| Name: XXaicdkittenXX | Date: Jan 17th, 2006 2:51 PM |
| i know what your daughter is feeling, im going through the same thing right now, im not happy with the way i look, so im not eating. i eat dinner and thats it, but im getting to the stage where i cant keep my food down without making myself purposly bring it up. my mum hasnt even noticed but i wish she woukd! i want someone there for me to talk to. TRUST ME dont pressure her into going anywhere near scales, just let her know you are there for security and trust but dont influence her in any way, if things get too seriouse, then sit her down and have a more seriouse talk about it with her. im still quite chubby but i know im balemik and on my way to becoming anarexic, its my own personal choice to be this way and no-one could make me want to change the way i live. i have ana friends so this is helpfull. ↑ |
| Name: kimberlee | Date: Jan 19th, 2006 4:40 AM |
| if erin has an eating disorder you should take her to a doctor to see what is wrong with her ↑ |
| Name: Elizabeth | Date: Jan 20th, 2006 1:17 AM |
| Lately I've been restricting my calorie intake drastically. I'll eat 300 cals one day, 500 the next and 100 the day after. I've lost 7 pounds in 10 days and I'm very happy. But what's the deal w/ ppl saying you'll gain it all back? I've heard so many stories it's confusing. I'm happy with the way I eat. I count every single calorie I eat and I'm happy. But what's the deal with all the different things? Some ppl have said they gained it back once they ate a lot more. Others say it shrunk there stomaches and they don't gain b/c they aren't hungry. ↑ |
| Name: cristi | Date: Jan 20th, 2006 2:50 AM |
| i need help how to lose weight ↑ |
| Name: tanya | Date: Jan 22nd, 2006 11:35 PM |
| hello it does seem to me like she does have an eating disorder...i used to suffer from one and she is doing exactly what i used to do ↑ |
| Name: Ashlen | Date: Jan 23rd, 2006 11:28 PM |
| I know how your daughter feels. I'm 13, and I am 102 lbs. Everyone tells me I look healthy, and my doctors insist that I am not overweight. But I see all these girls at my school wearing size 0 and I have this sick feeling wash over me. I purge, but it doesn't work every time. Sometimes, I can't force myself to do it. I'll eat 300 calories a day for a week, and lose 5 lbs., but then I will be so tormented that I will eat, then I feel guilty and fat, and it starts all over again. I don't know what to do about it. ↑ |
| Name: brittany | Date: Jan 24th, 2006 11:23 AM |
| its gonna take time but you can help her through this trust me i almost went through this. But then i decided to eat healthy foods and exercise everyday but not to much and now my selfesteem is back to normal. so just show her all the healthy low fat foods and if you have to take her to the gym. so she will eat and stay fit and healthy.and through the couple of days hide the scales away from her. And if you like even call up her friends parents and ask them when ever she goes over if they can hide there scales to if none of that works just reply if its worst or better and ill read it thankyou ↑ |
| Name: sarah cramsed | Date: Jan 26th, 2006 3:42 AM |
hi i need help i am about 5 foot and im 115 pounds am i fat or normal ??? i keep thinking im fat but my friends say im not !!!?? im so.. confused ........
PLEASE help ME ↑ |
| Name: LALALALALA | Date: Jan 29th, 2006 10:06 PM |
| Okay the very first thing you don't want to do is tell your daughter to get on the scale. I am 15 and recovering from anorexia and if my mom told me to get on the scale i would feel even more "fat". I know you just want to help but i don't think you should try to help her. What i mean by that is you should talk to her school councler and get her to talk to her. If that doesn't work then maybe you should taking her to doctor. What you don't want to do is take her to a shrink without trying to talk to her first or asking her school councler to try and help. She will deney it but if you really think she is not eating just keep talking to her. What stopped me was learning about what anorexia did to me. Another big thing is support. Maybe you might even want to find out what her friends think. Are they doing it with her or are they really concern. Don't give up and good luck. ↑ |
| Name: angelbaby16 | Date: Jan 31st, 2006 3:08 PM |
| i'm 16 and did suffer from an eating disorder. it dose sound like your daughter is having problem's with food . the most you can do for her right now is be there for her and and get her the help she needs . ↑ |
| Name: bri | Date: Feb 5th, 2006 11:35 PM |
| its not just a teenage phase. you should be worried, and if you havent yet, you should get her help. take her to see doctors without telling her where youre going. i have an eating disorder, ive tried to tell my mother twice [over 9 years] that i need help and through her own self pride she has denied me any help. dont just sit back and watch her waste away. get any kind of help necessary. DO NOT worry about her getting upset with you. she will realize that its because you love her. good luck ↑ |
| Name: suffer | Date: Feb 10th, 2006 5:50 PM |
| I had it too its how it started with me! ↑ |
| Name: linda | Date: Feb 12th, 2006 5:23 AM |
| my reply is take her to her doctor and get her also a therapist who specializes in anorexia. This whole thing happened so fast for my daughter. Sick in November, medical testing then refered to a therapist. She had all the symptoms and behaviors. She is 5'8 and weighs 113 lbs. The weight is the problem that shows up on the outside. It is what is going on on the inside that is the real problem. Jessi, 16, my baby girl will be admitted to the UCLA hospital either Monday or Tuesday. She will have to stay there 4 to 8 weeks. This isn't about me but I can tell you I feel like both Jessi and I are dying a slow death. Get help and get it now ↑ |
| Name: ali | Date: Feb 18th, 2006 2:27 PM |
| I am a10 year old with (ana) iam on a feeding tube and want a girl my age to talk to ↑ |
| Name: ali | Date: Feb 18th, 2006 2:32 PM |
dear Emily
I am 10 and have anorexia I know it's hard but see a doctor soon you will be scared at first but you'll feel better I promise. ↑ |
| Name: ali | Date: Feb 18th, 2006 2:38 PM |
ashleigh,
I am 10 and I have nervosa too.I am also drip fed.could you give me some advice.I was in the hospital for a month.I got to come home but i am still being drip fed. ↑ |
| Name: ali | Date: Feb 18th, 2006 2:44 PM |
| erin it sonds like your daughter has the same symtoms I do.I was diagnosed with anarexia so talk to your doctor. ↑ |
| Name: Mary | Date: Feb 24th, 2006 2:54 AM |
Hi, I don't think your daughter has Anorexia. It's just peer pressure and a phase.I'm 17 and I did that when I was 13 and 14, I constantly worried about my weight even though I only weighed 100 lbs and I was 5'3. My freshman year I started doing the same thing your daughter does, but I don't do it any more I stoped when I was 15. My advice to you, unless she is suffering from severe wieght lose, would be to do what my mother and older sister did for me. My sister Carrie who's 3 years older than me noticed that i wasn't eating at lunch and that I didn't eat breakfast and very little dinner so she told my mom and during the day carrie actually made me go get lunch and eat it, and my mom made me eat dinner and I couldn't get up from the table untill my plate was clean, at the time I was mad, but I got over it, and realized they were helping me keep from getting an eating disorder. So first if she has an older sibling I would ask them to watch and see if she is eating lunch and then make her eat dinner when you all sit down and eat. If she is still concerned about her wieght then talk to her about eating disorders and the harm they can do to the inside and outside of her body. If she is over-wieght then get her on a healthy diet, but watch her closely, and don't put up with the screaming and yelling. I'm now a healthy weight of 112 and 5'5, my parents siblings and friends really helped me so don't worry to much it usually is just a phase.
Mary - age, 17 ↑ |
| Name: kate | Date: Mar 4th, 2006 3:57 AM |
| are you really the one not eating ↑ |
| Name: Sharon | Date: Mar 7th, 2006 6:23 PM |
| hi there, i hope i'm not out of order by asking this, if u feel i am, i'm very sorry!!! My name is Sharon, i'm a 21 year old psychology student in my final year from Edinburgh. I am currently conducting a study looking at the the factors influencing eating disorders. I have interviewed and e-mailed many males and females suffering from anorexia and bulimia as well as many, therapists, doctors, dietitions and psychologists. If you wouldn't mind answering a few question over e-mail for me, could you please e-mail me on - [email protected]. Thank you. and Erin, i hope your daughter is coming through and doing better. ↑ |
| Name: mary | Date: Mar 13th, 2006 3:28 PM |
| i am 15 yeara old and i am 9 stone and i thick i am fat ↑ |
| Name: brandie | Date: Mar 17th, 2006 4:33 AM |
| Hi, I know this is not going to be easy coming from a 15 year old but i have had my far shares of eating disorders and so plaeas take this to heart . Yes this is going to be hard but here are some famillar acts in her way , when i was having my run in with bulimia ,{not full run in with anorxica} i was crabby all the time and was very distant but that doesnt always mean she or anyone has an eating disorder.But if you notice that her food is gone when she comes home and you dont think she has eaten it ,then just have someone at that school kinda keep a close eye and mointor her while at lunch. Sorry if im not that much help ↑ |
| Name: stacey kelly | Date: Mar 17th, 2006 2:36 PM |
| Name: SDKDJFHGMC | Date: Mar 19th, 2006 2:13 AM |
| I am 16 and currently 116lbs. I have an eating disorder and act mostly the way you are portraying your daughter. My mom makes me get weighed every sunday. I think u should start weighing ur daughter and keep a chart to see how much she looses. my mom does that. if she is trying to skip meals and loose weight she might be talking to her friends about it. just a thought. keep an eye on her but dont get to pushy because that would probably get her mad and not talk. ↑ |
| Name: Jenn M. | Date: Mar 21st, 2006 6:59 AM |
| Umm... She could be developing OCD. I just say this because she has so arrange her food. Well, I am an anorexic so I know a thing or two. See if she has been getting headaches or dizziness lately cause that can happen. Just have a serious talk with her. If she is anorexic you want to stop it as fast as you can because it is a disease and is so painful. Ask her if she wants to lose weight and if so put her on a diet plan. Well, its not really like a diet but go on a website that can show how her body is then see what foods are right for her then buy any exercise machine or ask if she wants to go to a gym. Observe her and ask around, but don't let her find out cause she'll probably get mad. If you don't want to do that the only thing you can do is talk to her. ↑ |
| Name: barelythere | Date: Mar 21st, 2006 10:42 AM |
Take her to the doctor and get him to explain the seriousness of the illness. See if you can get her to go into a clinic for a day just to see how terribly serious this illness is. Don't endorse dieting and exercise for weightloss. Get her into a team sport, build up her confidence, her self esteem. Get her seeing a councellor if you are worried. Dont try and help her on your own but do try and get her to talk to you. If she won't don't be offended. I've suffered heavily from anorexia for the past 5 years, before that it was just innocent dieting. I still have trouble talking to my mum about it but it is reassuring to know she is there if I need her.
Honestly though don't think of it as a just a teenage phase. Get her into mild treatment now and you may just prevent a disaster from happening. ↑ |
| Name: Michele | Date: Mar 21st, 2006 5:58 PM |
| Behavior changes can be a sign of a lot of things. Have her evaluated by your family physician (or her pediatrician) and express your concerns. She may be crying for your help, but not know how to ask. ↑ |
| Name: julie | Date: Mar 25th, 2006 2:58 PM |
| i am 36 and have had anorexia for about 3 years but in the last year i have lost about 45lbs,reading this i know that i do all the same things but i will tell you if you confront her she will be defensive,well that is how i am because i think i am fat and need to lose more weight i eat very very little enough just to hide it so people do not bug me ,but she is so young so mabey you do need to sit her down and talk to her ,it is not something i would want my child to go through. ↑ |
| Name: ally | Date: Mar 29th, 2006 5:32 PM |
hey erin
well i'm not completely sure she has an eating disorder but i would guess she does.
continue to be diligent in what ur doing but most of all be a spectator for maybe a week
make sure what u suspect is true if u can't make a difference within a week seek professional help DO NOT SECOND GUESS YOURSELF
i'm 41 have every kind of disorder and i absolutely think u r amazing for seein what alot of parents includind mine don't see ↑ |
| Name: kayci | Date: Apr 12th, 2006 6:49 PM |
| dont be worried, cuz if you are, she will become anorexic out of spite.... ↑ |
| Name: Joley | Date: Apr 13th, 2006 7:41 PM |
Hi Erin. I read your post, and my heart went out to you. I have been struggling with anorexia for years now. Your daughter seems to be also. Try and help her by suggesting foods she likes, and whatever you do, don't say things like "you would be alot healthier if you would eat." instead, say stufff like "i really worry about you, and want to help." just let her know that you are 100% on her side. I didn't want to tell anyone, because i was afraid that they would be mad at me.
I really truly hope you find help. my thoughts and prayers are with you. ↑ |
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