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I have been interested in being a surrogate mother for years, but not sure how to go about this. Anyone know how to find out more? Or how to begin my search for a stable, loving couple? Thanks. ↓
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| Name: answer | Date: May 12th, 2006 12:56 AM |
| go to surromomsonline.com they can help ↑ |
| Name: Sue | Date: May 12th, 2006 1:11 AM |
| Name: Misty | Date: May 12th, 2006 2:05 AM |
| What are you expecting out of this? Do you expect to get paid? I dont think it is a good thing because look at all the risks just an opinion. ↑ |
| Name: Sue | Date: May 12th, 2006 3:25 AM |
| Risks? Each & every decision in life has it's risks. I definately do not want a hand-out\to get paid. This is something that I would love to do, for years now. I have 2 healthy children, and I can't even begin to think of life without them. So many couples are not so blessed. ↑ |
| Name: hi | Date: May 12th, 2006 3:45 AM |
| what would you be expecting from this money? ↑ |
| Name: Sue | Date: May 12th, 2006 3:58 AM |
| Reply to Hi: money? I'm not sure what that comment was for. I'm not interested in being a surrogate mother for any money at all. No amount of money can be compared to a child. I don't want to be paid for being a surrogate, I just want to bless a couple that cannot bring a child into the world on their own. I know that many different laws apply in different states, so the info helps alot. Also opinions, many people thinks it's a terrible thing, this world is a rough place, but life goes on. We just have to appreciate the good things. :-) ↑ |
| Name: ask yourself | Date: May 12th, 2006 4:05 AM |
| Sue you have to ask yourself some tough questions and only you can answer them...do you have kids...what kind of relatiionship are you looking for...your family ...will they support you? Many more just a few thoughts.......... ↑ |
| Name: Sue | Date: May 12th, 2006 4:24 AM |
| I'm married, have 2 children, I have a pretty easy-going life. We have a great house, and a wonderful family here. We have it all (thank god!) But knowing that there are MANY couples that cannot have children, I really want to help, and why not? I'm not living in a fantasy land, it's life, and so many couples are hurting, but knowing that I can truely bless a couple with a child is a beautiful thing. We are also looking into foster, when my children are a little older we will take in foster children, which is a great big responsibility, my grandmother fostered over 50 children, she has war stories! My younger sister is really my cousin, my parents adopted her when she was almost 3 for reasons that her birth mom (my aunt) could not provide for her. I have many reasons for this, and yes I also have many questions for myself, but that goes with such a big decision. Thanks. ↑ |
| Name: To:Sue | Date: May 12th, 2006 11:30 AM |
| Sue, have you asked yourself the question of giving the child up that you carried for 9 months? I am a mother and I am an adoptive mother both. I don't know if I could give up a child I had carried. I know some people can but I'm probably not one of them. Money wouldn't enter into it with me either. But there is a bond with a mother and child. Could you turn your back on a child you carried? ↑ |
| Name: Sue | Date: May 12th, 2006 1:10 PM |
| It's not a matter of turning my back on a child. There are many negatives to this topic, and yes I bonded with my child the second I found out I was pregnant so I know what a wonderful feeling that is, imagine being without that feeling, forever. With every decision cones the positive, the negative. Sometimes you have to put yourself in someone elses shoes to understand and move past your opinions. At my home at 8:00 p.m. we read a few books, brush teeth, and tuck in our children. At 8:45-9:00 I check on them and ALWAYS have a smile on my face when I walk out of the room. If I wasn't able to have children, I wonder if I would be told negative things. The blessings that I have, I am willing to help bless another couple, under certain sur. ↑ |
| Name: Sue | Date: May 12th, 2006 3:43 PM |
"Just wanted to correct my spelling!"
With every decision comes the positive, the negative. ↑ |
| Name: To:Sue | Date: May 12th, 2006 5:06 PM |
| I do understand what you are saying and I do have the upmost respect for any parent who gives up a child to another parent whether thru adoption or as a surrogate parent. I was wondering about your emotional well-being. As you said you do bond with the child from the moment you know you are a pregnant. I wouldn't want you to have regrets after you are pregnant. If you think you can handle it emotionally then I do encourage you to try it. And if you do I want updates to see how you fare and how the adoptive family fares as well. Good luck. ↑ |
| Name: Sue | Date: May 12th, 2006 7:33 PM |
| I am not pregnant, I am seeking a couple to have a child for them. I am able to get pregnant, hold a pregnancy, and give birth, some women are not. It took me years to get to this point, I have always wanted to do this, and I'm ready. I know it will be a tough road, and I definately would have a bond with the child, but I will also know that I helped create a family. I am still young, but my husband and I are settled with 2 children, a great home, 2 cars, 2 dogs, etc... we couldn't ask for more! I understand what some people are saying: "How can you carry a child for 9 months and just give it away?" Well, this child isn't handled like a library book, or an old shoe! It is a beautiful life, if you were in someone else's shoes that couldn't have children, you would understand and be deeply touched. ↑ |
| Name: Sue | Date: May 13th, 2006 12:32 AM |
| if a person could not have there own child would you be willing to become preg with your own? and give it to them. ↑ |
| Name: To:Sue | Date: May 13th, 2006 12:58 AM |
| I do understand what you are wanting to do. But be aware of te emotional mess you will be in after. I'm not trying to talk you out of it. It is a wonderful gift to a family. I do know of a lady who has done this twice. And she has no regrets at all. ↑ |
| Name: sue | Date: May 13th, 2006 1:34 AM |
| would you be willing to get preg and have a child and let us adopt it and it be your own. ? ↑ |
| Name: Sue | Date: May 13th, 2006 3:03 AM |
| I am willing to help a couple that cannot have children, or concieve at all. I have found a wonderful couple that I am very hopeful for, so I will see how this goes for the next few weeks\months. I have been wanting to do this for years, but I can't say if I could do this twice, I am very honest but thats all the info I have for now. ↑ |
| Name: Sue | Date: May 13th, 2006 3:06 AM |
| I have had 10 years of thinking this through, I have a deep sadness in my heart for the couples that cannot have children. I will keep you posted about the couple I found, but I will not give their names or info about them. I am very excited right now, so I need to take one step at a time. ↑ |
| Name: Thanks | Date: May 13th, 2006 3:41 AM |
| I Just Posted I am looking for a Surrogate or to ADOPT but I have read you have found one, Thanks ↑ |
| Name: To:Sue | Date: May 13th, 2006 3:40 PM |
| No I don't want the information of names. I was talking about the joy they are going to feel. If you have thought about this for ten years then you should of thought all the problems thru. But do keep me posted on your progress. ↑ |
| Name: Sue | Date: May 13th, 2006 6:03 PM |
| Thanks to everyone for your thoughts, opinions, etc. I will definately keep you posted. My journey of this will be be safe, secure, and have a great outcome, I am so thankfulllllllllllll! ↑ |
| Name: To Sue | Date: May 14th, 2006 3:53 AM |
We can not have children and would be interested in talking to you please email us at [email protected]
Hope to hear from you soon,
John and Vicki ↑ |
| Name: Sue | Date: May 14th, 2006 6:38 PM |
| I am speaking to a wonderful couple, hopefully everything will turn out great, so far I have a great connection with them, and I will keep you posted. I wish I could help the world, but life is to be taken one step at a time. Thanks!!! ↑ |
| Name: S.M.B. | Date: Jun 21st, 2006 11:54 PM |
| I have been to the doctors a couple times to give me the healthy ok, and everything is good. My husband and I are ready to start our journey, so here we are, ready to make a great couple parents!!!!! I was blessed with the wonderful mother instinct, and it hit me very hard recently and I just knew "I found my couple". I am glad that we all have to sign in on this chat site, but I didn't realize how hurtful and ignorant a few people were on here, but thankfully, I did find my couple, and I am so excited, I am so much looking forward to the moment when I will say to them "I'm pregnant" ...so hopefully very very soon this will happen. Some people just don't understand how I could just "give up a child" but I couldn't imagine living the rest of my life childless, my heart takes over and I know that this couple will be excellent parents, grateful to god, and I know that in their hearts, theres a special place for me, knowing that I gave them the best gift that could be given. I know that I am one out of a million, but I am one of gods workers, and I believe that the great couples that suffer need someone like me to help them, and give them the gift they truely deserve. Bless you all on whatever journey you chose, Sue. ↑ |
| Name: S.M.B. | Date: Jun 22nd, 2006 12:09 AM |
| ...And to answer the question of "How could I put myself through this?" Well, heres my answer: I will definately feel a heartache after the couple takes their baby home, BUT it will not add up to their heartache of NOT being able to have a child to love, raise, etc. My heart is too good, and my body thank God is healthy enough to give this blessing, please understand, put your mind and heart in other peoples shoes before judging. Thanks, Sue. ↑ |
| Name: Viktoria | Date: Jul 5th, 2006 10:04 AM |
Unfortunately not all married couples, which wish to have a child, know how to solve the problem correctly! Some people have a skeptical attitude to the Surrogate Motherhood Program but the majority of people understand that it is the last chance that is given to them in this life and agree to take part in the extracorporeal fertilization program for achievement of desired results and have a long-awaited child.
In our opinion, the issues of Surrogate Motherhood unfortunately are legally settled unsatisfactorily all over the world.
Only in Ukraine and United States of America (State of California) the Law protects the rights of genetic parents. Under legislation of all other countries, the Surrogate mother is considered to be the real mother of the child.
Please find below the brief list of services offered by us under the Surrogate Motherhood program.
Which are the requirements for Surrogate Mother?
She must be a woman of the age of 18 to 35 years, preferably having her own child (or several children). If the Surrogate Mother is married, her husband shall give a notarially certified written consent for participation in the extracorporeal fertilization program. One additional and very important requirement for potential Surrogate mother is her moral and psychological stability, absence of criminal past and medical parameters.
go to www.mother-surrogate.com/en/
we can help ↑ |
| Name: Viktoria | Date: Jul 5th, 2006 10:05 AM |
go to www.mother-surrogate.com/en/
we can help ↑ |
| Name: S.M.B. | Date: Jul 11th, 2006 11:19 AM |
| Thanks, but I already have my couple. I will definately check out that site though, thank you! :-) ↑ |
| Name: MamaLisa | Date: Jul 15th, 2006 12:11 AM |
| Wow, I looked at your list of replies and couldn't help but to respond. I am an experienced gestational surrogate about to embark on my second journey. I am in communications w/ new ips. I delivered twins via surrogacy in Nov. of '05. This will be an experience of a lifetime for you. How is everything going thus far? I have 3 kids of my own and my husband and I have also been foster parents in the past. Don't let any "strange" comments get to you- only you know where you heart calls you. Kudos to you, fellow surrogate! When I was asked how I could do such a thing I responded, "Imagine going to sleep every night and seeing your child in your dreams, then waking up and realizing they aren't there!" You are an angel indeed! ↑ |
| Name: S.M.B. | Date: Jul 15th, 2006 1:22 AM |
| Hi MamaLisa, thank you so much! I'm not pregnant yet, kinda wondering why!? But patience I must have. I am excited, I can't wait to tell my couple when I find out that I'm pregnant. I know they have been waiting for so long, I hope this happens very soon! I wanted to do this since I was 16\17 years old. I have been around a few people that had so many fertility issues, and it just tore an emotional scar through my heart. Thanks and take care. ↑ |
| Name: babygirl2006 | Date: Jul 15th, 2006 1:48 AM |
| to sue you have to get use to people like misty and the one that goes by the name hi there are alot of people that are rude and dont know what they are talking about just ignore then i think you are doing somting great. ↑ |
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