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he just wont stop crying.. i gave him some gs drops, but so far nothing, tried working his legs up into his chest ,, nothing.. tried massaging him.. nothing.. feeding him, nothing, changing him, quiet for a second then nothing.. hes been like this alll day. his temp is normal, just cant figure out what the hell is wrong.. he'll sleep for maybe 20 mins then wake up screaming. i dono if im doing something wrong but i feel like such a failure right now. i cant stop crying b.c i dont know what to do, im so tired, i havent been able to eat, my food has been sitting out for nearly an hour, he fed on the boob for about 20 mins was totally fine, and the whole time i just sat there in tears. i dono whats wrong i feel so down everytime i hear him just screaming i just cry more and more. ↓
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| Name: Kyra | Date: Apr 26th, 2007 11:27 PM |
| is it gas he has for sure? I always used Gripe Water cause you cn use it fairly loosely. It sucks when babies cry for no apparent reason, even suckier when it makes you cry but atleast by crying you're doing something productive! Where is Scott, if thats not being too personal ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Apr 26th, 2007 11:29 PM |
| scott is rocking him right now, he is helping soo much and that worries me b.c he goes back overseas soon and then im gonna be screwed. and i dono i just figured it was gas b.c when he is laying down he is holding his tummy, my mom said try the gas drops. i have gripe water but it says 2 weeks and on and he is only a week. ↑ |
| Name: DaneseS | Date: Apr 26th, 2007 11:30 PM |
| im sorry...i have no advice..but i hope things get better ↑ |
| Name: Kyra | Date: Apr 26th, 2007 11:34 PM |
| Thats pooey--maybe he's just having a rough night for no good reason except that he's a baby and he has not much better to do. Is he prone to gas probs because (if I recall properly) he had intestinal/colon probs at birth?...so maybe it is just gas. hmmm, never really had to deal with that but hope it gets better--as Daneses says ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Apr 26th, 2007 11:37 PM |
| well he slept all last night and was fine, and then this morning and since then has just be going nuts, up every hour wanting food and then he'll fall asleep for like 15-30 mins and then wake up screaming again. right now he is being good, scott is rocking him while i try to eat something, but im just sitting here spacing out crying. i feel so bad. like im a bad mom b.c i dont know how to make him not cry. i think theyve pretty much ruled out his tummy problems. but i dono maybe its the formula, or something i ate and its in the breast milk or something i dont effing know i just feel so bad scott is being so great and im just here balling my eyes out. ↑ |
| Name: DaneseS | Date: Apr 26th, 2007 11:39 PM |
| Coart your not a bad mom at all. You've done everything you can, i'm sure he will be fine...just try to eat and calm down and enjoy having scott around while he is..lol ↑ |
| Name: Kyra | Date: Apr 26th, 2007 11:40 PM |
Its good to ball your eyes out--I woke up in the middle of the night when my daughter was like 5 days old and I flipped--I swore to god she was swearing at me in her cry. thank god my mom was there to tell me that I'm being nuts---and she fed my baby for me ofcourse!! Its rough not knowing but I'm sure it'll woke itself out of Braden. You know all of the serious warning signs and instinct will kick in if you feel like there really is a prob.
It does suck though that Scott is leaving, I can't imagine that--that would scare the crap out of me being by myself--are you in Florida now? or still in Turkey? ↑ |
| Name: missmara | Date: Apr 26th, 2007 11:41 PM |
| I'm sorry Coartney. It's so hard in the beginning, but soon you'll be able to tell what his different cries mean. Right now just let Scott and whoever else is there take care of him, and you go eat and get some rest. Maybe Scott can take him for a ride in the car. Also, try the 5 S's rule for crying babies: swaddling, swaying, shushing (do it really loud in his ear), sucking (breast, pacifier - whatever he'll take) and side (meaning put him on his side). Also, if it is gas, try holding him so that your palm is on his belly with your fingers near his chest and his legs draped around your forearm (with baby facing the floor). Ummm. what else...a change of environment - Sophie always stops crying when I take her outside for some reason. But mostly, it's normal for a baby to cry for up to 4 hours a day when they are newborn, and the more tense and tired and stresses you are,, the more the baby will sense it, so go take care of yourself and I promise you will hear those cries with new ears and be better able to cope. ↑ |
| Name: question | Date: Apr 26th, 2007 11:53 PM |
| Im so sorry Coartney,try to take a break and relax.Maybe you could go out and take a little walk or just do something for you for even an hour.My little foster baby was a drug baby and ever so fussy.I know what it is like,but look up,it will get better!I'll be thinking about you tonight.Hugs to you! ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Apr 26th, 2007 11:55 PM |
| ty u guys scott got him to sleep im so grateful to have an amazing husband that is willing to help out like this. ↑ |
| Name: missmara | Date: Apr 26th, 2007 11:57 PM |
| That's what he's there for, and don't you be afraid to ask for help when you need it! Now go get some sleep - we better not see you on here for awhile, and when Braden wakes up to feed, just nurse him while lying on your side so you can doze and nurse at the same time:) ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Apr 26th, 2007 11:58 PM |
| cant he is still spittingup a little so i have to keep an eye on him, he puked all over my chest earlier it was awesome. ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Apr 26th, 2007 11:58 PM |
| im letting scott nap while i pump. ↑ |
| Name: question | Date: Apr 27th, 2007 12:00 AM |
| lol...getting puked all over is one of the joys of being a mom,along with being a dork.... :) lol ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Apr 27th, 2007 12:01 AM |
| Name: Dawn C. | Date: Apr 27th, 2007 12:01 AM |
| Every new mom feels a little inept Coartney. You'll get over that feeling soon. It's just all so new and different...a big life change just landed right in your lap. Things will even out soon. It's not like you had the most relaxing week either! One major stressful event after another. I'd probably be in the nut house by now if I were you lol. I promise things will be OK! Ease up on yourself...I'm sure you are a wonderful Mom♥ ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Apr 27th, 2007 12:11 AM |
| Name: Karen- | Date: Apr 27th, 2007 12:35 AM |
| When they put you out of your misery send them my way.. OK? Thanks! ↑ |
| Name: 04nidak | Date: Apr 27th, 2007 12:39 AM |
| I'm sorry you are having such a rough time Coartney. My son did the same thing when he was first born....cried all the time! I know exactly how you are feeling, but first thing first, you have to take care of yourself. You need to eat and drink not only so you don't get sick, but to help keep up your supply. Do you have a swing? When Kadin cried non stop like that I went to walmart and bought a swing to try, I was desperate. From the moment he went in it he was so content. He's still have his moments, but there were nights where he'd sleep in there. He has reflux and spit up non stop, after he ate and for just no reason. I know you are just exausted and at your wits end right now, but it will get better. I promise!!!! ↑ |
| Name: 04nidak | Date: Apr 27th, 2007 12:42 AM |
| meant to say he'd still have his moments, not he's. ↑ |
| Name: zoey9810 | Date: Apr 27th, 2007 1:30 AM |
aww, yay let it all out Braden, farting is good
if it makes you feel any better, my roomemate has her god children over and Haden is 4 months old and i was holding him just after he got out of his bath, and he peed on me lol ↑ |
| Name: Whittni | Date: Apr 27th, 2007 1:39 AM |
| I love you :) and so does cadence :) ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Apr 27th, 2007 1:43 AM |
| whittni, how is your sanity? love you too ↑ |
| Name: Whittni | Date: Apr 27th, 2007 1:46 AM |
| it's there. i hate pumping though. i think thats the worse part. i want to duck tape the pumps to my boobs haha. i dont like being in my room pumping for 15 minutes all by my lonesome. right now cadence has the spot light with g-ma still here and cuffy always waking up and taking care of her in the middle of the night. its going to get a lot harder when the newness wears off and mom goes home and cuffy goes back to work..thats when the sanity will be gone!!!! Although Cadence did start to latch today and only had one bottle! yay! I've been wiping out the boob all day for her. she only sucks for about 10 minutes before shes cashed out for a snooze. shes only 4 days old though so the tough isnt even begun! im sorry to hear braden is being such a fuss pants. im sure it will smoothe over soon. when does scott go back? why cant you go with him? ↑ |
| Name: sezbi | Date: Apr 27th, 2007 1:48 AM |
You just have to go through your checklist of things to check for
Is he comfortable..clothes not too tight, fit him properly, his nappy secure not to tight etc
That he is burped properly..even though he might be burping he might have a colic problem..oliver was the same.. try these drops..you can only get them in the UK and on ebay..they LITERALLY saved my life..once oliver was on these he started sleeping through the night..trust me..ive helped 2 of my friends who had the same problem..
http://www.infacol.co.uk/
Its a muscle behind there neck that isnt formed properly yet..stopping them from burping properly..
Make sure he is getting a full feed......its really hard to tell with a breast..if he is just sucking air etc..
Give him a bath..that has a calming effect on most children..add a drop of lavender oil to the warm bath water..this will also help him.
Of course check he has a clean nappy etc..
Give him security...wrap him in a blanket..this is what they really want in the early stages. Also a good tip for putting him down to sleep...put in one of YOUR shirts..dirty..of course that has your smell on it /breast milk..this will comfort him.
He really wants his mummy at this stage...and you being stressed out etc wont help him...he knows more about you coartney then you know about yourself..he was inside of you for 9 months...they are smart little buggers....Yes its good to cry and get upset and feel like a failure..i was the same in the first 2 months.. its really normal..its a daunting experience.
Take him for a drive in your car...this settles oliver too when ive tried everything else...the vibrating and motion sooths him.
I really think from what you have explained there he does have colic...You use the drops for 3 months until that muscle relex in the back of the neck is formed properly........i really suggest you try it..i only paid $10 off ebay for 2x viles.... or you can purchase it on the site for about $15 a vile i think.
Gl..it will get better with time.. ↑ |
| Name: Kristy84 | Date: Apr 27th, 2007 2:02 AM |
| I wrote you on myspace coart...I totally know what you're going through...even my dr. was amazed at the severity of Harper's colic ↑ |
| Name: mother2five | Date: Apr 27th, 2007 2:54 AM |
| You have to calm down he cansense your stressed out, then try holding him in dif. positions. If your nursing it could've been somting you ate, I know it sounds silly but check his penis and his fingers and see if theres a hair wrapped around them. Try soft music, and a warm bath for him. put his blanket in the dryer and swaddle him. lemme think of some more ideas ↑ |
| Name: mother2five | Date: Apr 27th, 2007 2:56 AM |
| try holding him in the crook of your arm in the football hold, w/ your hand on his tummy ↑ |
| Name: Starbucks | Date: Apr 27th, 2007 2:59 AM |
It'll be okay Coartney... I try to just remember that crying does not mean the same thing to a baby as it does for us. Even when they seem like they are freaking out and about to die.... doesn't always mean that they are pissed or hurt. They just don't talk. Chalk it up to living with grumpy little mute! lol. Everything they want to say comes out "UH UH UH".
I always make up something when Josh screams... and talk back to him like I know what he's saying. Like "Oh. Really? You want something to eat? Uh huh? Oh, nevermind... sit up? Well, all you had to say was sit-up. Not that either? Woops. Misunderstood again. Could you say that a little louder?"
Doesn't stop the screaming - but it's funny as hell. Especially if he's not one of the major three... hungry, wet, or gassy. Because honestly there isn't anything that you can do anyhow. ↑ |
| Name: veronim | Date: Apr 27th, 2007 5:17 AM |
| have you tried putting him in the car and running the engine? this can really sooth them and is good as a last measure ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Apr 27th, 2007 5:30 AM |
| thank you everyone so much .. i took him outside and walked back forth pacing going shhh .. calmed him right down. then about 40 mins later he was hungry and whaling again but he ate and passed out for nearly 4 hours, so we checked him changed his diaper fed him againa nd he is out cold again. i figure from all the screaming and crying and lack of sleep thats why he is so sleepy. but i got the best little nap in the world, so much more calm now. scott laid beside me and played with my hair til i was out cold. and then he let me sleep when he woke up. i even woke up to him handing me food and water hehe.. we felt bad waking up braden but i was told never to let him go past 4 hours without eating, so i had to give him some nummies. but he is passed out on daddies chest so we'll see ↑ |
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