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I am looking for a place to rent for the time I will be there for the birth of my son/daughter and I was wondering if any one new of a place to look rental's up at please. ↓
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| Name: icechick | Date: Sep 9th, 2006 5:37 PM |
| Name: Carolyn | Date: Sep 9th, 2006 5:42 PM |
Icechick,
Look up Extended Stay America.
They are very reasonably priced, and great accomodations.
Hugs-
Carolyn ↑ |
| Name: 2poms4us | Date: Sep 9th, 2006 6:43 PM |
Hey Icechick,
When we went to CA for our failed adoption last May we also looked into rentals- due to ICPC and all that was involved we did not know how long we would be there. I googled rental places in areas of interest (we could go anywhere in the state after the birth). There is a lot available in CA. We ended up at an extended stay type hotel (all that was available in the small town our birthmother was deliverying in) and planned to move on when she was ready- however our birthmother chose to parent so we came back home and never ended up renting. I know if you google the area you need you will get a ton of hits.
Best of luck,
Karen ↑ |
| Name: califadoptee | Date: Sep 9th, 2006 10:13 PM |
| Name: 2poms4us | Date: Sep 9th, 2006 11:27 PM |
little town about 1 hour from fresno- we looked at renting in palm springs- and carmel- but never got to do it- after everything was over we just wanted to get home.
karen ↑ |
| Name: califadoptee | Date: Sep 10th, 2006 3:44 AM |
| I'm confused as to which of you is looking for a place to stay? Icechick, 2poms4us, or both? Let me know - I'm a Calif native - also have lots of family in central valley (parents used to live in Fresno). ↑ |
| Name: icechick | Date: Sep 10th, 2006 5:12 AM |
| Its Me but I found out what I needed.(Thanks) ↑ |
| Name: Miranda | Date: Sep 10th, 2006 4:08 PM |
| We are in Madera, CA if that helps to. ↑ |
| Name: icechick | Date: Sep 10th, 2006 4:08 PM |
http://www.adoptivefamilies.com/adopt
ionlaws/StateAdoptionLaws.pdf
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Question? I know that link is Calfornia Rules, What does the father part mean please, and does that mean when she is discharge is when she release her rights to me and then 30 days before I can finalize. Does that mean, we stay in CA for 30 days. Thanks ↑ |
| Name: 2poms4us | Date: Sep 10th, 2006 4:54 PM |
Hey Icechick,
In CA the birthmother cannot sign until she is released from the hospital-and she can chose to sign a waiver to the 30day rule- if she signs your adoption is final as soon as it is filed- usually within 24-48hrs after she signs. If she does not sign the waiver-yes you have to stay or the baby can go to a foster family until the waiting period is over- that was not an option I cared for- you will have to wait for ICPC clearence if you live outside of CA- ususally takes 7-14 days- that process starts after the papers are filed. The birthfather can sign anytime prior to birth- he once he signs then he is done- there is no waiting period. You probably should get an attorney or agency (one that will just file papers for you-costs a lot less) to make sure all goes well.
Hope that helps,
Karen ↑ |
| Name: icechick | Date: Sep 10th, 2006 5:39 PM |
| Karen, Thank we have a Lawyer and she says that she is signing as soon as she is released from the Hospital and then we have to wait to hear from the attorney on the clearing is that correct, She was raped, she can not list Birthfather. Thanks for all your help. ↑ |
| Name: icechick | Date: Sep 10th, 2006 5:40 PM |
| Sorry one more thing, While waiting on clearance can the baby not go to our hotel room with us. ↑ |
| Name: califadoptee | Date: Sep 10th, 2006 7:25 PM |
| The birthmother could grant you Power of Atty to release the child to you, but she would still be the legal parent until the clearance is complete. She can also grant Power of Atty to an atty or agency. ↑ |
| Name: 2poms4us | Date: Sep 10th, 2006 7:29 PM |
Hey Icechick,
The last post is correct - she can sign power of attorney- I believe that you lawyer can petition the courts now regarding the birthfather to have all that done before the birth. If your bm signs power over to you or your attorney you can take the baby anywhere in the state. You cannot leave the state until all ICPC papers are cleared.
Karen ↑ |
| Name: icechick | Date: Sep 10th, 2006 7:29 PM |
Ok my attorney says she will call us when the papers are all complete, while we wait can we go to the hotel with the baby?
Thanks ↑ |
| Name: icechick | Date: Sep 10th, 2006 7:31 PM |
| Thanks I am confused but thats ok. I will seek legal help tomorrow. Once again the suggestion's was appreciated. ↑ |
| Name: 2poms4us | Date: Sep 10th, 2006 7:46 PM |
Hey Icechick- if your birthmother releases the baby to you prior to papers being filled will be up to her- but there are short term forms that need to be filled out for you to do that- sort of like a "temporary foster" type deal- either your lawyer/agency/or self would be the "foster" until rest of papers are signed. But you need to talk to you bm and see what she is comfortable with- is she going to room in with the baby?- will she let the baby leave the hostpital before she does?- for example she has c-section and has to stay 72hrs and baby is ready to be released at 24-48hrs will she allow you to take baby? All things that only she can answer - try to have a plan before you get the the hospital. In our situation we were to take baby when baby was ready to be released- our bm had planned c-section- however the night before the baby was born our bm changed her mind and wanted the baby to room in and stay until she could be released- we were absolutely fine with that- unfortunately for us she did chose to parent- however this was good for her and her baby.
Hope that make some sort of sense?! - sometimes I feel like I am talking in circles when posting!
Karen ↑ |
| Name: icechick | Date: Sep 10th, 2006 8:26 PM |
| Name: Gaylin | Date: Sep 10th, 2006 8:27 PM |
Icechick, Call me and I will tell you how it worked when we adopted Aidan. Remember we adopted him from California. Hope it will help! Talk to you soon.
Gaylin ↑ |
| Name: Carolyn | Date: Sep 10th, 2006 10:47 PM |
Hi Icechick:
Here is the website for Exctended Stay America.
I hope it helps you.
Hugs-
Carolyn ↑ |
| Name: Carolyn | Date: Sep 10th, 2006 10:54 PM |
Sorry icechick, here it is !
http://www.extendedstayamerica.co
m/hotels/hotels.html
Hugs-
Carolyn
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| Name: Miranda | Date: Sep 11th, 2006 3:57 AM |
| Sorry I did not read all the posts so this may have been already said about the BF. If a BF does not sign he has 3 years in Ca to prove that he had no knowledge about the baby to come back, he has to do all the leg work for the courts to try. If he signs don't worry about this. Now that is how it was for my son and we live in Ca. It may be different if you live in another state. ↑ |
| Name: icechick | Date: Sep 11th, 2006 4:08 AM |
| Oh my that scares me to death, what do I do.... ↑ |
| Name: Miranda | Date: Sep 11th, 2006 4:15 AM |
| you need to bring it up to your Attorney and see when they say. If the BF knows about her being preg. it would be really hard for him to get the baby. He has to order I think blood work a attorney and lots of paper work and prove that he knew nothing. My son will FINALLY be 3 this year. It is very scary but something you will deal with to give that special child a great life. Now this may be different in your state I must remind you. ↑ |
| Name: Miranda | Date: Sep 11th, 2006 4:16 AM |
| Where were you going to be in CA? ↑ |
| Name: icechick | Date: Sep 11th, 2006 4:31 AM |
| I am sorry I am going to be in Ca, But I am not from ca? ↑ |
| Name: Miranda | Date: Sep 11th, 2006 4:37 AM |
| yes I understand that you are not from Ca? I was wondering where you were going to be with your BM when she gives birth what town? ↑ |
| Name: Miranda | Date: Sep 11th, 2006 4:38 AM |
| we are in Madera and if you needed a place I could help. We are not looking to adopt any more at this time in our life. ↑ |
| Name: icechick | Date: Sep 11th, 2006 4:39 AM |
| Miranda do you have email? IM or something please? ↑ |
| Name: Miranda | Date: Sep 11th, 2006 4:42 AM |
yes,
[email protected] and our old website before our daughter is luv2adopt.net so you know a little about us I think it is still up and running. hey i need to get the kids down for the night. love to help if I can ↑ |
| Name: icechick | Date: Sep 11th, 2006 4:52 AM |
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