hurting him. Things are getting out of control. He has recently found a love of taking prescription pills, hes overdosed and had his stomach pumped 3 times this past 6 months alone. I am a stay at home mom but attending online courses, I need a break. Can anyone shed any light on maybe where i may go from here. ↑ |
| Name: Danielle | Date: Aug 12th, 2010 5:47 PM |
I don't know what to do, my 3 year old daughter is out of control. She is a very smart little girl she is a little more advanced then most 3 year olds but the problem is I don't know how to disiplin her. When she throughs her fits I tell her that she can't watch her cartoons ( that really makes her mad) But then that makes it worse. Whan I put her in the corner she throughs her self on the floor and screams the whole time every thing that I have tryed does not seem to work I feel like I am babying her to much but I hate to have to yell at her all day long . What should I do when nothing works?
When I'm at work and her dad is home with her she does just fine even at bed time. I have just reasently got married and my husband has a 4 year son that we get every other week he is a wonderful little boy and my daughter just loves the heck out of her brother and he loves her very much to but they fight all the time to the point where we have to send them to their bed rooms and not let them play togeather. When her brother comes over it seems to be worse. I'm going crazy and I'm also going to have a new baby girl in 3 months witch we are very excited about so are are children they can't wait they hug and kiss my belly all the time! ↑ |
| Name: yh | Date: Aug 23rd, 2010 11:35 PM |
| Name: lawbug | Date: Sep 23rd, 2010 10:06 PM |
| I have a 6 year old boy who is way out of control. He back talks all the time, He doesn't listen to his teachers in school and this morning he hit a kid and threw a rock at another. I don't know how to fix this. Any suggestions ↑ |
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