| Name: Mr. XXX | Date: Feb 10th, 2008 7:39 PM |
| Gar I am waiting for that discussion and interaction - so see you in the bedroom later. ↑ |
| Name: GRACE | Date: Feb 16th, 2008 9:34 PM |
| MY HUSBAND DONT LOVE ME OR MY BE I DONT LOVE HIM ANYMORE ↑ |
| Name: GRACE | Date: Feb 16th, 2008 9:37 PM |
| HELLO THERE IS SOMEONE THERE ↑ |
| Sorry Grace, it is not your husband that don't love you perhaps you don't love him or just you like to whore around with me. If I were your husband, I, too, would not have loved you or even want you anymore. Come pass by the Jewelry store you gold-digger. ↑ |
| Name: STARR ,ITS REALLY MY NAME | Date: Feb 22nd, 2008 4:15 PM |
| SOMTIMES I FEEL LIKE IM DOING SOMETHING,I HATE ASKING MY HUSBAND THE SAME,THING; DO WONNA MAKE LOVE OR GO AWAY FOR THE WEEKENG, I HAVE A SON AND 3 STEP-KIDS,I JUST TUNED 31 AND HES GOING ON 40, BEEN TOGHTHER FOR ALMOST 5 YRS BUT I CAN SEE ALOT OF CHANGES WITH HIM, TO BE TRUTHFUL I WISH GO BACK IN TIME ,WHEN HE MADE FEEL SEXY,JUST OPEN UP AND TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL,WHAT DO HAVE LOSE YOUR PRIDE, MY SON AND PRIDE IS ALL HAVE LEFT AND NOONES TAKING THAT AWAY EVER AGAIN, WRITE BACK,LIKE TO BE FRIENDS ↑ |
| Name: STARR | Date: Feb 22nd, 2008 4:26 PM |
| YOUR ONLY HURTING YOURSELF, AND IF YOU HAVE KIDS CHANCES ARE YOUR KIDS CAN ACT JUST LIKE HIM, I KNOW I HAVE 10 OLD WHO IN EVERY WAY ACTS JUST LIKE IS DAD,WHEN I LOOK AT MY SON I SEE HIM ALL OVER BUT I LOVE MY SON HES MY PRIDE AND JOY,I FELT LIKE YOU NOT WORTH IT LIVING IN LOVELESS MARRIGE, I GAVE INTO HIS NEEDSAND WANTS BEFOR LONG I FORGET WHO WAS, BUT 5 YRS LATER I MATE SOMEONE WHO IS GOOD TO ME,YOU CAN TO JUST BELIVE IN YOUR SELF,HOPE WE CAN BE FRIENDS ↑ |
| Name: Julian | Date: Feb 22nd, 2008 4:42 PM |
| Starr who are you asking to be your friend? If you wish to be my friend I can send you my contact information but be aware that I am a player. Also, which mate you met and is treating you good - come on you have not met me yet. ↑ |
| Name: Mary | Date: Feb 22nd, 2008 4:45 PM |
| Julian i would like to play send me your contact. ↑ |
| Name: AMANDA | Date: Feb 23rd, 2008 1:30 AM |
| I HAVE THE SAME FEELING BUT HES THE ONE THAT WANTS A BREAK WEVE ONLY BEEN MARRIED TWO ANDA HALF YEARS AND I TOLD HIM I WANT IT ALL OR NOTHING AT ALL AND HE DOESNT TAKE ME SERIOUS HE LIVES LIKE HES SINGLE ALREADY MAYBE ITS BECAUSE I QUIT MY JOB AND HE WANTS ME TO WORK 120 EVERY TWO WEEKS ↑ |
| Name: Julian | Date: Feb 23rd, 2008 1:18 PM |
| Amanda please move in with me....but remember I do not have one woman. ↑ |
| Name: michelle | Date: Mar 1st, 2008 7:57 AM |
| my husband treats me like crap all the time every day I just hate him. I have a 3 year old and a 4 year old and they see no love between us. I want out soooo... bad it hurts. I hate him because he is sooo mean to me. ↑ |
| Name: alexendra | Date: Mar 3rd, 2008 8:57 AM |
| allowed him if you heart is not more with him or his is not also with you. contact me via email [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: Katie | Date: Mar 6th, 2008 1:58 PM |
| I am a 21 year old girl, been in a relationship for 2 years, so some might say I dont understand what anyone of you are going through. However, I have watched my parents go through a bitter divorce and understand how painful it is when you love someone but are not getting enough in return. I have been very happy with my boyfriend, happier than I ever thought possible, but recently he seems to have lost interest in me. At first I was really heartbroken and cried alot and tried harder to win his attention back, but I have now come to the conclusion that it is me that has got to change. I have started going to the gym, and looking after myself more, finding my own hobbies and going out with my friends more. I think it is really important to have your own life, seperate from your partner. You need to feel that you can be happy by yourself and that you are happy in yourself, that way you dont put as much pressure on your partner to fulfil all your emotional needs. All i wanted to say was, men are not everything, there is life out there other than your partners needs and wants. Sort your own life out first and worry about him second. x x ↑ |
| Name: teresa | Date: Mar 20th, 2008 8:09 PM |
Hi there,
I am going through the exact same situation as you are. My husband rarely kisses me and if he does it is only on my cheek or a quit peck on the lips. We maybe have sex once or twice a month and if it is that much then it usually really quick and fast to suit his need rather than mine. I feel very alone and on my own with my kids and in this marriage. I feel like a single parent as I too am a stay at home mom whom stayed home to look after the kids while he started up his own company and works as a policeman. I really have noticed that his displays of affection are more towards our daughter, by giving her a kiss 2-3 times per day, whenever he leaves she is who he kisses and I am not. He has substituted his affection for me towards his daughter. So I know deep in my heart this marriage has ended. When he said he wanted to go to Edmonton for the weekend I said that will be fun just the 2 of us, but then he said he didnt want to go. He wanted it to be a family vacation with the kids. So he is avoiding me and an intimacy. I have a problem just like you where I have tried to ignore it and hope it goes away, or be nice and hope he is nicer to me, or do my own thing and hope he falls back in love with me. I have done the steps but I am in this marriage by myself. I am very lonely and I would like to seperate but he does not want too, however he has very little energy to get things on the right track. He is not intereted in councilling or working on the marriage. Instead he doesn't to get into right now, so I keep my distance and hope for the best. I would like to get on with my life though instead of just coping. ↑ |
| Name: Juanita | Date: Mar 23rd, 2008 2:45 AM |
| I feel the same way. We have actually only been married for 5 yrs. and I feel like he is falling out of love with me. This is really hard to deal with because we were always known as the "in-love" couple. Now, we are always arguing and he has cursed at me, talked badly about my mother, and told me that I can leave whenever. But after we argue, he always tries to make up and I just can't get over how much he has changed since we got married. I have asked for a separation but he will not consider it. I also would rather be alone than have someone yelling at me everyday. I thank God for the hours I have to myself. ↑ |
| Name: sarah | Date: Mar 30th, 2008 9:11 PM |
| Name: tresonme | Date: Mar 31st, 2008 6:29 AM |
| ALITTLE DIFFRENT,BUT I CAN STILL RELATE , I OFTEN BLAME US WOMEN FOR ALLOWING A MAN ARE ANYBODY FOR THAT FACT TO HAVE THAT MUCH POWER AND CONTROL OVER US ITS HORRIBLE TO THINK THAT US WOMEN GIVE UP SO MUCH AMAN AND TOTALLY FORGET ABOUT OURSELFS,I THINK THE FIRST THING WE SHOULD DO IS TAKE ARE POWER BACK AND BE IN CONTROL OF US AND ONLY ALLOW WHATS COMFORTABLE FOR US ARE ELSE WERE LOST AS MOTHERS WIFES FRIENDS SISTERS AND SO ON ↑ |
| Name: Lucy | Date: Mar 31st, 2008 11:23 PM |
| Hi Jai. I don't know if I at the right place to say this too. But I've only been married for thee years and thats how i've been feeling for two years now. ↑ |
| Name: chell | Date: Apr 20th, 2008 10:36 PM |
i came on here cos my hubby has spit his dummy out again, and gone to bed with the monk on. but after reading all these things, i feel so much better i have been where most of you have. my husband had an affair four years ago with my next door neighbour which went on right under my nose for 7 months. yeah how dumb am i. but anyway we are still together mostly on my part cos we have 2 young children. i loved my husband so much, it was like a fairytale romance, it was a second marriage for both of us. although we both knew each other when we were married to our first partners, it was always just admiring from afar. then 14 years ago we met up and we were both single, well 1 thing led to another and we got to gether, i worshipped the ground he walked on, felt like i would lay down and die if he asked me to, but he always seemed to hold back, never letting his feelings show and even though i showered him with love and affection i never got much in return.
but after his affair everything changed, it's like the tables have turned his the 1 showing all the love and affection, always telling me how much he loves me, always telling me how lucky he his to have somebody so understanding, and most of the time it just makes me want to gag. i don't show him any love or affection now i'm the 1 holding back, when he tells me he loves me i usually just say "yeah right". i can't bring myself to say it back, and i don't know if that's cos i just can't say it or if it's cos i don't love him anymore. i think i've forgiven him for the affair but 4 years on i still can't forget it ↑ |
| Name: margie | Date: Apr 21st, 2008 1:32 AM |
| My husband doesn't work. I was 34 when we met and a virgin. The first 2 year of our marriage he would kiss me and other marital stuff.Now it's like nothing, really like living with my brother. No marital relations for over 3 months. I think he's interested is someone younger. We are 13 years apart. I'm 40 now. I really don't know what to say or think. ↑ |
| Name: Joanne | Date: Apr 24th, 2008 12:11 AM |
| I had exactly this problem with my husband, he would often say off the cuff hurtful things like " I dont love you as much as I loved my first girlfriend" etc, I never thought he really loved me and I forgave him when I discovered he had an affair and kept it secret from everyone for our kids sake. Then this year I had enough and asked him to leave. He went mad, crying and telling everyone I left him for someone else and everyone turned against me, family friends, everyone, the general feeling was, that as I had not complained and moaned about him over the last 13 years I must be lying about him now. On Christmas eve i found evidence on his pc that he'd been cheating on me through our whole marriage and brought prositutes back to our home when i was pregnant and visiting my parents. Now everyone says "you didn't know about them when you asked him to go so you can't complain now". He feels no remorse and is trying to make the kids and I penniless. Be prepared. If you aren't able to cope well on your own dont ask him to go. Dont expect him to suddenly realise your worth and change, my husband liked to tell everyone how much he loved me, but his behaviour towards me has been viscious and cruel since he left and he as dated non stop since leaving the house! If he makes you feel worthless now that feeling will probably double once he has no incentive to be nice. I'm waiting to find out if it was all worth it. But some days, like today, I think maybe I'd be better off dead. ↑ |
| Name: Lonely girl | Date: Apr 25th, 2008 2:13 PM |
| Well i not sure how we end up in a similar boat..... My husband of almost 8 years said he loves me but i feel like he rather be with his dog then me....First for the past 7 years the doctor told me i couldnt have kids and that was the thing i wanted the most, then after 7 years of trying we got a break he got some money from an accident and i decide to take some of the money to become a mom... We tried and after 2 months into the medication it did work, we got pregnant.... It wasnt all sugar though... All of my pregnancy wasnt easy at all, I was in bed rest and i was sicker then a dog all the time and to top it off we had to find a new home to rent..... Well we moved and spend every single penny with had to moved into a bigger house and more expensive, I talked to him and asking him if it was going to be a problem he said not to worry that he was happy and was going to do what ever it takes to make it worked....After we had the baby he decide to changed of work to make more money...He goes and get a sweet job in the oilfields....Then after he leaves i started to meet people and have girlfriends over and that makes him jealous asking me why does this going on and fighting me over the phone calls me every name on the book and make me feel like i should be alone with a new baby, anyway after more thoughs he decide to quit that job too BECAUSE HE SAID HE HATES TO BE AWAY FROM HIS FAMILY . after a month of no work he finds a new job closer to home...I worry about the bills and all that other stuff but he again tells me everything going to be ok....a few weeks later i get a call from our landlord telling me that maybe this year its going to sell the house.....Well another worry i get now i have to save money to move to another house but how can i do that....If my husband pay cheque only pays enought to keep us going through the month.....Anyway i got to talk to our landlord and he told me not to worry that maybe he wont sell....then after telling my husband that he is happy again but then he wants a stupid Dog.....after fighting about that too I give up i tell him he can had one..... A few days later he finds what he was looking I unsure about the whole thing i let him know that i am super tired cause i dont sleep at night cause the baby wakes up every hour...He said Not to worry But i know that i am going to be stuck with the dog all day and the baby and the house work and making all the meals .... so i dont have time for me anymore...well i get a bit of money from the gov. and then he said to used it to buy a dog but the dog its more then what i got so to make him happy I decide to sell all our jewellerry to help to pay for this dog..... well i felt like i just lost the something i though i could used this money to pay a bill or something but he seem to not care all he wants its a dog....later on i asked to come with me to get the baby shots But now he said he cant because the dog cant be at home alone and lose so i went on the net and find a create...But its not big enough he gets all mad and start to tell me every name under the book again.... and to top it off he tells me that he loves me but i feel that he doesnt everynight he comes home, walk into the house kiss the dog, comes to the living room kiss the baby and then he comes in the computer???? i feel like i just anothe object that soon its going to be in the corner collecting dust, I have been thinking about leaving him but i dont even know where to go with a new born baby, and i feel so ugly fat and everything horrible about my self what should i do??? because talking to him seem like its not going anywhere. ↑ |
| Name: KATHY | Date: Apr 28th, 2008 6:48 PM |
| Maybe you should find a fulfilling job and not stay at home. Maybe then you'll know if your husband appreciates/loves you in your absense. Make him sit down and have a private discussion about how you feel and ask how he feels. Plan date night just for the two of you. ↑ |
| Name: ann | Date: May 14th, 2008 4:58 AM |
| you kow exactly how i feel. My dilema i feel the family would despise me if i leave him. not the children they are young but parents and relatives. Right now he is hanging out with his friends wtching movies rather than be at home with his family. This seems to be happening a lot more. conversations with him are useless because we just end up in fights. ↑ |
| Name: isabella | Date: May 15th, 2008 2:42 PM |
| IT SOUNDS LIKE MY STORY. BEEN MARRIED 17 YEARS, 2 KIDS, FULL TIME JOB AND A BIG HOUSE TO KEEP UP WITH IT. WE HAVE ALOT ON OUR PLATE. I FEEL THAT WE ARE SO MUCH IN LOVE BUT YET CONSTANTLY FIGHTING FOR ATTENTION FROM HIM. HIS STORY IS WE ARE MARRIED, I KNOW WHAT I HAVE I DON'T CONSTANTLY HAVE TO REASURE THIS. I'M HURTING.... IF HE LOVES ME THE WAY HE DOES WHY IS IT HARD TO SHOW. I FEEL LIKE WE ARE SO ANGRY AT EACH OTHER THAT WHAT EVER COMES OUT OF OUR MOUTHS IS ALWAYS NEGATIVE... WE'RE BOTH STRONG MINDED AND NEITHER OF THE TWO IS GIVING IN. ↑ |
| Name: Ann | Date: May 17th, 2008 7:41 AM |
| We been together for 7years,.We were so close & now we argue over nothing. I try to talk to him but,we always end up fighting with each. Our romance is over, we can't even make love without fighting. I love him so much but I can't stand it when we fight. All I want is for us to be close. ↑ |
| Name: Penny | Date: May 24th, 2008 7:08 PM |
| I am in a similar situation. My husband and I have only been married for 10 months. He is the provider. He takes care of finances. I work a part time job so I can some pocket money and pay for my car. I do all the housework. Our problem is similar to yours in that he doesn't meet my emotional needs. Nor does he care to understand the pain it causes me. He is extremely defensive and stubborn and rarely ever wants to be intimate with me. We have been going for counselling but I am starting to think it's a waste of time because whatever is discussed in the sessions does not get carried into our normal lives. If I wanted to leave him, I would have to move back home with my parents and that is definitely not something I want to do because I am 30 years old and should not have to depend on them. I would love to be able to support myself financially but my credit is terrible and I don't make much money. Also, my parents live an hour away and that is too far for me to get to work nor can I afford the gas money. It seems everytime I try to talk to my husband about my feelings, I too, like yourself, am left feeling even worse. So know that you are definitely not alone. I know my husband loves me but he doesn't love me the way I need him to. I hope that you can work things out for you and your family. We don't have any children but recently lost a baby when I was 5 months pregnant. I am seeking counselling for my own personal insecurities in hopes of helping myself feel better as a person and maybe that will help my marriage too. But I do know that we can change other people, we can only change ourselves. So if changing ourselves helps things than that is great. Staying married for the sake of children sounds difficult but believe me, when I was 14 yrs old, just going into highschool, my parents split. It was devasting and had major impacts on my personal growth. I lost interest in school when I used to be a straight A student. I got in with the wrong crowd. And never finished highschool. So now I am struggling in life because I never learned how to become independant and did not have the confidence to stick with anything. My parents got back together 7 yrs later and they are still together this day. Although they still have their marital issues I am happy that they stay together. Anyhow, I am probably rambling on too much. Again, you are not alone and if you would like to talk further please reply soon :) ↑ |
| Name: Denise | Date: May 28th, 2008 4:59 PM |
I pushed my husband away and made him feel bad about who he was, I had a partail hysterectomy then 8 month later a full hysterectomy with trace of ovorian cancer.. Everything went well, trying to be on the right hormonme pill was hell! Finally I'm there..
He had left me for 8 months, we still saw each other, not seeing anyone until he 1 month beffore he came home, he had an affair for 5 months even after he came home. I caught him..
It stopped but there is so much gulit and hurt he doesn't knw if he has that feeling.. The way I look at it he had 2 times not to come back to me and he did both times, know he says he dont knw if he loves me in that way, We had made love until he said that and when I said u wouldnt' make love to me if u didn't love me in that way, now he has pushed me away sexually, and feel he don't know if he has it in him to work through the mess. We have been together for 18 years married for 15. It has been a long and bumpy road but I'm hanging on because I love him and in love with him.. He loves me just trying to figure out if he still has feeling in that way! So if I can hang in u have the strength as a woman ion love! ↑ |
| Name: nicola | Date: May 28th, 2008 10:47 PM |
| oh my god i know where you are coming from.ive been with my husband twelve long years and i do love him.we have three kids and i stay at home to look after them.he is in a band so all his spare time revolves around that.he has no time for me or my feelings iam just here to do my job ....loook after the kids and him.i dont feel he loves me or cares about me in any way shape or form.could i live without him?i dont know.could he live without me?yes.so i agree ith you if i thought i was strong enough to go it alone then i think i most definetely would. ↑ |
| Name: Trina | Date: May 29th, 2008 5:29 AM |
| Yes, I do. My husband actually told me that he wakes up every morning with the attitude that he is going to try to find a way to love me, but I always do something to mess it all up and he has to atart all over again. Funny thing is, I don't ever see him trying to be happy with me. Like your husband he is not abusive and is a great provider. Everyone seems to love him, including me. He fills his extra time with everything but me. we have a really hard time finding things to talk about. the word divorce has not come up, but I think he is waiting for our kids to move out before he drops the bomb. I have been missing passion in my life for several years now and my self esteem has plummeted because of it. I feel your pain. I am not willing to give up--ever. He will have to break up with me and I don't think it will be easy because I have supported him 150% for 15 years of marriage. I don't nag. I take care of our children, our home, bills, yard, health care, buying and selling our houses each time we move+++ He works a lot and his job has kept him out of our home for days at a time. His weekends are primarily spent with his friend. He says he feels he has nothing in common with me. In my opinion, we have a lot in common, he just chooses different company. I feel like he completely takes me for granted. ↑ |
| Name: Ashley | Date: Jun 16th, 2008 4:50 PM |
| Well, I can relate to you, I just got maried this April and I am now 11 weeks pregnant...Go figure. My husband, 28 years old, decided that he wants to start acting like a teenager again. He is constantly with his 20 year old cousin, come home late from work almost every night and does everything possible to not be left alone with me. He invites his family over more than twice a week, they end up staying at my house till it''s way past my bed time, so I end up going to sleep before my husband does almost every night. Do you think h is trying to hint something or is he just a jerk? ↑ |
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