| Name: Becky | Date: May 26th, 2006 9:02 PM |
| A good spanking always works on the bare ↑ |
| Name: n.n. | Date: May 28th, 2006 6:44 AM |
| As far as the phone thing goes,cancel service and let her keep a phone that won't work. Cancel out her my space also. Is her father involved in her life at all? If he isn't,maybe it's time he was. Ground her from doing anything and if she runs away call the police as soon as you know she is gone.If it comes to that,put her in bootcamp for the summer,that would straighten her up for sure. ↑ |
| Name: lil Ananda | Date: Jun 8th, 2006 6:59 PM |
| Name: Brant | Date: Jun 9th, 2006 2:54 AM |
I just want to encourage you. All is not lost. I also have a 15 year old daughter, however she does not have the privilege of telling us NO. We are the parents and we established that long ago by setting parameters and boundaries and holding her accountable. I don’t care if she hates me or whatever my job is to keep her safe.
I work in IT and she knows that I am very computer savvy. I warned her about the dangers of myspace and other social web sites. We have also watched a number of programs together concerning the dangerous situations these teens are getting themselves into on-line. To make a long story short I felt in my spirit that she had activated a new account, so I did some research and sure enough…I found her! I created a dummy e-mail (yahoo) and my space page and began communicating with her on-line. She has no idea that I am not a 17 year old boy who loves basketball as much as she does. I haven’t busted her yet because I am finding out some really good information not only about her, but about some of her friends. I am sharing it with some of the girl’s (the ones that I believe will be receptive anyway) parents that I have found in her “friends” list. The danger here is that she has no idea who I am and that I am not some 50 year old perv trying to get into her pants. I even went so far as to use some picture of some guy I found on-line.
As soon as bring an end to this sting I will be installing Bsafe on-line (http://www.bsafehome.com) on the computer she uses. It filters out all of those social websites as well as porn and spy ware. It comes highly recommended. I got the idea from Rebecca Hagelin author of “Home Invasion” (http://www.homeinvasion.org)
My wife and I had the privilege of hearing her speak and I also bought her book which I highly recommend.
I have enjoyed sharing my story with other parents and I plan to help spread the word in bigger ways to whom ever I can. Set the parameters and don't budge from them. Please stay encouraged and cover your children in prayer! ↑ |
| Name: Liddy | Date: Jul 5th, 2006 1:54 PM |
| give her a nice short high and tight punishment haircut...it did wonders for my 15 yar old. Especially with the promise that i would shave all her hair off if her attitude doesn't improve. Let it grow back out as long as as she is repectful and does as she chores. Oh yeah, at 15 she does not need a cell phone. ↑ |
| Name: yerowww | Date: Oct 12th, 2007 12:08 PM |
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| Name: daisy255 | Date: Oct 26th, 2007 9:53 PM |
| Take control of this ASAP. The older she gets, she will definitely rebel. I have seen this happening. My daughter's friend ended up dropping out of school. It just gets worst. ↑ |
| Name: rachelturner0 | Date: Nov 29th, 2007 9:02 PM |
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| Name: annieshanta | Date: Jun 22nd, 2009 5:44 AM |
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| Name: whitewolf3001 | Date: Aug 10th, 2009 8:10 PM |
Tell your daughter how dangerous it is online. You did the right thing to punish her. If she is still being manipulative. Then I think you should keep cracking down on her about it. Seems she lost her respect for you. My 14 yr old daughter had also done things like this. We fight and she is very stubborn. What works is yess grounding her. She really hates it. She has no cell phone anymore ever! And she has a laptop. But the moment she dares talks to me in any wrong tone. She loses it. Even if she says to me Whatever mom. I told her. She is not ever to talk to me in that tone or way again. I mean business. It's been a month now since I stopped being too nice.
Now she is very respectable and kind. I feel I got my daughter back. You must put your foot down and stick to your guns. If you let her walk all over you now.. She will think she's in authority. And yes she is counting on you to feel bad about it. She's an intelligent being lol. She will manipulate you any which way. But most importantly.. You must reward her for being good to you. I do reward my kids.. But I am honest and I tell them what I think. That I will no longer tolerate any dis respect!
It's upon you. I stopped feeling bad. And now my daughter is nicer. She knows not to do it anymore! Good luck!
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I never beat her either. You should not ever have to get physical with a kid. I just take away her pc. Make your daughter sit in her room without tv etc. Tell her.. I want you to think about how you are talking to me. I am your mother. I love you and I only want you to realize what you are doing. She won't like it. But stick to your guns .. she will change her tune. again I wish you luck lol ↑ |
| Name: whitewolf3001 | Date: Aug 10th, 2009 8:21 PM |
Most importantly talk to your kids. Being open is the best way to keep a good working relationship between your children.
Never get physical. I am against any spankings or hitting.. all that does is show them how to act when they are in anger. and that is un except able behavior by adults and kids. It's really not easy being a parent. But it's also not easy being a teen either. Good luck! And parents be careful with your kids online. There are sexual preditors lurking and waiting to snare a victim. Sad but true! Make sure your kids are educated about this. It is a big deal.. Ask any parent who has lost there child to these scum bags. ↑ |
| Name: Lilyme | Date: Jan 21st, 2010 9:53 PM |
| I have had this problem before to. What I did was give her a Buzz-cut it worked amazingly!! ↑ |
| Name: SammieK | Date: Feb 11th, 2010 3:11 AM |
| Name: Andckids | Date: Mar 2nd, 2010 4:16 AM |
| Why not try cutting off her phone service which by the way you are paying for!!! Don't let kids run the show if they don't respect the rules they don't deserve the rewards. I just had a similar issue with my daughter. We had a rule that no my space was allowed she is 14 - after finding out she had completed one anyway the new deal is she is only allowed to use the computer when I or my husband is in the room and I check her text messages daily. She is not allowed to take her phone to school and there are privacy alerts and packages you can get through your phone service that will notify you of what she does and when such as GPS. use technology to your advantage ↑ |
| Name: passiton10X10.com | Date: Mar 2nd, 2010 5:39 AM |
| I know this is hard. I have teens. I got through the first 2 ok but my baby who is 16 now gave me a real hard fight last year. I have a lot to tell you. You have to win. They will fight you. They will pull you down. They don't fully understand what they are doing but, they will do it anyway. Be strong. Don't doubt yourself and don't ever ever give in. Don't ever ever give up. I thought I lost my son. He was just a shell of the little boy I remembered. I could not reach him. First bad attitude then defiance then Drugs and alcohol. Home life was fine. The other kids were fine. He just for some reason needed more. I never gave up. I wanted to. So many times. People even told me too. I thought I was going to die from stress, heart ache, or a heart attack. But I got angry and decided I was going to fight for my kid and not give up. I was so far up that kids but every time he turned around he saw my face. No matter where he was. They get angry. They get confused and act out. My son came around I could see in his eyes he knew I was fighting for him even if he did not understand what was REALLY going on. He new I was fighting for what I knew to be right and it made him curious. In this crazy world teenagers are in (that we don't really understand) my son got it. He new I was not going to stop or give up on him or give into the crap we were dealing with. He gave in! I won. I won my son back. A son that respected me and had a whole new love for me. Cindy, through this process I seen other parents give in. I saw them give up. Not just because they did not care but because it got too hard. They did not know what to do or did not have the fight in them. It is sad because I truly understand now how people lose their teens. I know this seems harsh for your daughter just being defiant but it starts somewhere and grows! That behavior is where it starts. So get up her butt and show her who is boss! The MySpace BAD BAD BAD! Slip in and read her mail I am sure you will be shocked at what you find. Keep talking to her. Keep telling her you are there for her if she needs you. Try to communicate without getting manipulated (teens are good at that) but, if she is getting out of hand prepare for battle and remember you will win. ↑ |
| Name: abc | Date: Oct 8th, 2010 7:07 AM |
give youre daughter one last chance to accept her punishments,and improve her behaviour if not then tell her she will have to spend a whole weekend in lockdown, if this dosnt work you must carry out youre threat.
first empty her room of everything, she is left with bed blankets pillows and NOTHING else, put her in her room and lock the door, tell her she is confined to her room for the entire weekend .if she needs the bathroom she knocks on her door and waits for you to let her out, after toilet break she returs to her room and is locked back in . if she starts shouting or banging on her door ignore her, do not get involved in any arguments, tell her shes staying in their and thats that if she dosnt like it tough !
she is given three very basic meals per day which she eats in her room, ,after dinner at 4pm she is given a bucket for emergency toilet and a bottle of drinking water, her bedroom door is then shut and she is locked in untill the next day. at 7.30pm she is instructed to turn her lights out and go to bed
one weekend should be punishment enough. belive me its a tough punishment i had it done to me when i was grounded and sneaked out the house.my parents went nuts and i spent the weekend in my room, locked in. i never disrispected a grounding again. its unlikely youre daughter will want to be punished like this again.
ps i would only try this with older children ie teenagers upwards. ↑ |
| Name: solotjko | Date: Dec 3rd, 2010 9:46 PM |
| I need help also. My daughter won't let me even see her my space. She also puts a passcode on her phone so I don't see the texts she gets. How do I get her to let me see what she does? And the way she talks to me ,she hardly respects me or her dad. ↑ |
| Name: solotjko | Date: Dec 3rd, 2010 9:46 PM |
| Name: Grace and Truth | Date: Jan 12th, 2011 9:03 PM |
| I just came from an appointment with a counselor about this same subject and he said it is so important to stand firm on these issues, try to set limits and filters with the phone company on these phones and let her know you will be checking her text messages. There are to be no secrets. You as the parent need to have access to all they do. He also said take these things away from them and they get them back only when they are earning them by being responsible. They earn freedoms as they are responsible. Call the police and let them know you have a teen and there might be problems with running away. You can tell the teen that she will not only be in trouble but anyone who houses her if she runs away is liable and commiting an offense. Explain you understand her need for some alone time to think about things, but she needs to be home by early evening and if not you will call the police. She would be considered a runaway. You must not let her think she is able to get away with this. You are the parent and she is the child till she is 18. ↑ |
| Name: abc | Date: Feb 13th, 2011 9:31 AM |
| if your daughter is in her teens then she should respect your punishments if she dos"nt then try locking her in her bedroom for a saturday or even a whole weekend ensure her bedroom is emptied of everything except her bed blankets and schoolwork ↑ |
| Name: Daisy54 | Date: Feb 27th, 2011 6:45 PM |
Dear Cindy,
We have a 12 year old daughter that does not do what we ask her to do like pick up things in here bed room and she tells us no all the time and we just dont know what to do so if there is any parent's that can help us please do because we dont want to put her in a home for bad kids real we do we love our 12 year old daughter so much but we dont know what to do also when our daughter ask us to go to stay at a friends house I the mother say no but her dad always say yes and then i do nat want to do when my husband does this so can any of those mothers help me out with this too.thank you & may god bless you of you parents.
Sincerly the mother of a 12 year old daughter. ↑ |
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