Name: Damaris Title: Premature baby boy @25 weeks

My 3rd premature bay but this one was the earliest please Lots of prayers and need someone to talk to that has been through this early birth im very depressed and scared.  ?

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Name: Rachel • Date: 09/09/2005 11:06:07

Hey Damaris so sorry to hear of your 3rd premature baby. I will definetly pray for you and your little one. I'm here if you need to talk to someone.  =

Name: Damaris • Date: 09/09/2005 18:24:26

Thanks so much Rachel Thank God he is doing great so far I am happy that there are lots of people out there like you God bless you and your family and thanks so much.  =

Name: Abbey • Date: 09/19/2005 13:53:42

Hi Damaris I am sorry to hear about your baby boy. My little girl was born @ 27 weeks and just like you I was very scared. Just continue to pray and believe he will be just fine. My little girl was in the hospital for 52 days she had to be on oxgen off and on for a long time. We thought she was going to have to come home on oxgyen but just when they were getting ready to release her from the hospital she no longer needed it. I know exactly how you feel and whenever you need to talk I'm here for you. You and your family are in my prayers. God Bless.  =

Name: Rachel • Date: 09/19/2005 14:00:39

Hey Damaris how are you and the little one doing today? I've been praying for you both, let us know please.  =

Name: moumou • Date: 09/21/2005 18:32:56

je vx pmarele avec toi  =

Name: jessica peacock • Date: 09/23/2005 08:07:27

hello , my name is Jessica Peacock. I had my son Justin early .He is premature by 27 weeks . he stayed in the hospial till he was stronger.he stayin there till he was 8m old .he made it .with god and his family prayers . some times i had a feeling i was pulled in so many was i could not think . i know i was stress out .and sleepie and i always wanted to know whats going to happen next and feeling helpless there you are saying i am his mom but i can help you well you can because even if you think your not the love as a mother well be make him feel good . my son is 5 now and doind good.ps i send my prayers with you and your family .if you like to talk here is my email jessica_carolina2005 @ yahoo.com thanks jess  =

Name: Damaris • Date: 09/23/2005 21:48:27

Hello Rachel thank you so much for your prayers they are working marvelous he is doing great thank God im doing good still very scared but I have lots of faith in God that he will be fine he is gaining weight. Just need to get his lungs stronger and need to have him breathing on his own and he will be fine how are u doing and your little one i hope everything is well and i will keep u and your family on my prayers.
GOD BLESS YOU  =

Name: Damaris • Date: 09/23/2005 21:57:37

Hello Abbey thank you for your prayers it is so good to know that there are people that care even when they do not know you it touches me so much makes me feel happy. My son is doing good so far thank God he is on full feeding gaining weight has his oxygen wich is what scares me he is doing good do not get me wrong just his lungs are not fully developed. wich i am praying to God that he helps him with that i am also scared about him coming home with oxygen but with the prayers and God help he will be ok he is going through the ups and down on his oxygen but he is in stale condition thank God thaks again for your prayers i will keep you in my prayers as well God bless you and your family.  =

Name: Abbey • Date: 10/03/2005 19:52:32

Damaris I am so happy to hear that your baby is doing fine. I was thinking about you all the other day. If you like you can email me @ amurray916@msn.com. I will continue to pray and believe me better days are ahead!  =

Name: S • Date: 10/18/2005 17:32:28

I too had a premature boy at 25 weeks. It is an emotional roller coaster in the NICU but he is doing better everyday and has graduated to a crib and is almost out the door of the hospital . You will be kept in my prayers.  =

Name: Damaris • Date: 10/26/2005 17:41:04

Hello S thanks so much for your prayers Im glad your son is doing great my baby is doing great to thank God so how long was your son in the NICU I will pray that ur baby does great God bless you and ur family.  =

Name: lizzy • Date: 10/30/2005 08:18:59

my first one was boarn 24 weeks early she has austim nothing to worry baout. i will pray for you and your babby! if you need someone i am always here  =

Name: cristina • Date: 11/21/2005 14:38:47

hey damaris i just had my first baby 11 days ago at 26 weeks she's so tiny she was born 1 lb. 12 oz. we can talk if u want i kno its hard  =

Name: Rachel • Date: 11/21/2005 14:41:42

hi cristina so sorry to hear about your baby i'll be praying for you and your baby  =

Name: diane • Date: 11/21/2005 20:25:30

So how do yall know when your going tohave a boy?  =

Name: Stephanie • Date: 11/23/2005 22:12:36

I have two sons that came home on Nov. 8th 2005. They are on oxygen, heart monitors, pulse os monitors, medication for reflux, so I know where you are because they were 26 weekers.
One week makes a big difference, but if you want, we can chat, and you will get through this difficult time.  =

Name: melissa • Date: 11/29/2005 19:28:09

hello,, Ive also had very early babies. My daughter was born at 24 weeks. One of my boys was 30 weeks, another one was 22 weeks and another one was 19 weeks,, I know the ups and downs that you are going through, it can be very had to deal with but my best advice is to take things one day at a time, and talk to someone about it,, I am more than willing to talk to you any time that you need to talk  =

Name: toni • Date: 12/24/2005 06:56:11

i have recently had a 25 weeker 20th november 2005 and my heart really goes out 2 u as this is my 4th prem baby my last was 27, 32 and 34 they are all ok but my baby is still in nicu  =

Name: sindy • Date: 12/28/2005 18:06:22

hey. my boy is a premature baby too. He was 13 weeks to early. now he is 19 month old and he is doinh well so far. we had the badest tiem in our life as he was 4 month in hospital after his birth and he was nearly 3 times died, 2 operations, on the breathing mashine, tube for feeding and and and... it was so horreble. sindy  =

Name: Ashley • Date: 12/31/2005 03:04:36

Hi I've never been on this site before but I thought this might help you my best friend had her little boy at 26 weeks, he was in the hospital for about 3 months but now he is a beautiful and healthy 3 1/2 yr old little boy. I'm so sorry this has happened to you but think positive and i'll pray for you I know this is hard and Im so sorry and I hope this will boost your spirits.  =

Name: nicole • Date: 01/11/2006 06:02:04

whats it like being a mum  =

Name: tina • Date: 01/11/2006 07:35:38

iknown how you feel i had my 1st son @ 25 wks that was dec 1st 1996 he is now 9yrs old and healthy  =

Name: judith holley • Date: 01/12/2006 11:58:35

were you ?  =

Name: manders • Date: 01/16/2006 19:36:58

i send you and your little boy my love and prayer xxxxxxxxxxxx  =

Name: sindy • Date: 01/21/2006 01:00:47

hi  =

Name: jina • Date: 01/21/2006 22:27:42

i have not had a premature baby but i have seen many miracles with premature babies having been in the hospital so much with my son who is disabled. i just want you to know that my thoughs and prayers are with you and there are many miracles witnessed by those in this chat room. good luck!  =

Name: lisa • Date: 01/25/2006 15:59:36

my son was born at 29 wks my waters broke at 22 wks so i was kept in hospital for the remainder of my pregnancy i was scanned at 29 wks and was told my son had stopped growing at 27 wks so i had a emergency c section he was ventilated and had oxygen for 3 mths he is now 20 months and has cerebral palsy he cannot sit crawl or walk yet so i am praying for a miracle that someday he will.  =

Name: nikki • Date: 02/04/2006 14:56:36

im so sorry to hear that! just pray and ill be here if you need help. just keep your head up and be strong everything will be alright  =

Name: Haley • Date: 02/09/2006 10:04:43

Hi all of you out their who may have been in my position. I had twin boys on the 20 october 2005.... one died a month later due to kidney failure and the other went on fine in the NICU and then suddenly things went wrong and he died too... too premature as they were born at 25 weeks . I am so heart broken  =

Name: lisa • Date: 02/09/2006 16:35:45

Iam very sorry for your losses you must be devastated.  =

Name: chrystal • Date: 02/28/2006 18:47:38

hello Damaris
I'm very sorry to hear obout your son.
I have been through this so maybe I can offer you some support.
When I was 25 weeks in to pregnancy I started to bleed heavily and was rushed to the hospitol not thinking I would have a baby.The doctors tried to stop the bleeding and did not succeed, my daughter was not doing well. They decided after two weeks of test after test that it would be in the best interest for my daughter and I if she was born by section that day at 27 weeks. My husband and I decided that this was our best chance of survival. Emily was born at 27 weeks gestation at 1lb 10 oz. She was barely breathing when she came out via C-section. I was destraught when I seen my baby girl in the incubator with so much tubes and wires that i could not see her face. She was so tiny and fragile it was something you cannot explain that you have to see your self ( you know what i'm talking about). She was very sick for a long time and we were not sure if she was going to survive. Well she came home 13 weeks after she was born and is now 2years 4months old and is as perfect as a baby can be! Her neo-natal-follow-up team says she is smart as a whip and she is healthy as she can be with no medical problems. A true miracle.
So please keep your head up and know that I understand fully and will pray for your little boys health and for his home coming.
Just being there with him makes a big difference in his progress and I know it may seem hopeless and hard right now but it gets easier as time goes by and he starts to get bigger.
from
A friend who understands :)  =

Name: TeenMother • Date: 03/02/2006 20:25:21

Im 16 and I had a premature baby. She was 30 weeks premature, :( Its hard to look at her with all those things attached to her..  =

Name: knitaholic • Date: 03/04/2006 05:31:04

hi teenmum,how is your baby? how much did she weigh  =

Name: knitaholic • Date: 03/04/2006 05:48:03

hello all, does anyone know of any good links for premature baby cardigans please.  =

Name: Lesley • Date: 03/09/2006 20:31:22

My baby is presently in the NICU....he was born 14 weeks early...This is a very trying time for me as this is my first baby and i dont really know what to expect.....It would be great to have someone to talk to who has been through this....Thanks  =

Name: Cass • Date: 04/02/2006 20:01:39

I had twins at 25 week and o/7. They are five and a hlaf now. If you need to talk e-mail me at headon5@hotmail.com  =

Name: MICHELLE • Date: 04/06/2006 12:49:28

HELLO I HAD A SON BORN AT 26 WEEKS. HE WAS 2 POUNDS AND 1 OUNCE. HE HAD A GRADE THREE HEAD BLEED. HE WAS NOT BREATHING WHEN HE WAS BORN AND THEY TOOK HIM AWAY RIGHT AWAY. HE WAS ON THE VENTERLATOR FOR 2 MONTHS AND HAD TO GET STEROIDS FOR HIS LUNGS TO DEVELOP. I ALSO GOT THEM DURING MY PREGNACY WHILE I WAS IN THE HOSPITAL TRYING TO NOT GIVE BIRTH TO HIM SO EARLY BUT HE CAME ANYWAYS. I SAT AT THE HOSPITAL EVERYDAY PRAYING THAT HE WOULD LIVE. HE IS 6 NOW AND HAS CEREBAL PASLY, AUTISIM, AND NOW RESENTLY HAS STARTED HAVING SEIZURES, BUT DESPITE ALL THAT HE IS A WONDERFUL JOY IN MY LIFE AND VERY SPECIAL. I FEEL BLESSED TO HAVE HIM HERE AND KNOW THAT GOD TAKES SPECIAL CARE OF THEM. ONE MAIN THING I WOULD LIKE TO SAY IS ALL OF THE BABIES BORN EARLY ARE DIFFERENT. THE DOCTOR TOLD US THAT SOME LEAVE THERE WITH NO PROBLEMS AND SOME LEAVE THERE WITH EVERYTHING WRONG. IT IS IN GODS HANDS NOW AND I KNOW IT WILL ALL TURN OUT FOR THE BEST. ALWAYS KEEP POSITIVE AND KNOW THAT GOD DOES NOT GIVE US MORE THAN WE CAN BAIR. I THINK OF IT LIKE GOD MUST OF THOUGHT WE WERE SPECIAL PEOPLE TO THINK THAT WE ARE GOOD ENOUGH TO TAKE CARE OF HIS SPECIAL CHILDREN. I ALSO THINK THAT AS LONG AS WE THINK OF THEM AS JUST CHILDREN AND ENJOY ALL THE TIME WE HAVE WITH THEM WE CAN OVER COME THIS AND LOVE EVERY SECOND. IT HAS TAKEN ME 6 YEARS TO COME TO THIS POINT BUT I AM HERE AND COULD NOT AMAGIN MY LIFE WITHOUT HIM LIKE HE IS. I WILL PRAY THAT YOUR LITTLE ONE WILL WALK AWAY WITH OUT ANY POBLEMS AND THAT YOU STAY STRONG THROUGH ALL OF THIS. GOD BLESS  =

Name: kye • Date: 04/19/2006 13:43:56

hello,
how are you doing there,please mail me back i will help you out kye_mya@yahoo.com.i will be expecting you mail.

cheers  =

Name: Alan & Jackeie Cargen • Date: 04/23/2006 13:40:22

Hi Damaris. My wife and I have just had out first baby boy Camaron David, born on Sautrday 22 April 2006, at 25 weeks and 4 days. He is in NNICU. Unfortunately, he is unable to process amino acids as yet. The last 2 weeks have been a roller coaster ride for us, as my wife has been in hospital for the last 2 weeks. We know what you were going through.  =

Name: stephanie • Date: 04/24/2006 04:59:34

hey,
my name is stephanie,im 19 years old,i've had 2 pregnancies,my first was when i was 17 i was having a girl and i miscarried her at 17.5 weeks,then when i was 18 i became pregnant with twin boys i had them at 24 weeks,one died instantly and the other was here for 2 months and 3 weeks he just passed march 23rd of this year.He fought long and bravely.If u need anyone to talk to for any reason i would gladly be there for you.You can always e-mail me at DestinysToy18@aim.com.I check my mail everyday,please dont be shy i do kno every single worry that u r going thru.Hang in there.  =

Name: Tiffany • Date: 05/02/2006 11:53:31

Hi, i just sorta stumbled across this forum. I'm on level 3 bed rest and trying so hard to stay calm and unstressed. I ost my daughter last summer due to premature delivery at 21 weeks. This pregnancy seemed to be going great untill the past coupe weeks. starting at 7 weeks i was having weekly cervix scans, and at 16 weeks began progesterone shots. last week we went for our weekly scan, and my cervix has beganto funnel.i'll be 27 weeks on friday.my next step is hospitalization.i'm so worried to lose another child. My husband and i just couldn't take it. You are all so strong, and i don't know how i'm going to cope with baby in the nicu wheras that looks where we're heading.  =

Name: Becky • Date: 05/12/2006 17:33:52

We pray all the time now . My first grandchild was born at 1pound 10 ounces shes still in nicu & we are so scared & we have never been through anything like this shes so beautiful & a fighter she was given the perfect name Faith thats our way of keeping strong i pray for you .I hope to hear from you  =

Name: kelly farser • Date: 05/21/2006 20:56:41

for teen mother, i read your brief and it made me so sad, if you need to talk you can email me at kellyfraser1977@hotmail.com.
or any one for that matter an outside person is often the best person to talk to as they have no influence in your life, so from some one new.  =

Name: ISMAIL • Date: 05/23/2006 14:47:25

HIIIIIIII  =

Name: evee • Date: 05/23/2006 23:43:05

my best friend had a baby girl, a month and a week early. she was in the hospital for 3 months, and was moving from hospital to hospital, but then she got to come home, with a breathing and heartbeat moniter. about 4 months later, that was not needed anymore, and now she is a perfect healthy energetic little 1 yr old!!!! i will pray for you !  =

Name: ana • Date: 05/24/2006 00:24:24

i send my prayers to you and your baby, things will get better in time. I know my 3 month old had heary surgery 2 months ago and is getting better everyday. God Bless your baby.  =

Name: Lynne n • Date: 05/24/2006 04:30:28

I will be praying for you and your baby,i hope everything works out ok!  =

Name: Tanya • Date: 06/02/2006 01:22:09

I am sorry to hear about your son. I am 17 years old and I am 29 weeks pregnant with my first child. I had got 2 steroid shots when I was 24 weeks because my doctor said that my cervix was thinning out and that I could have him at anytime. I just got out of the hospital because yet again my doctor sent me for more steroid shots to develop his lungs, and had gotten another ultrasound. The ultrasound revieled that he was about 3 lbs 2 oz, and he was practicing breathing Very well, as well as him having a very good heard. He is very active but I am still terrified that He will be born early and have many complications. I have been on bedrest for about 5 weeks and will continue to be on it until he is born.. I don't know what to think or do.. anyone who has any kind words or advice of this type of thing or story please contact me and tell me your story or advice on what I should do.. My boyfriend the babies father is worried altho he wont really show it I just dont know what to think.. my email is tanyanoyb@yahoo.com thanks  =

Name: KUNISHA • Date: 06/16/2006 19:12:23

DAMARIS,
MY SON WAS BORN AT 25 WEEKS ALSO; HE WEIGHED ONE POUND 12 OUNCES. HE STAYED IN THE HOSPITAL FOR 11 WEEKS. HE WAS DISCHARGED FROM THE HOSPITAL AND HE HAS BEEN DOING WELL SINCE. HE IS NOW THREE YEARS OLD AND IS IN PRE-SCHOOL. HIS TEACHER INFORMS US THAT HE IS THE SMARTEST IN HIS CLASS OF 20 CHILDREN. WITH PRAYERS AND FAITH I BELIEVE YOUR SON WILL DO GREAT!!!  =

Name: NIcole • Date: 06/23/2006 17:53:28

Hi everyone,
My name is Nicole, im 20 yrs old and im married to a wonderful man. My husband and i were trying to get pregnant for couple months before we found out we were pregnant with our son 'DJ'. My pregnancy was going well until i starting contracting on June 3rd 2006. I didnt go to the hospital because i thought i was having braxton hicks. My contractions started at 11 am. I didnt decided to go to the hospital until around 9:30 pm that same night and when i got to the hospital the Doctor checked me and he told me that i wa 6 cm dialated and i was only 27 weeks. I was so SCARED!!! I've never been so scared in my life. Anyways there was no way they could have stopped me from giving birth soon and i had my son on Sunday June 4th 2006 at 4:00 am. He was 1lb 9ozs and he could have breathe on his own but was struggling. So they took him up to NICU and he was doing fine until Thursday June 15th. My husband and i went to visit him and the nurses had us wait in the hall as they were trying to find out what was wrong with him. Anyways the Doctor came out and told us that Dj had fluid in his lungs and they didnt think that he was going to make it. Well... he died June 16 th 6:30 am. The saddest thing for me as a mother was while i was holding him i was watching his life slip away in my hands and i couldnt do anything about it. Its been a weeks since his death and im trying to get over it but i dont think anyone could get over loosing a child. I LOVE and MISS him so much, i'd do anything to have him back with us. I have my husband here with me and he is so wonderful he holds me when i cry at night and sometimes rock me to sleep. So ladies make sure your MAN is there for you. My prayers are with all of you.  =

Name: delia • Date: 06/24/2006 17:40:21

Hello Damaris just wanted you to know that you can lean and trust God. Give him your worrys because he cares. I should Know because I had premature baby boy @25 wks. 1Lb 4oz. He is over 6lbs now.
My advice is to turn to God. He will never leave you nor forsake you. just talk to him like he is your best friend. whatever is troubling you just tell him. He knows what you need but you have to turn to him for help. God wants to help you. Please turn to him for Guidance. I promise he will not let you down. God bless you and your little angel.  =

Name: carri • Date: 06/29/2006 12:15:09

hi this is carri im a mom of a 29 week preemie. He is now a happy healthy 7 month old. When i was 28 weeks preg. i woke up this one morning and my water had broken. I went to the hospital and they told me i was in labour. I got transfered to another hospital. I had Brenyn at 29 weeks, he was 3lbs 1oz.
My husband, daughter and i were very lucky, he was let outta the hospital after 5 1/2 weeks. My advise to you, dont sit at the hospital everyday, all day. You will drive yourself crazy. We went and saw brenyn every second day. I hope you find the strength to get through this, its a very scary time.

Hope this helps-  =

Name: Helen • Date: 06/30/2006 04:55:24

Hi, Not sure where everyone is but I am writing from Scotland. I had a daughter in 1998 who was 29 weeks and weighed 2lb 4 oz. It is a very scary time for all and I will pray for everyone in this situation. The reason I write is that she is now 8 years and has no problems what so ever. In fact she is top of her class at school. You wouldnt know to look at her what she went through to be here! I also went on to have a second daughter she is now 2 years and was born at 38 weeks. I just wanted people out there to know that there are happy endings and to keep your chin up and think positive all the time. x  =

Name: amber dallaglio • Date: 07/01/2006 16:53:10

you have every right to be scared. i gave birth to my twin daughters at 26 weeks four years ago and it is the most terryfying experience ever. my girls are now strong, healthy kids and although it is wrong to expect this outcome everytime, im sure your son will be fine. me and my girls will pray for you, if you would like to talk more or would like more information on my premature birth experience, email me along_came_me908@hotmail.com
god bless
xxxxxx  =

Name: Christina • Date: 07/03/2006 01:51:16

Hi my name is Christina and i am 20 years old.My son was born at 31 weeks and was 3 pound 5.He's now 4 months old, and is now 8 pound and is healthy and doing well.Lots of prayers go out to all mothers that have had a premmie baby,i hope they do aswell as my litlle boy!!  =

Name: JASON • Date: 07/03/2006 23:36:24

IF MY WIFE IS HAVING CONTRACTIONS ALOT IS IT A SIGN SHE IS DUE SOON  =

Name: Haley • Date: 07/04/2006 08:21:59

I dont know if there is anyone out there who has shared similar experience to me. I had twin boys at 25 weeks unfortunately both died. one at a month old and the other at 3 months old. they were never out of nicu. Both were icsi babies. I am so devestated after spending 24/7 with them and then not able to bring them home ever!  =

Name: brianna • Date: 07/11/2006 22:05:05

i have not been through it but my cuzo has itll be ok  =

Name: brianna • Date: 07/11/2006 22:39:49

Damaris i was almost born 12 wkz. early but i was still 3 wkz early do well im going to pray for yall god will bless u
god blessssss  =

Name: Spreeman • Date: 07/12/2006 03:45:09

This is for Haley...
I Just lost my son at 23 weeks.. he completely stopped growing at 17 weeks..He only weighed 5.8 oz. My first child was at 28.6 weeks.. Please let me know if you need someone to talk too..
Debbie  =

Name: cindyb_2003 • Date: 07/14/2006 14:58:29

hi one week ago i lost my baby girl. this is the second time that my babies have died they were both 21 wks and 4 days. i really need to talk to some one who has been through this, it is very rough.  =

Name: Emma_Calvesbert • Date: 07/21/2006 05:08:06

Hi my names Emma ive had 4 premmies each one has gotten earlier my last little bot was a 26 weeker born last aug he's nearly one now,but it was one hell of a bumpy ride its like rollercoaster always up and down n it still is if i honest! the next few months are goning to tear your life apart and just wen you think your getting somewhere it'll start all over again. Tj was only 2lb wen he was born adn for the first 3 days he done well he was on minamil vent help but then i wnet to bed on the mon nit(he was born on the sat)and wen i went to visit him on the tues1st thing i must add this was the first nite i had slept through normally id go up 2 times with my ebm and the only way to discribe him is that he looked dead,im crying wen im writing this as its like reliving it all ova but im hoping that helping you will bring me to get ova it. he'd suffered a massive bleed in the night 1st in his right lungs then in his brain,my 3rd son had had a bleed in his brain so i understood bit bout it however his was minamil and neva effected him in anyway,wen i asked the doctor who is now a very close friend which grade of bleed it was he said grade 4 which is the worst you can get then he added if their was a five he'd be in it he also added that this was one of the worst cases he's seen in a very long time and for him to say that well it really mad me relise how sick my little boy really was. ova next few weeks tj couldnt do anythin he jus got sucker n sicker one of the compilacations of a bleed is for the blood to block the passage ways in the head and make the head swell with fluid and tj got it within jus a few days of the bleed his head swelled to a huge size and i was told that if and wen his big enough and strong enough he would need an opporation to fit a perminant shunt in his brain to drain the fluid to his tummy but he was only 2lb and he needed to 4ib 6oz b4 th4 alder hey would even consider doin ti. that felt like a million miles away at the time. but in mean time the fluid get buildin up n up n upto the point where they said they had to tap his head to relive the pressure but its an invasive thing cos their putting a needle through the brain tissue so tteirs a chance of damage but with hte severe bleed we'd already been told their was a chance he's neva come off the vent n if he did that he's neva walk or talk so we had nothing to lose really the doctors were hopoing not to have to tap him so soon bcos once they start doin it it needs done every other day but tj ended up on daily ones u new wen he needed it cos his sats wood drop his o2 wood b up at 100% n he'd b having bradys all time. but their was more to come he ended up getting NEc which is a bowel problem and that made him very very sick and his tummy wnet black,he got ecoli and really nearly died we had him christned that time cos they were having to tap his head and siad they didnt think he'd make it through the procedure.( i was so scared) then their was the fingers he had a canular put inhis hand but they tried bout7-8 times and in end his hand wen black and they feared it would fall off but he ended up losing jus 1 finger but it was his right hand and index finger. then their was the liver problem he had hypobillirubinanemia and was on daily injection for 8 months cos hisliver couldnt work properly due to being so imature. he had his shunt fitted in nov wen he was 3 months old at which point he was on cpap but still kept ending up back on vent every now and then for a rest. i was told he'd wake straight up after opp but he neva infact he was under the general for 5 days bcos this liver couldnt get rid of it quick enough due the disese. that was scary. then he finally managed to come home the week b4 christmas i must add that he's spent more time back in then he has at home he has cronic lung disese so the slightset cough or cold knocks him for sick the longest we've had him home is 22 days to date, his shunt also got infected back in march and he had to have a new one ffitted which we spant month in alder hey for. oh then their was the pnemonia he got in april where he ended up back on a vent for 10 days,our local hospital in blackpool doesnt do vent children or babys you have to go to alde hey or manchester so off we we went for easter to liverpool its like our second home these days and from a develpment point of view he's only 14lb and is still in 0-3 month clothes and the ecoli that he had had to b treated with gentamicin antiboitics and bcos of that he's profoundly deaf in both ears he had aids but their unsure of wot he can understand bcos the brain damage. he cant sit roll or even lift his head off the floor yet.... we see specialist every 2 weeks and he has psysio evert week day bcos his left side he does not use so its goin tight he's like a one sided baby cos he only kicks n moves his right side we've tried to wean him 3-4 times bcos he feeds every other hour st trhe monent cos he needs more than just milk but he has a problem with his throte and is having a clip fitted in his tummy so i can feed him direct into his tummy they've said it might not b for life we jus have to wait n see cos at mo wen you fed him foof he asprastes it into his lungs n ends up on vent cos of infection. infact he only cameout last week cos he was in with a nasty chest infection. they doctors have now said he will neva walk ncos he doesnt have the mussle tone or strenth to support his weihgt it was very sad last week bcos its al becoming real that we dont have a 'normal' baby wot eva normal is these days. anyway thatnks for taking the time to read bout me and tj and i want you to know i feel for u deeply and the reason ive said do much is so u can see the light at the end tj might not b perfect but he's mine and i love so much for his corage for fighting jus to b alive wen he smiles my heart melts . i dont no u but i feel close to you i hope everythins goin ok TODAY i say today cos you can only work on day to day cos you neva no wot tomoro is goin hold for u. im phone number is 07999370819 and ui live in fleetwood nr blackpool djtezzap@aol.com i hope to hear from you soon Emma p.s keep smiling and remember it doesnt last foreva xxx  =

Name: Emma_Calvesbert • Date: 07/21/2006 05:11:42

oh my god ive jus relised your little boy is only a month younger than tj id love to no how he's doin Emma  =

Name: Emma_Calvesbert • Date: 07/21/2006 05:13:56

HI this is for cinyb i also lost a baby at 22 weeks he was 8oz wen born i named him harry adn payed for a private funaral ive gone on to have 4 children not with out their problems but the pain your feeling right now will get bta honest it will it jus takes time x  =

Name: Tikaani • Date: 07/21/2006 07:06:09

Don't be depressed or scared - treasure these days and moments with your precious baby.  =

Name: Chrisy • Date: 07/24/2006 08:40:19

HI ALL,
MY NAME IS CHRISTINE AND I HAD A 25 WEEK AND 3 DAYS PREMATURE BEAUTIFUL BABY BOY LAST YEAR 12TH NOVEMBER 05 WEIGHED 825 GRAMMS PRETTY GOOD HEY FOR A 25 WEEKER!. HE WAS THE MOST BEAUTIFUL BOY HIS NICK NAMES WERE RAFFY SUPERMAN AND ASTRO BOY!. I GOT TO SPEND 5 LONG HARD MONTHS WITH HIM UNTIL GOD TOOK HIM AWAY THIS YEAR APRIL 12TH 06. HE DIED IN MY HUSBANDS ARMS AND I AGREE WITH THE OTHER STORY I READ, IT WAS SO HARD TO WATCH HIM SLIP AWAY AND FEEL HELPLESS. I MISS HIM SO MUCH TOO HE SUFFERED FOR 2 DAYS WHEN HE WAS DYING I STILL HAVE NITEMARES. I ALSO RECENTLY LOST MY MUM SO WE HAD TWO FUNERALS IN 80 DAYS. YOU NEVER GET OVER IT, ITS LEARNING TO LIVE WITH THE PAIN THATS THE HARDEST TO DO. RAFFAEL WAS MY FIRST CHILD MY SWEET PRECIOUS BABY BOY. MY WATERS BROKE AT 19 WEEKS AND I WAS BED WRITTEN AT HOSPITAL FROM THEN. I MANAGED TO KEEP HIM IN BY RESTING UNTILL 25 WEEKS AND 3 DAYS. THEN THATS WHEN THE ROLLER COASTER BEGAN. I CANT GO INTO DETAIL AS ITS VERY HARD FOR ME. ITS ONLY BEEN JUST OVER 3 MONTHS SINCE WE LOST OUR MOST PRECIOUS GIFT. MY BOY WAS A MIRACLE TO BEGIN WITH AND HE WAS FIGHTING ALL THE WAY UNTIL WE WERE LET DOWN BY SOME OF THE NURSING AND POOR DECISIONS MADE BY HIS DOCTOR/DOCTORS! SOMETHING HAPPENED ONE NITE WHICH THEN LED MY BOY TO GO BACK ON CPAP AFTER 4 WEEKS OFF IT AND BOTTLE FEEDING! WHEN HE WENT BACK ON CPAP HE WAS THEN RUSHED BACK INTO INTENSIVE CARE WHERE HE THEN BECAME WEAKER AND PASSED AWAY 3 WEEKS LATER. THE INCIDENT THAT HAPPENED LED TO MY SONS DEATH AND I CANT GO INTO DETAIL AS ITS TOO PAINFULL. PLEASE TAKE IT FROM ME DO NOT LET THE DOCTORS OR NURSES TELL YOU WHATS BEST FOR YOUR CHILD! YOU BE IN CONTROL OF EVERY SITUATION AND IF YOU DONT WANT TO BATH HIM/HER BECAUSE U FEEL HE/SHE TOO SICK DONT! IF YOU DONT WANT TO BOTTLE FEED BECAUSE YOU JUST DONT WANT TO DONT! IF YOU DONT WANT TO CHANGE YOUR CHILDS NAPPY EVERY 4 HOURS DONT! IF YOU JUST WANT THEM TOO REST WHEN THEY R SLEEPING AND DONT WANT THEM TO BE TOUCHED BY THE NURSES DONT LET THEM TOUCH YOUR CHILD! THEY HAVE ALOT OF GROWING TO DO AND ITS ALL DONE WHEN THEY SLEEP. IF YOUR INSTINCTS TELL U YOUR CHILD IS NOT WELL OR LOOKING LIKE HE/SHE MIGHT NEED A BLOOD TRANSFUSION TELL THEM TO CHECK! WE WERE WITH MY SON 24/7 AND I BEGAN TO UNDERSTAND ALOT OF THINGS AND I STILL REMEMBER HOW CAN I FORGET! I BECAME A NURSE AND I PICKED UP EVERY LITTLE THING THAT WAS WRONG WITH MY CHILD AND I PUT MY FOOT DOWN TO GET TESTS DONE WHEN I FELT SOMETHING WASNT RIGHT WITH HIM. AND BOY WAS I RIGHT EVERY TIME! HAD I NOT SAID ANYTHING I WOULD HAVE LOST HIM AGES AGO. MY ADVICE STAND UP TO WHAT U BELEIVE THATS YOUR CHILD THERE IN THAT ROOM YOU MAKE THE CALLS. AND IF YOU DONT WANT SOME TWIT NURSE WHO DOESNT KNOW WHAT SHES DOING GET RID OF HER/HIM! I HAD GREAT INSTINCTS AND IM VERY SWITCHED ON, I HAD SOME REAL TWITS SORRY TO SAY THAT DIDNT HAVE A CLUE! WITH POSITIONING A CHILD TO MAN HANDLING HIM TOO MUCH DONT LET IT HAPPEN TO YOUR CHILD! MY RAFFAEL IS SADLY MISSED BY HIS FAMILY ESPECIALLY HIS MUM AND DADDY. MY BOY STARTED TO SMILE 4 DAYS BEFORE HE WAS TAKEN. I HAVE HEAPS OF PHOTOS FROM HIS SECOND DAY TILL THE LAST BUT I CANT LOOK AT THEM JUST YET. PEOPLE TALK ABOUT PRAYING AND TRUST IN GOD HE WONT LET YOU DOWN ECT ECT... I PRAYED CRYING MY EYES OUT I PRAYED NITE AND DAY EVEN AT THE HOSPITALS CHAPEL I WROTE IN THAT BOOK EVERYDAY I FELT I WAS THE ONLY 1 WRITING IN THAT BOOK. AND IVE ALWAYS BEEN RELIGIOUS NOW OFCOURSE I QUESTION IT SO I CANT AGREE WITH TRUSTING IN GOD YET. THATS NORMAL TO THINK THIS WAY AS YOU DO WHEN YOU LOOSE A LOVED ONE BUT IM SURE ILL TURN TO HIM AGAIN, THATS ALL I HAVE LEFT NOW. LOOK EVERYONE IM NOT GOING TO LIE LIKE THE DOCS DID WITH US WE WERE TOLD WE WOULD TAKE HIM HOME ON OXYGEN I HAVE HIS ROOM ALL SET UP! ITS A TOUGH JOURNEY AND IF YOUR CHILD MAKES IT HOME U ARE VERY LUCKY AND SPOIL HIM/HER ROTTEN! BUT IT IS VERY HARD AND WE MUST LOOK AT THE SITUATION AND NOT PRETEND MOST BABYS DONT MAKE IT AT THAT GESTATION ESPECIALLY IF YOUR WATERS HAVE BROKEN SOOOOO EARLY. I DONT WANT TO GIVE FALSE HOPE TO PEOPLE LIKE WE HAD. PEOPLE SAYING IT WILL BE ALRIGHT ECT ECT... NO ITS NOT ALRIGHT! YOU HAVE A HUGE FIGHT ON YOUR HANDS AND 1 MINUTE YOU THINK YOUR OUT OF THE WOODS AND THE NEXT THING YOU KNOW HE CATCHES AN INFECTION ECOLI BLOOD TRANSFUSSIONS FLUID IN THE LUNGS AND THE LIST GOES ON..... I REALLY HOPE AND PRAY THAT IF ANYMORE CHILDREN R BORN SO EARLY THAT THEY MAKE IT THROUGH THEY ARE SO SPECIAL. THEY DESERVE A CHANCE IN LIFE. I HOPE YOU ALL HAVE SUCCESS STORYS TO TELL. I DONT KNOW IF I CAN GO THROUGH THIS AGAIN IM VERY HIGH RISK. IT DOESNT MEAN I DONT WANT ANOTHER BABY IM JUST SO SCARED. BURYING A CHILD IS THE WORST THING YOU CAN EVER GO THROUGH, I DONT WANT TO DO IT AGAIN. ILL LEACE IT UP TO FATE. GOD BLESS ALL OF YOU AND SOORY IF I WAS SO BLUNT.
TAKE CARE. IF ANY1 WOULD LIKE TO E-MAIL ME TO CHAT IF BEEN THROUGH SAME OR SIMILLAR THING I WOULD LOVE TO HEAR FROM YOU. EVEN IF ITS SOME ONE WHO HAS GONE ON TO HAVE OTHER CHILDREN I WOULD LOVE TO GET SOME HELP WITH HOW YOU COPED WITH YOUR GRIEF AND WHAT YOU DID DIFFERENTLY WITH SECOND PREGNANCY? MY EMAIL: Crackers9@iprimus.com.au
thank you everyone
rest in peace my little angel....RAFFAEL xxoooxoxoxoxoxoxoxooooooooooooooooooo
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Name: clairebear • Date: 08/16/2006 14:14:57

Hello there,

Reading all this reminds me of my own situation. I had twins at 25 weeks - one of which we lost one day later - the other - born at one pound three (a tiddler) made it, even after a heart op, laser eye surgery and three months ventilation. He is home now and is six months (corrected age). He is just under 11 pounds and although growing slowly is doing so well. We find ourselves trying to cram calories into him, although he only eats what he wants to! Does anyone else have a problem with feeding and weight gain of their prem? Any advice would be great.  =

Name: slyterbray • Date: 08/30/2006 00:04:18

Hi Damaris. 18 months ago I gave birth to a baby boy at 29 weeks. He was 2 lbs 8 oz. They kept him in the hospital for 40 days after birth, - I have been there.  =

Name: Cassie • Date: 09/20/2006 15:27:00

I just had my firs baby at 25 weeks on 9/3 he was 1lbs 6oz 12 1/2 in long hes now up to 2lbs and doing ok he has a few problums but I'm just praying that he gets though this all ok. when he was a week old we found out that he had a hole in his intestine but now it seems to be doing a lot better but now he has some inflamation in his lungs from being on the ventalater but it hasn't gotten any werse. knock on wood.but if there is any one that has gone though this I would like some feed back on it.  =

Name: bianca • Date: 06/18/2007 23:38:46

i just had my baby boy preemie as well he was 2 pds when he was born and now he is about 9 pds 5 oz. unfortunitly he is still in the nicu he has been there since birth i pray every day that he will be healed so can come home he is fighting pulminary hypertension with chronic lung diease. but he is a trooper . i hope all is well with your son  =

Name: christine • Date: 06/19/2007 12:43:59

im prayin every step of the way for u i have had to prem babys one at 30weeks shes doing brill no and i had a baby girl at 32 weeks but sadly she passed away on the 2 of april 2007 but i no wat u r feelin it's a worrying time but i will pray everyday for your little boy and i will light a candle for him wen i can god bless you all and take care luv christine  =

Name: Crimpson • Date: 06/23/2007 12:25:28

Well I thought I would share my story, just to spread some inspiration. I am 16 years old, and my baby is currently in the NICU two hours away from my home town. She was born at 25 weeks and was 2 pounds. I went to the hospital two nights before complaining of pain in my abdomen area and what i thought to be discharge., which later turned out to be my water. Instead of breaking all at once, it just leaked slowly. Seeing how it was my first pregnancy I didnt know what contractions felt like. The doctor sent me home with antibiotics claiming i had a bladder infection. The next two days the pain grew. So i Went up again. They put me on a stress test and it said my contractions werent showing up. So, they were just about to send me home with advice to drink lots and wait until the antibiotics kicked in, when he decided maybe he should check me. Too his shock i was fully dialated and about to give birth. He told me that the baby would not survive, because the hospital did not have an NICU and every unit was closed in all of CANADA, and they were going to try to air bus me to MINOt, in the United STates. They gave me a drug to try to stop my contractions for the time being and thank god it worked. An opening also opened up two hours away so I went by ambulance. I gave birth by cesarean and she was on the ventilator for three weeks. and is now just using oxygen when she bottle feeds and has no other problems. She is now four pounds and she is 7 weeks today. She should be able to come home in around a month and for now i travel every day to see her. She is amazingly beautiful and i feel all your guyses pain and give u all my sympathy.  =

Name: marie Raymond • Date: 07/04/2007 19:14:53

My daughter had difficulties with her baby, due to a lot of health problem.Her baby girl Jesse Faith was born at 23 weeks. Jesse is up and down.she's a little fighter. She is now 18 days old and still fighting(NICU) for her little life.It is very scary and depressing for my all of us in the family. I will add you baby in my prayer. She has a long road to follow before we could take her home or to hold her.  =

Name: KALY • Date: 07/19/2007 16:12:31

HELP  =

Name: Amy • Date: 07/28/2007 20:27:46

How small is your babby boy?  =

Name: Amy • Date: 07/28/2007 21:01:53

I have a sister tsht is 14 years old and had a 1lb 2oz baby girl she was the most beautiful baby that I have ever seen in my life  =

Name: Amy • Date: 07/28/2007 21:06:16

All that my 14 year old sister wanted was to be a teen mother but here to come find uot she had been 19cm but now she is a healthy baby girl that will always be my little neice 4 ever and 4 ALWAYS i will never forget my little baby girl.  =

Name: tanya • Date: 08/11/2007 12:55:08

my little girl was born 12 weeks premature if you need to talk iam here my thought and prayers are with you  =

Name: mgt • Date: 09/10/2007 17:13:44

I had a baby girl at 25 weeks and 5 days and I had my water break at 18 weeks. I spent two months in the hospital with the amniotic fluid staying just under normal and sometimes real low. I carried for eight weeks longer and due to the lungs not getting the fluid she had lungs that were very imature. The Dr.s were hoping to keep her healthy enough for 5 weeks out me but she developed problems from the respirator and she did not make it. This was the only pregnancy that I was able to carry past 12 weeks and I will not be able to have anymore. The babies that I had come across in the NICU that were born at 24 and 25 weeks did well. My daughter had the complication with my water breaking. If she were born without the additional problem of amniotic fluid she would have made it. There are so many great stroies that you hear around you. I was not one of them and I was told from the high risk Dr. that I might think about ending the Pregnancy. I chose not to, and in the end we had to let her go anyway. This has been three weeks ago and I am no handling it well. LIke I said many around me had babies at your sons age and did very well. My story was an exceptiong  =

Name: sindy • Date: 09/14/2007 12:00:40

i will like to know some of the ways of takeing care of my premature son  =

Name: makeba • Date: 09/20/2007 13:48:58

my daughter was born at 25 weeks she weighed 1lb 14 Oz. she is a fighter. she was just born 9-3-07 she wasn't due until 12-12-07. yes, this is hard and scary, she has her good and bad days. but after getting over the shock of how tiny she is, now having to deal with the constant worry of how she is doing. seeing her in that incubator is hard. but we are learning to take things one day at a time. we are paying and trying to stay strong..  =

Name: tj • Date: 09/21/2007 23:48:35

my nieghbor just had a premmie at 25 weeks i need prayer  =

Name: sam • Date: 10/02/2007 12:05:22

hi i had my little boy at 27 weeks x i know how you must be feeling  =

Name: Victor • Date: 10/09/2007 15:34:45

i have a premature baby in the hospital and i just found out last week that he has a grade four bleeding and a grade three what am i to expect.  =

Name: Anne • Date: 10/11/2007 15:37:04

I lost my little boy at 24 weeks, and lost my heart with him. I would love to talk to anyone who has been through the same thing.  =

Name: mary kline • Date: 10/13/2007 22:07:22

My baby boy was born at 29 weeks due to growth restriction. He lived for seven days. I held him in my arms while he took his last breath. It has been 9 months since we lost him and we are still struggling. I dont think you ever get over such a great loss. I would like to talk to anyone who has lost a baby.  =

Name: Mahaillasmom • Date: 10/14/2007 17:01:42

Hello Damaris sorry to hear about your early birth. I have been there. I have had 2 preemies. both born at 30 wks. I didn't have any complication with my pregnancys. all of a sudden my babies just wanted to be born at 30 wks!! Did this happen with your pregnancy? I hope your baby is growing every day!! My dr said the first baby was just a fluke, so they watched me very well the second time around and even mesured my cervix with an ultrasound a few days before labor pains started!! The ultrasound proved everything looked ok, but then bam! Labor began!! I hope someone has a story like mine, so we can chat. I want to have another baby but not looking forward to having a nother tiny baby. If anyone has a similar story I would like to hear what your dr did for you.  =

Name: mary kline • Date: 10/16/2007 13:40:47

Mahaillasmom, Hi I had two premature births.My first daughter was eight pounds.My second son was born six weeks early I got told the same as you did. They said it was a fluke. My second daughter (third child ) came eight weeks early. The Dr. monitored me every week after the 20th week. My cervical lenth went to 1.5 two days before she was born. They never figured out why I had my two children premature. I went to a speacialist for my fourth pregnancy and she told me that I had a blood clotting problem and put me on lovenox shots two times a day. My son became growth restricted at 19/ 1/2 weeks. I was admitted to John Hopkins when I was 25 weeks pregnant because the problem continued to get worse with his growth. While I was at John Hopkins they retested me for a blood clotting problem and the test came back negative for this problem. I had been on blood thinners for nothing. My son was born On Dec 22 2006 at 29 weeks. HE died seven days later from respitory distress. So if you go to a speacialist be carefull what medicines you take. My biggest regret is that I did not get a second opinion before starting the blood thinners and I do believe that my son would be here if I had only gotten another opinion. John Hopkins told me that they have done alot of research into premature labor and they cannot find the answers for this problem.  =

Name: edithag • Date: 10/19/2007 17:57:15

I hope your baby is doing well Damaris so as the others. Does anybody found out what triggered labor so early? My sister was in a similar situation her water broke around week 19 in two pregnancies. Any suggestions on the tests she should have done by her doctor? It seem is not due to an incompetent cervix (the sonogram showed it was fine 7 days before it happened the second time) Thanks  =

Name: Hannah • Date: 10/22/2007 01:48:31

I would like to give all of you a little hope. I am so hurt to read about all of the pain you go through. It makes my heart ache.
But some things, for whatever reason, turn out right. Have faith.
My mom gave birth to me 19 years ago. I was born at 29 weeks, weighing 1 pound 15 ounces. I was on a ventilator for 24 hours and had steroid shots for lung development at first, and stayed in the hospital for several months, but God has blessed me so abundantly. I thank him each day for being here. I am doing fine, and I hope to get into nursing school in the next year and become a neonatal nurse because my nurses helped me so much.
Michelle, what you said was so beautiful. I'm blinking back the tears.
Keep your spirits up. I am my mom's wonder baby.
God bless!
Love, H.  =

Name: sheila gaughan • Date: 10/23/2007 10:02:38

hi damaris,
my prayers are with you, my baby was born at 28 weeks and we spent 10 weeks in hospital, my baby was 2 1/2 pounds and is now 2 y old and a perfectly healthy baby, so theres light at the end of the tunnel, stay strong and god bless you and your baby and family
x  =

Name: nat • Date: 10/25/2007 00:58:48

high i had baby at 32 weeks nearly lost him because nearly didnt get him out in time he is now 10 weeks and fit as a fiddle he is in my prayers if u need to talk my email is natilly50@hotmail.com  =

Name: Leolion • Date: 10/30/2007 19:12:38

Hello,

I had a baby boy in March of this year at 25 weeks, 1lb. 12oz. He was in the NICU for 5 months. It was a very long, very scary, stressful rollercoaster ride, but he is home now and doing incredibly well. These babies have such a strong will to live and they do eventually grow up. If you have any questions, please feel free to ask.....really anything at all. You will need support through your months ahead. My thoughts are with you an your son. You can reach me at lauricecurran@hotmail.com
Be well.  =

Name: caron sykes • Date: 10/31/2007 02:40:18

Hi
My name is Caron Sykes and my seventeen year old daughter has just had her first baby daughter,Grace Angel, at 25 weeks pregnant.
She was born by emergency caeserian due to pre eclampsia.
What an emotional rollercoaster already, she is four days old today Wednesday 31st october 2007.
My daughter only saw her for the first time yesterday Grace had to be transfered to a neo natal unit with space for her and mum Charlotte was too poorly to travel.
Would love to hear from anyone who has gone through this experience  =

Name: krissy • Date: 10/31/2007 15:00:07

hello am name is krissy i had a 24 week little boy on 08-21-07 he had 4 surgies and we had to make the decision to pull his tube out on 10-09-07as he was not getting better he was 7 weeks old his name was christian troy rodriguez trying again for a nother i have lost 2 before but not delivered how do i go on with out him  =

Name: krissy • Date: 10/31/2007 15:05:33

please if anyone has been where i am please contact me at krissyjrod@hotmail.com just need a friend that knows where i am at  =

Name: ellie • Date: 11/06/2007 08:37:00

im doing a research project on premature babies at college im doing a access to midwifery course. would you be able to keep me updated on your son and im sure he will do fine as there is alot of help out there x  =

Name: Salome • Date: 11/15/2007 22:37:20

Hello everyone,
The University Of Florida has put together GatorWalk, a walk to raise money to help fund research on premature babies and to help premature babies. We are trying to raise money for this great cause so that in the future more will be known about why prematurity occurs and how to prevent it and have all babies born healthy. If any of you would like to donate to this cause, you can do so at www.walkamerica.com/habitat. Thank you.

Please donate by November 17th because we are walking on the 18th and will be unable to collect any more donations after this date.  =

Name: ellie_riley • Date: 11/16/2007 08:25:31

hello  =

Name: Russ • Date: 11/17/2007 21:18:36

Has anyone had a 30 week given steroids for there lungs  =

Name: sabrina • Date: 11/20/2007 23:06:44

HI DAMARIS I WAS LOOKING ONLINE TO FIND HELP ON HOW TO PREVENT PREMATURE BIRTH AND CAME ACROSS ALL OF THE SUPPORT LETTERS EVERYONE SENT YOU. I READ ALL OF THEM BECAUSE I WANTED TO MAKE SURE I WOULDN 'T SAY ANYTHING TO DISCOURAGE, BUT ENCOURAGE YOU. I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH. I WENT THROUGH THE SAME THING 3 1/2 WKS AGO. ON OCTOBER 27, 2007 I GAVE BIRTH TO MY BABY GIRL NYLAH 1 POUND AND 1 OUNCE. SHE WAS 23 AND 1 DAY EARLY. I WASN'T DUE UNTIL FEBRUARY 22, 2008. I FELT ALL OF THE SIGNS THAT NIGHT OF A PREMATURE BIRTH AND WHEN I MADE IT TO THE HOSPITAL NOT LESS THAN AN HOUR I HAD DILATED 6cm. WHEN I GOT THE NEWS THAT NYLAH WAS COMING EARLY MY WHOLE BODY WENT INTO SHOCK. I THOUGHT WHAT HAVE I DONE TO CAUSE THIS TO HAPPEN. I HAD TO LEARN THAT GOD HAS A REASON FOR EVERYTHING, AND CERTAIN THINGS WE AS HUMANS CAN NOT CONTROL. TO MAKE A LONG STORY SHORT, I FELT HELPLESS AND HOPELESS @ TIMES BECAUSE I WOULD WATCH HER FIGHT FOR HER LIFE AND I COULD DO NOTHING. FOR THE FIRST 10 DAYS SHE WAS IMPROVING MORE AND MORE. HER OXYGEN STAYED LOW. HER LUNGS WHERE DEVELOPING BETTER EVERYDAY. THE ONLY CONCERN I HAD WAS THAT SHE HAD A LEVEL 4 BLEEDING ON BOTH SIDES ON HER BRAIN. I PRAYED ALL DAY AND NIGHT THAT GOD WOULD HEAL HER BODY. I NAMED EVERY PART OF HER BODY THAT I WANTED HIM TO HEAL. BUT ON NOVEMBER 7, 2007 I SAID A SPECIAL PRAY THAT NIGHT BEFORE GOING TO BED. I ASK GOD TO HEAL HER AND MAKE HER WHOLE AND I TOLD HIM I PUT NYLAH IN HIS HANDS AND IF SHE WAS GOING TO SUFFER HERE ON EARTH FOR THE REST OF HER LIFE I ASKED GOD TO TAKE HER. DON'T GET ME WRONG I WANTED TO DO THE MOTHER DAUGHTER THINGS WITH HER SHE WAS MY FIRST CHILD. I WANTED TO EXPERIENCE THAT MOTHER DAUGHTER BOND BUT GOD PEEKS INTO OUR FURTURE AND HE KNOWS WHAT WE CAN AND CAN'T HANDLE. THAT NIGHT I WENT TO BED FEELING LIKE EVERYTHING WAS GONNA BE ALRIGHT GOD HAD IT ALL IN CONTROL. ON THE NEXT MORNING NOVEMBER 8, 2007, 5:00 a.m. THE HOSPITAL CALLED ME AND TOLD THAT NYLAH WAS HAD A ROUGH NIGHT AND SHE WAS HAVING A ROUGH MORNING AND THAT I NEED TO GET TO THE HOSPITAL ASAP. WHEN I MADE IT THERE SHE LOOKED LIKE DEATH BUT DAMARIS I COULDN'T CRY OR DO ANYTHING. THEY HAD HER ON 100% OXYGEN I KNEW THEN THAT SHE WAS GONE. I HAD ALREADY TALKED TO GOD ABOUT HER SOUL THE NIGHT BEFORE SO HE PREPARED ME FOR HER DEATH. WHEN I SAW HERE SHE LOOKED SO PEACEFUL I FELT SO HAPPY. THAT SHE WASN'T IN PAIN ANYMORE AND THAT SHE IS IN A FAR BETTER PLACE. YES I MISS HER DEARLY THERE ARE SOMETIMES THAT I CRY. BUT SHE HAS MADE ME A STRONGER PERSON. SHE BROUGHT OUT THE TIGER IN ME AND EVERYTHING I DO, I DO FOR GOD AND I DO FOR NYLAH. I KNOW AT A TIME LIKE THIS YOU DON'T WANT TO HEAR ABOUT GOD GOD GOD , BUT DAMARIS HE IS THE ONLY ONE THAT IS GOING TO BE THERE FOR U WHEN N