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What are we going to do with Today's youth. It just breaks my heart in two knowing that these babies are born to unstable families!!! I nearly died when I read the one where the girl wanted to know if she could get pregnant by having oral sex! I mean what are we teaching these girls. They think in order for a guy to like them they have to sleep with them and forget the results........PREGNANCY AND STD's!!! I started this chat so that we can give these young girls advice. ↓
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| Name: to tammy | Date: Feb 10th, 2006 5:30 PM |
| I totally agree with you these girls are 12 13 and 14 ect and well that is way to young, to even just start taking care of them selfs no less a baby. I was climbing trees and playing basket ball with the boys at that age not sleeping with them!! ↑ |
| Name: Tammy | Date: Feb 10th, 2006 5:35 PM |
| Yeah I thought boys were "yucky". My mom put the fear of boys to me!! And whether they realize it or not boys only think with one thing and you know where I am going with that one!!! They think these boys are so in love and when they get what they want, pooft, they are gone and of course if the girl gets pregnant don't even ask for support from these guys!!! ↑ |
| Name: right on -- Tammy | Date: Feb 10th, 2006 5:56 PM |
| We've sexualized kids to death these past 10 yrs. Girls think they have to put out to be loved. Love is the thing missing from the equation. There is a reason we wait till we are older to have a meaningful relationship and sex. Not just "wam bam thank you mam." Sad, sad, sad....my heart goes out to these kids having kids. Sex education, porn, acceptance of the abnormal as normal have all contibuted to this distorted view of sex. ↑ |
| Name: Ashley | Date: Feb 10th, 2006 6:45 PM |
I couldn't agree w/ you more i live in a city filled w/ sex everywhere you go, las vegas nv and i am struggling w/ the fact that i have a little girl now and as i look around the streets of vegas and the way the girls dress so provocitavly here and the strip clubs and the adult stores and the 24/7 drinking i fear for my daughter not that she might only make the wrong decisions in life but that there are lots of horrible people in this city just waiting to corrupt young girls. I want her and all other young girls to know that sex is not an answer to anything and it doesn't make you feel loved. I made wrong decisions in my childhood and now that i am older wish that i would have maybe even abstained from sex.
It makes me feel bad to see girls posting on this websight at 12, 13, 14 that they are pregnant and the stories behind it makes me feel they are in no position to take care of these children. I just don't know how we can stop it....sex is everywhere you look now, i mean even the herbal essence hair commercials are sexual with the moaning and the screaming. Anyways now i'm rambling sorry so a touchy subject. ↑ |
| Name: amy | Date: Feb 10th, 2006 7:17 PM |
| hi i im 17 n have a 17 month old son i do agree wif wat ur sayin although we arent all the same i slept wif my boyfriend after going out wif him for 5 months and it was my first time after da 3rd time i got pregnant i was onli 16 yes i was stupid i was on the pill but i didnt take it every day suppose i jus thot it wudnt happen to me but i get wat ur sayin totally im jus tryin to say dat we aint all stupid sluts and we aint all unstable either it is hard sumtimes but im still at skool hoipn to go to uni nxt yr i love my son to bits(wish i had of waited longer but wat can ye do now) he is beautiful i am single but i like to think of myself as a good mum i wud neva harm him i do everything i think is rite look after him the way i shud (im studying childcare) n im jus hopin for the best u dnt get an instruction book like but i fink im doin pretty well. ↑ |
| Name: to Amy | Date: Feb 10th, 2006 7:20 PM |
| Im glad to hear you have decided to stay in school bcause with the way you spell you really need to. ↑ |
| Name: Raina | Date: Feb 10th, 2006 7:45 PM |
Well ladies, if we're going to give advice we should. Unfortunately, many of the girls who come here are already pregnant, but for those who aren't, a few words of advice may be the saving grace that helps them through puberty without ending up pregnant or with STD's...that stands for sexually transmitted diseases girls, and they can be life threatening.
Experimentation happens. Whether we like it or not, as concerned parents for our own children and others, the reality of sexual experimentation can't be ignored. So...if kids won't listen to our advice of Hold Off Having Sex Until You're Married, Or At Least Older , let's at the very least keep them informed on safe practises.
Kids, first off, the idea of sex may be very exciting, but can be very dangerous. Keep this in mind from a Mom who experimented as a teen and learned firsthand. The very best sex you can experience is between you and someone you respect and love, who respects and loves you back. Ideally, your husband. If your boyfriend is pushing you into Anything that you feel uncomfortable with he is not respecting you, and if he doesn't respect you, you won't have the love that makes sex meaningful and wonderful. The type of sex that will give you the most satisfaction comes from love that blooms from friendship and mutual respect over months or years of really getting to know each other. Not the feelings that can be mistaken as love during the first few weeks of dating. This feeling can be called infatuation and is perfectly normal, but not love.
When the time comes that you feel ready to move beyond kissing, make sure you stay safe at all times. This includes feeling safe with your partner and knowing, not just assuming, that what happens behind closed doors stays behind closed doors, meaning it's just between the two of you. You don't want to share yourself in anyway with someone who will spread details or rumours with other people. It's a lot like deciding who to share your most personal secret with. You would tell your best friend, someone you trust with keeping your secret safe. You wouldn't tell someone you thought might tell everyone. Experimenting with sex is the same. Follow your gut instincts and let your mind decide if this person can keep your most personal secret, not your body.
When you and your partner move from kissing to touching each other under your clothes, always make sure to have clean hands. You wouldn't sit on a dirty toilet seat, so don't let hands that could be unclean touch you there either.
Kissing and touching - even fingering, is safe sex, so long as there isn't semen (come) on his hands. If there is, you could end up with an STD, and possibly, though not likely, get pregnant.
Oral sex (mouth to genital contact) is considered safer sex. Not safer as in safer than kissing and touching, but safer than sex itself. You will not get pregnant from oral sex, but it is possible to get an STD in your mouth. Make sure you each wash your private areas and to best protect yourself, use a condom on him before you put your mouth there. Before he puts his mouth on your private area (breasts are okay without this), cut a condom in half and use it as a barrier between your private area and his mouth. It may sound fussy, but it is the safest way you can experiment with oral sex, and don't worry, the sensation you feel will still be great, even with the condoms.
Before you move to sex itself, Always, Always have yourself and your partner tested for STD's. These include HIV (Aids), Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, Syphilis and Herpes. You Do Not want any surprises.
When it comes to any contact of the penis and vagina, Always make sure he has a condom on. If he has an STD you can catch it even if you're just rubbing together without him going inside of you. STD's travel through fluid from the penis or vagina and when a man is sexually aroused, there can be a bit of fluid that leaks out, so you want to protect yourself from contact.
Having him wear a condom during sex will reduce your chances of getting an STD and getting pregnant. If he tries to make you feel guilty about insisting he wear one, he is not respecting you. Remember that.
If you catch an STD you may not know and not only could it be life threatening, like AIDS, but it could also do permanent damage to your reproductive system, making it impossible to have children when you're older. Always protect yourself, no matter what.
If you get pregnant, your entire life will change. No matter how you choose to deal with the pregnancy, your life will not be the same. Just read some of the comments from teen moms on this site to begin understanding the hardships involved in having a baby on your own, or the guilt and regrets that can come with aborting. It's not worth it.
So, final words...hold off until you're married or at least old enough to deal with any consequences on your own, and if you decide to experiment, be informed and stay safe. ↑ |
| Name: * | Date: Feb 10th, 2006 10:26 PM |
| I think a lot of these posts are fake. I don't even reply because I know it's only going to give more attention to these immature ppl (boy/girl whatever) who make these posts. They simply do it to start controversy between all the ladies here. If you read a post that sounds completely pathetic, don't reply and feed the fire. ↑ |
| Name: Raina | Date: Feb 10th, 2006 10:49 PM |
| To *. While you are most certainly right about a vast number of posts being fake, I do believe that teenage pregnancy has been on the rise for quite some time, and whether we are responding to rubbish or not, young girls are most certainly coming here to read and post. I'm sure that among the fakes, there are definately some girls in need or in trouble and if we can provide information that stops even one of them from choosing to have unprotected sex, I'm all for responding and providing it. ↑ |
| Name: Lisa | Date: Feb 11th, 2006 2:52 AM |
Tammy, please don't stress yourself over these crazy people. I too was very concerned until I realized there are some nuts going around posting and pretending to be 12, 13, 14, 15 and pregnant.
Somebody is really seeking attention, and it is sad! Pray for them. ↑ |
| Name: Ashley | Date: Feb 11th, 2006 3:52 AM |
| To Lisa: Hey lisa how did you find out they were lieing because those kinds of topics make me all hot under the collar. I just can't believe some of these stories and the Ages. ↑ |
| Name: Lisa | Date: Feb 11th, 2006 4:26 AM |
I found out because it was revealed to me. After a while you can detect that the same person is creating such stupid threads. Although there are some young girls unfortunately making babies, the people in this forum claiming to be that young and pregnant are simply outright lying. Just watch-you can tell after a while.
They are lonely, or she is. It might be one person doing this. ↑ |
| Name: amy | Date: Feb 11th, 2006 1:20 PM |
| ACTUALLY I CAN SPELL VERY WELL THANK YOU HAVE YOU EVER HEARD OF SLANG ITS WHEN YOU MAKE THE WORDS SHORTER SO THAT YOU CAN WRITE FASTER OK ↑ |
| Name: Anne-Marie | Date: Feb 11th, 2006 1:52 PM |
| yeah Iagree with Lisa. There is one person in particular who always remains nameless but always types to the person she is directing her silliness at. She has even claimed to be me before now. She goes on about spelling all the time and makes up absolute crap. I think that a lots of the threads are so rediculous that I also don't bother giving them unnecessary attention. ↑ |
| Name: Ashlie | Date: Feb 11th, 2006 5:58 PM |
| All of you woman are right and there are some "girls" out there tha do need help but with all the FAKES who knows anymore. I dont see why someone woudl want to come on here and lie about being pregnant and being so young when i was 12-15 sex and babies was the last thing on my mind you know i hated boys. i just do't see what our world is coming too. It makes me furious!!! ↑ |
| Name: Gill | Date: Feb 11th, 2006 8:17 PM |
| Well, it probably makes everyone furious because if underage girls are getting pregnant, then guess who'll have to fund their babies, the taxpayer. Also, it's entirely unneccessary. I didn't start having sex till I was 17, (5 years ago) and I made sure I used protection. And it's only four months ago that I stopped using protection. But don't be hard on these young girls. Mother Nature intended for us to get pregnant when we began menstruating! Regardless of what anyone says, teenagers do not listen to advice; what kept me on the straight and narrow was fear of my father's right hand, not anyones advice. We aren't living in an ideal society. We're living in a society where murderers claim compensation off the taxpayer for falling over or stress in prison! Where smoking and drug abuse is cool rather than mindless! Where 12-year-old girls are broody for babies! I agree with you all; it's a sad world, but welcome to it. ↑ |
| Name: Ashlie to Gill | Date: Feb 11th, 2006 8:23 PM |
| Gill you are exactly right and the thing that kept me straigt just like you was my dad, maybe these young girls don't have that father figure in there lives or maybe i just dont know it really does break my heart. ↑ |
| Name: Gill to Ashlie | Date: Feb 11th, 2006 8:31 PM |
| Yes; parenting is vital. I was actually adopted at birth, and my adopted parents are good people, and I feel they raised me well. Not everyone has the chance of good parents, which is more of a reason why the vicious circle of underage girls having babies must stop, as, chances are, they will not be good parents, devoid of youth, struggling on benefits. ↑ |
| Name: amy | Date: Feb 11th, 2006 10:14 PM |
| hi im 17 wif a baby i slept wif my bf for the first time at 16 i agree wif you as i said earlier i jus didnt fink it wudnt happen to me i do have my mother and father at home wif me my dad aint all dat strict but dey are good parents i fink my mum was actually too strict and dat made me rebell against her now i wudnt change fings for the world yea i neva get out like a normal 17 yr old but most of the time it doesnt annoy me i cud be doing worse fings dan stayin in every nite mindin a baby n i have a certificate in childcare an education plus im studying the cache diploma in childcare and education at the minute hopin for uni nxt yr and i wnt be on benefits. ↑ |
| Name: * | Date: Feb 12th, 2006 7:21 AM |
I'm sorry did you say you had a certificate in education? lol
I think my point is made. I don't even know what you said because I was to busy trying to figure out what your words meant. LOL ↑ |
| Name: Gill to Amy | Date: Feb 12th, 2006 2:56 PM |
| Well done you getting your education against all the odds. Sounds like you're a great mum too. Ignore the above post; that person obviously hasn't heard of text lingo. Let the anonymous stew assailant in his/her own ignorance. ↑ |
| Name: to gill from amy | Date: Feb 12th, 2006 4:52 PM |
| thank you gill for your support and to the above post i write my posts too fast from now on i will slow down a little and i will proof read it before i click submitt ok and i wrote i have a certificate in childcare and education which means i am qualified to work in a creche under supervision but the course i am doing now is the equivilant to 3 a levels and if i pass will allow me to open up my own creche or go to uni sorri bout the confusion will try to slow down wen im typin. ↑ |
| Name: Gill to Amy | Date: Feb 12th, 2006 9:23 PM |
| I notice you speak in A-Levels. You from the UK? ↑ |
| Name: amy to gill | Date: Feb 13th, 2006 7:50 PM |
| yes i live in northern ireland ↑ |
| Name: Gill to Amy | Date: Feb 14th, 2006 2:17 PM |
| I am also from Northern Ireland - I'm from Belfast. You?? ↑ |
| Name: amy | Date: Feb 14th, 2006 5:14 PM |
| well im about 40 mins from belfatst i live in portadown have u heard of it? ↑ |
| Name: Ashley | Date: Feb 14th, 2006 5:37 PM |
if i could go anywhere i would visit ireland first i think.
I have always wanted to go there i live in las vegas nv in the usa, and i have always wanted to travel oversea's do you guys love it there?? ↑ |
| Name: Gill | Date: Feb 14th, 2006 5:54 PM |
Amy: Yes I know it well. Nice to meet you. What do you do?
Ashley: It's a grand place to live. But I'd prefer it if the weather was similar to yours. :) ↑ |
| Name: amy | Date: Feb 14th, 2006 8:16 PM |
| im a student at drumcree college im studying a course called CACHE diploma in childcare and education. what do u do? were do u live now if u dnt mind me askin? ashley yea i like it here alos but i do agree da weather is pretty bad i wudlove to visit las vegas (i have never been out of da uk) ↑ |
| Name: preggy with #2!!! | Date: Feb 15th, 2006 5:48 PM |
| I am 19 my husband is 19 we had our son at 17. He stook by me every day inch what ever was nessasary. He never even was near leaving. We faught alot I was moody and I was yelling at him and he start to yell back. I am 19 he's 19 and we are married and going to have a baby again due in Oct around my b-day. I dont' think all boys are like that but yeah all of them. My husband was tout when he was growing up to respect girls never hit and take care of your responsibilitys even if you got a girl pregnant and he was tought that even early and was told that almost all his life! I think that parents these days don't watch and put as much "pressure" on there kids as much as then. (some do) Some put way to much and they do things to despite their parents ↑ |
| Name: LAURA | Date: Feb 15th, 2006 10:20 PM |
WOW u guys at 12 , 13, 14, 15 ,16, 17, that have had sex....u guys need help....i am 13 and no way in hell am i ready for a kid...i mean i wanna do somethin in my life...
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-Laura ↑ |
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