| Name: Lisa | Date: Mar 31st, 2006 2:35 PM |
| Why would you want a reply from someone in the same boat?Obviously their lives are a mess too.Im NOT in that boat (Thank GOD!)But IF I were,I think what I would do is enroll my son in a BOOTCAMP.Your son is very disrespectful to you and his father and you have lost total control.At 16 you cant exactly give him an ass whipping because he could maybe overpower you by now.I know bootcamps are expensive but you MUST DO SOMETHING.You said he has been arrested for underage drinking already,did you rush to get him out of jail?Maybe you shouldnt have and while he sat there looking at his probable future,you should have been on the phone making arrangements for his hardcore bootcamp.If you cant pay for bootcamp,I suggest calling the Dr. Phil show or Montel because either one of them will help you.If you and your husband are together you need to sit him down together and MAKE him listen to you and tell him you ARE going to get him help no matter if he wants it or not.He is 16 so you could have him enrolled in a re-hab program which I dont doubt he needs.I bet hes on drugs too.You must stop him from hanging with that no-good crowd hes running with NOW.You need to call a re-hab center at the very least TODAY and get him in there as an IN-PATIENT.Hes already failed this school year so theres nothing really standing in the way of him getting serious help fast.If you cant afford it and have no insurance to cover it,PUBLIC AID will cover it if you qualify for a medical card.GET HIM HELP TODAY,DONT PUT IT OFF ANY LONGER PLEASE!!!!!! ↑ |
| Name: shelbie luren | Date: Apr 17th, 2006 3:38 PM |
| i have a out of control son he's 15 and he smokes dope and drinks alcohol all the and he beats me and he has attacked his father numerous times cause he was either drunk or high. ↑ |
| Name: Amy Burrows | Date: Apr 17th, 2006 3:41 PM |
i have an out of controle daughter. she is constantly betting on me and her little brother, she curses me out in front of my company and doing drugs and selling her body .
I NEED HELP!!!!!!!!!
Thank,
Amy Burrows ↑ |
| Name: ashley | Date: Apr 19th, 2006 8:31 PM |
| hello erica and all of u who r going thru the same things as erica i wnated to let u know that i am a teen to and i am 16 years old. what parents fail to understand being a teen is the hardest time our lives we feel like know one understands us or hears us we think our parents dont care or they wanna live our lives. Your son loves u and he hears u just show him a little love let him see the world and let him go thru life himself place this problem in God's hands and dont worry God is working on him the only thing u can do is pray and be the biggest support system ur son is scared and insecure trust me i am a teen and we feel this way everyday we r becoming adults dont make him go to church or read the bible because its not Gods will u have to let God show him toward the bible and church u need to show the example u and ur husband pray toghther and let god handle it God hears your cries and prayers just have faith that it will come to pass ↑ |
| Name: JAIMEY | Date: May 3rd, 2006 10:25 PM |
ERICA,
YOU ARE THE PARENT. STOP BEING HIS BEST FRIEND. YOU NEED TO STOP HIS BEHAVIOR NOW. IF YOU DON'T HE WILL INJURE HIMSELF OR SOMEONE ELSE. REMEMBER YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR HIM UNTIL HE TURNS 18. iF HE DOESN'T LISTEN TO YOU HAVE THE POLICE HAVE A WORD WITH HIM. IF THAT DOES NOT WORK SEND HIM TO BOOT CAMP. I KNOW YOU LOVE HIM SO WHY NOT TO SHOW THAT YOU LOVE HIM BY GETTING HIM HELP.!!!! ↑ |
| Name: anomus | Date: May 11th, 2006 3:00 PM |
| that is to bad i do not have a out of control teen but it must be sad knowing this is going on ↑ |
| Name: Michelle | Date: May 22nd, 2006 12:13 AM |
Erica,
I'll start off by saying this... the LAST THING you want to do is force your son to go to church. Dispite what some people may belive, God isnt always the solution to everything.
Now that thats said, I am 17 years old, and a year ago I was exactly the same. I snuck out everynight, made a habbit of drinking, but somehow I was lucky enough never to get arrested. What he's doing most likely isnt a cry for help for mommy and daddy. He's at a point in his life where he's conflicted by the life that lays before him. He may not relize it yet, but I think he acts the way he dose because he wants to be seen as a man, yet he also is scared of losing the life he knows, not sure of the path before him.
All you have to do is trust in yourself that you raised him well, and just let him find himself on his own.
Midnight on my 16th birthday, I snuck out to meet one of my friends. She never showed up, so I went to her house to find her collapsed on her floor. I called an ambulance, and then I took off. I thought she would be ok. The next day I saw on the news that she had died of alcohol poisoning. And when I sat through her funeral, all I could think about was how that could easly have been me. After that, without even relising it, my grades started going up, I stoped drinking, and I even joined a church youth group.
Stop worring. Tell him you love him, but stop bailing him out. If he wants to make his own choices, then let him make them. And let him face the conciquences by himself for once. ↑ |
| Name: Lynne n | Date: May 22nd, 2006 11:22 AM |
| Why don't you try boot camp for teens! ↑ |
| Name: Lou | Date: Jun 8th, 2006 6:40 PM |
| Name: Nichola | Date: Jun 11th, 2006 4:49 PM |
Hi Erica I suffer from ADHD although girls are suposted to have diffrent affects from the disorder I am pretty much like your son I'm 14 and only this year have descoverd I suffer from Attention Deficent HyperActive Disorder I find it hard to accept that Ive had this for all my life and its not been descoverd up untill now.Although I give my mum a hard time i do feel sorry for her
but its harder done than said that I will change. I visit a clinic often and there giving me methelfenidate also known as Ritilian.Your son looks like he could be affected by ADHD as well if he is I can fully understand that he isnt able to think about what he is doing before he does it. ↑ |
| Name: DAVID | Date: Jun 12th, 2006 5:25 AM |
Erica,for the last 13 years i've had the privaledge of raising 2 teen children.son-20,daughter 18,she just grad from high school barely with a 2.0.when she was a good kid,never had any trouble from her.when she turned 18 her whole attitude changed.she constantly fought with me,came home way past her curfew and grades went straight downhill.I saw this happening and told everyone I knew,teachers,parents,and explained to her she was not going to be able to attend colledge if she continued on this path.I checked out her friends she was hanging with and they all were from troubled homes.I got her a old car,whenshe got her license and she was never home.she had a good job at our local jc penneys and quit it.shes been thru 3 jobs since then.I did what other parents said and told her she followed my rules or she had to leave.well I found out shes drinking and almost was arrested last week and also my insurance kicked her off my policy.I haven't heard from her since she moved out but heard shes living with some frieends family.I've made calls but everyone tells me since shes 18 theres nothing they can do.thank GoD i'm on disability and don't work for I wouldn't be able now.I constantly pray for her safety and wonder why she hasn't called to at leastt see how we,her brother and I are doing.I stay up most nights in fear of a call no parents want.I saw her on that website myspace and the things shes saying and the pictures are shameful.Erica,I don't want to see you in my shoes so please call your sons school and talk to the school police,s.a.f.e.,and don't give up till you get help.I'm in fla and know the places to call but because shes 18 I've got no control.contact me if you need any advice or just another parent to talk with.But get help NOW or it will be to late.
David ↑ |
| Name: DAVID | Date: Jun 12th, 2006 5:47 AM |
| If anyone can give me your advice on my daughter who just graduated and is spinning out of control please let me know.I just told my story to erica for she has time to still save her son.I do want to say all I've heard is this is normal,a phase,and just wait that she will come home.I'm a dad so it is a little differant for she never really had a active mother in her life.I don't know about the phase thing for I've heard that now for a year and nothing has changed.She attended Church with me weekly.What puzzles me is she lives with a family of a friend she went to school.She,my daughter,hasn't called since she moved out and what parents would take any kid in and not call their parents or tell a kid to call.Let me be honest with you,I'm a Christian,Pray constantly,but since I also don't know where shes getting her money is stresssing me to no end.All I hear is shes 18 and theres nothing you can do but PRAY!!! ↑ |
| Name: julie | Date: Jul 8th, 2006 10:52 PM |
hi erica,
you have discribed my son too i wished i could give you some advice but i cant just to let you know that your not on your own
if you want to chat and you have msn my addy is [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: karen | Date: Jul 14th, 2006 10:54 PM |
| i dont uderstand im 21 and my mother would spank if i acked like yes i live at home i still get a spanking when i need it mom takes my panties down and puts me over her kness i get angry when i get spanked but i always knew i needed it i got spanked last sat. because i camme in past my curfew by an hour try spanking him it mite work ↑ |
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