| Name: ralton5 | Date: Aug 3rd, 2006 6:30 AM |
| hey i am very depressd i want to know what i do ↑ |
| Name: molotov.cocktail | Date: Sep 1st, 2006 5:53 PM |
Look, you have to let her know that you really actually care about her, you just have to go into her room and tell her that and don't go out no matter how much she screams at you or tells you she hates you because she just really really needs to know that somebody cares about her. You just have to try extra extra hard to let her know it because it's probably something she doesn't even dare believe is true right about now. If there's something traumatic that's happened to her previously she's not gonna wanna talk about it or be reminded about it but you have to remind her- just do it in spades, get it out gently. There may be something that happened just recently that built up her depression, but that won't be it- she's probably remembering just about every bad thing that ever happened to her and it's all blowing up inside her mind and every tiny thing becomes a massive tragedy.
A lot of parents make the mistake of thinking that because their teen doesn't want to hang out with them anymore it means they don't want to talk to them, and so they leave them alone totally. It's a big mistake but and easy one to make, I don't blame you if you did. Only when that happens then the teenager just thinks they don't love them anymore, even if they do. You just have to keep trying and reminding her that even though she'll get pissed off about it, because getting annoyed at your mom for bothering you constantly is way less deep than thinking your mom doesn't care about you. I know this is pretty garbled but I really hope it helps you. ↑ |
| Name: outofthebluez | Date: Sep 3rd, 2006 2:19 AM |
| you should tell her t oget off her butt or you'll call a phscairtrist! ↑ |
| Name: Lovemylife | Date: Sep 11th, 2006 3:11 PM |
Hi,
My sister was just like that FOR YEARS until recently (except for the eating part) and I think it was the adjustment from teen to adolescent...my sister was also nervous about confessing to my parents that she was a lesbian..so her identity made her feel vulnerable and kind of go into a shell... I would suggest taking her to a beautiful destination.(vacation..if your expenses can allow)..the beach, spa treatment, video games, something that you and her can do together that interests her...nurture your relationship.. Maybe your daughter feels that her peers aren't there for her. If that's the case I recommend PeersUnite@yahoo.com..they even have a myspace: myspace.com/peersunite and their website is PeersUnite.homestead.com. I paid 10 dollars for my sister to have that one on one connection with her peers and she felt that she could unleash her problems without being judged..it's a fantastic group of kids who help her..i read their responses..(maybe i shouldn't be sneaky but I paid for it!) and she is beginning to feel that not ALL of her peers feel the way she had thought. It's therapeutic but without the face to face interaction or medical mumbo jumbo that makes someone feel their a CASE!!! I hope that you and your daughter make some progress...
Sincerely,
I love my life. ↑ |
| Name: lostgirl4 | Date: Jul 18th, 2007 11:59 PM |
| hey... im new to this. im 17 years old. ↑ |
| Name: earline | Date: Sep 19th, 2007 12:24 PM |
| my daughter just turned 14 and she has always been an outgoing and very active girl sports wise and still is but lately she has become very consistently sad and for the life of me I can not figure it out, she use to talk to me about everything and now if I ask her a question she wants to know why I do not trust her and the person is usually I am inquiring about is a boy and she said he is just a friend. But on her my space she has that her life sucks and that she made some wrong choices and I am truly at my wits ends. please help me if you have any suggestions at all ↑ |
| Name: sporklover | Date: Jan 10th, 2008 6:32 PM |
| take her to see someone like a therapist. don't wait for self destructive behavior. i'm talking from experience!! don't try to talk to her yourself... ↑ |
| Name: Bravan | Date: Jan 18th, 2008 12:49 AM |
I think the best advice is to understand that the way she feels is the way she thinks, so what ever is going on in her mind she believes to be true not matter what.
I think what she needs is postive voice, telling her how beautiful she is, how special she is, how wonderful she is CONSTANTLY and allow these words to be in place and that she thinks about them more and more each day.
Even leave positive affirmations around the place so she reads them and is in her mind everyday................remember it only takes 3 weeks to create a habbit.
Everyone is unique and special and fantastic in their own way, draw out her strengths and make sure she hears them daily : ) ↑ |
| Name: MARISOL | Date: Feb 8th, 2008 8:48 PM |
| ok your child mite be stressd about school or problems at home or a crush the most you can do at this point is trying to be a friend and being thair for her at this point of depression thats all she needs a friend some one she can sit and poure all her problems out to because bottoling them up like she is wont help at all so listen to her when she trys to tallk all she needs is a persone to listen to her problems and help herwork them out by her side some one to pick her up when she falls some one to give her a bit of hope in her life some one who would make her feal she has somthing to look foward to ↑ |
| Name: Emo_tions | Date: Feb 10th, 2008 5:21 PM |
| I think that she may become emo or shes having a little trouble in her life . . . Im emo and i really do that . .. Its hard to understand but im 11 years old and im amy she might be going threw a tough time....help her out ↑ |
| Name: depressedrachel | Date: Feb 11th, 2008 3:03 AM |
| Force your daughter to get help take her to a cycyatrist or maybe sit down with her with a big meal and some of her friends and have a friendly talk with her to let her know that shes not alone and she has som1 to lean on through the bad times. I also think that you should move her down to a low floor romove sharp objects, rope, string from her room so if she does become suicidal youll have a chance to talk to her. PLEASE ACT FAST!! ↑ |
| Name: Sultrybabycup | Date: Feb 11th, 2008 10:26 AM |
| i hear that you can beat the deperssion out of 'em ↑ |
| Name: melrose08 | Date: Mar 31st, 2008 6:45 PM |
| Hi! Im 16 and last year i was depressed and tried to kill myself but luckly my sister rushed me to the hospital and had my stomach pumped of the sleeping pills. But my mom would not get my 'help' or anything. I dont know what started it but I was the total 'preppy' girl on the dance team and no one expected me to be the suicide case. But it did happen and i dropped out of dance. This year im not dealing with depression but i now have an eating disorder. I can't tell you anything that helped me get over it or an exact time i got over it or anything like that. I guess you could say i 'grew out of it' like my mom says or whatever. God had something to do with it and hopefully God can help me through my ED. ↑ |
| Name: lovexyou | Date: Jan 4th, 2009 2:52 PM |
Ok, well i'm only 15 and you probably think what i'm saying won't help anything because i'm so young. But it's worth a try. I've helped lots of my friends and family when they have been through times like this.
You should sit down and talk to her and tell her how much you love her and you always will no matter what- that will help.
Tell her how you feel about her being in this situation and ask her what's going on. She's a teenager so she will most likely give you a nasty attitude. Just keep a soft voice and have patience.
Also, bringing her to a doctor won't help anything that is going on in her life and that won't help her become happy.
This might be from a boyfriend, school issues, people making fun of her, family, stress, drugs, or her friends might be changing her.
This might be a phase or something serious, but either way, you need to keep your patience with her and try to figure out and help in any way you can.
I really hope everything goes well, even though this is coming from a 15 year old that you probably think knows nothing and comes from a little town, but i know how it feels to watch someone you love feel so depressed and lonely. So again, i hope you take my advice and i hope everything goes well. ↑ |
| Name: roxxy | Date: Jun 16th, 2009 5:58 AM |
| i know how your daugtar feels mabye because she gets teased alot becaue i fell the sames the target at school because i ugly and im comtaimated appparley ↑ |
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