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| Name: emo-gril | Date: Mar 3rd, 2007 5:48 PM |
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| Name: Jadeishere | Date: Mar 11th, 2007 4:41 AM |
| i just signed up in this thing to reply to your issue. im not a mom im a teen and i ran across this as i was looking up some stuff on the internet. i just wanted to say i went though this and i consider myself emo. i used to self mutilate. for about a year my parents did not know i did so. then they found out and freaked. i got a Counselor which i meet with each week. also i had to get a phycologest and go to rehab and all. which i hated at the time but now im very thankful for. i dont do any of that stuff anymore. if your stilling having these problems with your daughter as of this time becasue i see you posted this about 5 months ago. i would consider you getting her a Counselor and getting her on meds. for her behavior. i also got checked into a hospital and they would work on all my problems every day. i hated it sooo sooo much but it was for the best and now im better so it was deff worth it. if you would like to talk about this more i would love to help out you and your daughter so please e-mail me if you want to talk more about this. e-mail me at [email protected]. i hope i helped -Jade ↑ |
| Name: the freedom of fear | Date: Mar 19th, 2007 2:41 AM |
| you people dispise me except for the other emos here *leave your kids alone on how they feel and act about stuff *we do not cut on porpose it is a habit and addiction to some of us *being emo is not a cry for help! and you mothers need to get a life and some fricken better user names .......]xP motherofos ↑ |
| Name: Toenail | Date: Mar 21st, 2007 6:20 PM |
| Listen! your daughter is doing nothing wrong! emos are not somthing! emos are regular people. with alot of feelings! if your daughter is sad and angry, then you should know why! are there problems in your home? do you know anything about her realationship with guys? there are alot of reasons why people turn emo. emo is not something that you can say'' hey the guy i like is emo, im going ti be emo too!'' thats not how it works. your daughter has alot of reasons for what she has become. and let me tell you something ''peolple dont become something for no reason'' do you talk to her? is their always yelling around her? you should listen to ''soasin'' the song called ''voices'' that song will give you some awnsers of what i am talking about. the music is not bad! to tell you the truth, the music helps us. the words, the way it is in the rythnm and cutting your wrist is something that they do when they really feel alone. the music that we listen to is the only thing that understands exacly what we are feeling! let me tell you, im 100%emo! i love it because through everything that happens to me in my life i can show by writing! hate anger, love, depress,! you have to understand us ! the thing that i dont do is cut myself. and my own parents have problems with me ! not because im rebelbut because im always alone listening to my own stuff. my family has been through alot. almost divorce alot of yelling, alot of hitting alot of things that i though i would never go throgh. and this is what ive become. im 17 and i have never done grugs or drink. or ever cut.and im proud the only problems i have come from home. yes it hurts me i use to be a great daughter, loving im kinda still but i tried to change but thier is to mush damage in me this is who i really am. theropy is not going to help ur daughter. the only person that can help her............ is you!!!!!!!!! and if she cuts its because she feels alone and because she feels that she is not loved by anyone and she wants to die! get her out of that bubble, prove to her what she needs to know. love tania [/3 = emoxoxo ↑ |
| Name: Toenail | Date: Mar 21st, 2007 6:32 PM |
| iagree with the freedom of fear! emos are not a cry for help! so everyone f#@$ off ! you guys have no idea what we are going through! and if you have something to say to me feel free! e-mail me at [email protected] or CALL ME!!! 480 274-9930 tania [/3 emo!!! ↑ |
| Name: Pixie_Butterfly | Date: Mar 30th, 2007 8:37 PM |
| Emo is infact a style of music [Emotionally charged rock] which has now developed into a label for anyone who has problems and shows it. Alot of people think that all Emo's self harm. This is true but not ALL do it, and not ALL self harmers are Emo. It's a unique style, similar to goth and punk, but it show's what the said person is feeling on the inside. There are alot of people that call Emo's names, most of them being Chavs [these are the lowest of the low, the wannabe gangsters, they dress in tracksuits, mug people, listen to stupid over-rated music which sounds like a mouse on helium]. Can I just say one last thing? LABELS ARE FOR SOUP CANS! You kid's don't know what pain is, you think the world ends if a guy finishes you. GET REAL! Your grandparents were in the 2nd world war no doubt, they didn't know if they'd live, they had to live there lifes scared, starved, and in fear of losing their family!!! I'm only 15, but for goodness sake you kids dont know your born!!! Stop whining and live your life! Anyone wants to reply? [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: Spoon | Date: Apr 5th, 2007 12:33 AM |
| hey, im here just to shed light from the teenage point of view. im 16 and emo. i have outrageous hair, piercings and soon tattoos, but just because im emo it doesnt give me the right to act as if other people dont have feelings. your daughter mite be experiencing some very bad influences, the music you described sounds to me as if its 'screamo' this music does have alot of abuse and negativity but it wouldnt b the source of the problem. your daughter mite be feeling as if she's being neglected by the family as she must of gone through some rough times she couldnt hadle in school for people not excepting that she's emo. I suggest u and your husband sit her down and tlk to her. but dont say that your worried about her that has the same effect as saying 'now dont get angry' tlk to her about her being emo but dont criticize it. ask sensitive questions about it and try to understand this is her taste. oh and to shed some light on 'emo' its origional name is emo-core mainly designed around the old bands such as rites of spring. and the fasion just comes along with the music. hope this is of some help ↑ |
| Name: Your_Glitter_Fix | Date: Apr 9th, 2007 10:18 PM |
| Hiya, My name is Millie, I am 14, I also have outrageous dress and hair and you could say I follow this 'emo' trend. I came across this page by chance, but felt that i should tell you what I think, as I come across these things every day. Emos are not necessarily cutters; I feel cutting is a way that emo teens try to prove themselves as that sertain stereotype. I don't cut, I don't need to prove myself. i think that it could be a faze that she is going through, everyone 'emo' goes through a faze were they feel they have to prove themselves to themeselves or other people, including myself, but I got over it. the stereotype put on emos, i think is because of the few who do actually cut. Like goths, you imediately think that they wear just black; false, they are some of the most colourful people I know! There is someone I know who cuts for attention and for reactions from her fellow pupils, in which case, there is nothing you can do, apart from telling her how much it is affecting you. At least she told you, I never told anyone because after, I was so ashamed of myself, This is actually the first time i have told anyone! and about her being faisty to people, everyone does! its hormones. I should know, i have MAJOR mood swings. Anyway, I hope that everything turns out good, and I hope that I have put some light on the situation. xox ↑ |
| Name: roseywosey | Date: Apr 11th, 2007 2:48 AM |
| 'emo' wasnt around 3 years ago.. its just a phase and fashion some teens are going through to 'fit in' with the crowd.. just like when spice girls were around everyone was 'teeny bopper' stupid if u ask me.. they go on about how they are all individuals.. YET every emo i see looks the same.. anyways im prob gunna get bitched at.. but go ahead. ↑ |
| Name: mollyy-gore | Date: Apr 11th, 2007 2:03 PM |
| im 14, and i have piercings and tattoos. theropy doesnt help. if she doesnt want to talk to you she wont talk to them. there is no differece. and if im wrong please tell me because somethings are just not ment to be told. the 'emo' fad with fade sooner or later. its just fashion going round again. its now the rebal stage for some kids. emo isnt actually a person. as you have herd. emo is a genre of music. but it has transformed itself into a actual person. if you have black hair. band t-shirts. things like that you are considerd an emo. which i still fight with. i get called emo 24/7 but its something to just look past and not worry about. 'prissy' people yell emo out alot. its nothing to be conserned about. the self harm stuff is abit worrying. but most teenagers dont do it to die. just to get attention. or they just cant do it. aslong as it doesnt get out of hand its nothing really. when my mum saw scars on me, she called it 'disgusting' but that didnt help at all. made it worse. dont yell at your kids for it hey. it makes it worse and they just feel even worse about themselfs. and decide to slice into there flesh once more, but this time deeper. dont let that happen. kay thanks bye :) ↑ |
| Name: atomicsnowflake | Date: Apr 11th, 2007 10:27 PM |
| why do teenagers all want to look the same anyway? I thought that they'd want to appear to be 'individual' and to be discovering ways of expressing themselves, not becoming mindless clones! ↑ |
| Name: Your_Glitter_Fix | Date: Apr 11th, 2007 11:34 PM |
| i wouldnt say they are clones, i admit some of them are. Most teens don't know what they are. I think emos are emos because peeps say they are, not because they label themselves as it. I also get called emo 24/7, i never thought i was emo before. And trust me, I am unique, I make my own clothes, and buy clothes on the internet. xox ↑ |
| Name: lonely_hawthorne_street | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 12:19 AM |
| In response to ur post... Emo people are not bad at all. In fact, I'm an emo kid, only 12. I dont cut, but I have considered it at times. Emo, stands for emotional. People who are like this express their feelings in certain ways, like listening to a certain genre of music, and wearing certain clothes. They aren't different, although they do different things than other people. But this makes them very unique. Everyone has their own style. Expressing feelings like this, whether ur emo or goth doesn't make u a bad person. It kinda means like ur just helping urself relive stress. You could say that in most emos, it keeps you from the blade. Poetry is also good. I can't do much to help, but maybe lay off some questioning, and let her live her life. ↑ |
| Name: mom47 | Date: Apr 22nd, 2007 12:21 AM |
| hellow! I have read what you have wrote and I decidet to answer bucause I had the same problems with my deother. First I would like to say sorry for my english. Problems with my deother started when she was 14 (she is 16 now). She tottaly changed her actitude all on the suden. She was such a nice girl and I was so poude at her. I don't even know when avtually all this started but she start to scream at me, she didn't talk to me, she was in her room all day long just listening to her music which was mostly sad or angry. I have 4 children, she is the 3 chiled and I was shocked becase I han't had that kinde of problems before. She was angry at the whole world, she started to cry widowth any reason. She had some kinde of periods: now she was smiling and in the other minute she was crying, and that was scarry. One day I asked her why is she acting like that and she sad: momy I really don't know. And I started to think if she don't know than who will? And with time it all just got worse. When she go in the highschoole everything become a nightmare. She started to hang up with some girl which was the same as her. They heed the class, she started to smoke, and she was outside every weekend, sometimes didn't even come home for 3 days. We had problems with police to. One year ago I caught her in the beathroom with a resore blede in her hand and short full with blude. I was so scared that she want to kill herself. She started to wear weard clothes all tered up and she wanted to have some strange hair cut. She called this "emo" style. But everything would be ok with me if she wouldn't become soo sad. She wasn't even angry at all. She was acting like everything is her fault she apologised for evertyhing, but the moste scarry was the way she said it. Usualy it was: Sorry momy I really didn't mean to do it, sorry, please forgive me, please, I'm sorry. How could I be angry if she almost cry??? I stared to ask around what could I do and nobady have the answer. So one day I just come to her room and started to tallk with her like we used to talk and she actually talk to me... she didn't give apologises and she didn't scream, she was just talking. So we speak about everythink, school, friends, she even told me where was she in the weekend. She said that she really don't know what is happening with her and she promes me that she will speak to me everytime she will get this weard filling. And it actually work, she called me everytime she need a talk, I said to her that I'm not gonna judge her but she have to tell me what she is doing and that she have to care about herself and I think that she really do. Well I have one problem right now with her that's why I'm actually here. 2 days ago she was locked in beathroom and she didn't come out for like a half an hour and when she did she was hiding her hands and go streight to her badroom. When I come in her room she just scream at me if I could leave her alone. An hour letter she come to me and start to apologises again. I said that I understand her and that everything is all right but it is not true at all. Yesterday she was in her room and I asked her for help and she started to screamig at me again. I have a feeling that I'm losing her again and that freakes me out!! Can enyone tell me what to do? I need a solution which will last longer. Help me, because I don't want to lose my dear dother!... Thank for all advices. ↑ |
| Name: A.Teen.Whos.Been.There | Date: Apr 28th, 2007 10:32 PM |
| i'v been there, im considered an emo kid, i've gone through the cutting at only 10, for people like us its the only way we get our frustraition out, we dress the way we do because we find its how we are, we dont like to be anyone else, but just calling your daughter emo dosent help either, she probly just wants to be herself, but also she may be going through depression, depression isnt just a state of mind, its a REAL sickness, and it DOES need to be treated, but you cant help her unless she wants to be helped, keeping her homeschooled IS a very good idea,but also,she may feel trapped, she might just want to be able to go hang out with her friends and just have fun. The music may somehow seem like its making your daughter worse,but NEVER take it away from her,music to a lot of emo kids is like a life line, it makes us just feel like someone understands, and everyone wants to be understood,right?. its easier to get answer from a teen that has already gone through it, if you ever want to email me, my email is.. [email protected] i always check my email and i will definatly talk to you, or even i would talk to your daughter, it sounds like she just needs someone she can trust. ↑ |
| Name: xxxvampireheartxxx | Date: Apr 29th, 2007 5:35 AM |
| Its seems to me "momof3dolls" that you are doing something wrong not your daughter or she would not be Emo.(theres nothing wrong with emo) Maybe you are spending to much time with your other 2 dolls! ummm lizzi emo isent a cry for help (someone explain that to her she seems stupied)(hate stupied peeps) amanda.slominski emo is not defined through how you speek and dress. I dress goth but im not entirely goth. I have thoughts of suicide because my parents totally ruin my life i hang out with emo's dont eat lunch listen to slipknot and cradle of filth and your telling me that its fortold because im wearing a My chemical Romance(love them!!!) shirt and baggy black pants dont think so. In some cases Pain is expressed through clothing. OUR music is a therapy it lets us know were not alone(or at least makes us feel that way) maybe your daughter is following a trend because she cant fit in or maybe shes into that junk(i am) Here is some advice back off. Did anything ever actually confirm she was emo I would not know because i dident read your long ass thing because your saying the same thing over someone take over this conversation. ↑ |
| Name: xxblackxpinkxemoxx | Date: Apr 29th, 2007 11:20 AM |
| ok at first, xxxvampireheartxxx thanx for the post its great ... secondly, im 15 (might be an important factor if you want to read the post) i thought i might be able to help a bit out and give a bit more ideas about the term Emo. Most people consider me emo because i wear "second hand" clothes or at least clothes that arent so fashion, i listen to emo/goth/metal/screamo music and actually look emo so ... go on then, i know im emo and i dont care weather others bug me because of that ... i dont cut i dont smoke i dont take drugs i dont follow what other people say (e.g. if they say all emos cut, i dont take notice of it) I think its great that u parents are worried about ur kids but maybe you should try not to cling on them too much. My mother for example is clinging too much and trying to control my life and i feel this is the main point why me and my parents are "vegetating" into different directions and i start to not get on with them. Dont totally ignore us and let us do what we want but also try to NOT control our life too much and make our decisions. momof3dolls its great that you are trying to be there for your daughter and actually doing homeschooling with her. Yes, emo originally is the music (emotionally filled rock/hardcore music from the 80s). are EMOs cutters as well..is that part of the fashion statement / lifestyle? no emos are not cutters, and sadly this is a widely spread statement or way of thinking. Emos are not always depressed and natural cutters but as this "idea" of emos cutting is spreading out, new people who are wanting to be emo are starting to cut themselves. Cutters are people (of any kind .. goth/girlie/normal...) who have problems with theire looks or theire way of life. No, cutting is not an action to gain attention. I dont see the way grown ups are thinking but i have heard the following quote from older people and id like you to know it: "Its just a phase, it will be over when they get older..." Many grown ups are of the opinion that this is just something to do with puberty/getting older. We are changing and our hormones are getting mental. We get sad without reasons, get hyper or just mad although nothin is changing. Many older people think this phase is only during the age 12 - 18 (teenage years) but of course i dont think its just a "phase that will pass". I think if your kids start self-harming then its considerable to search up a psychiatric doktor and get some info+support and MAYBE make an appointment for your child. I think you shouldnt take the emo thing too tight. a HUGE amount of people think emos take drugs because of the fact that they ARE emo but think about it, there are much more "normal" people who take drugs or are convicted in smokind or other actions than there are emos who actually do these things. Parents who have problems with your emo kids, try to show you understand them and ask them now and again if they want something (DONT EVER ASK IF THEIRE SAD OR DEPRESSED .. my mum drives me nuts with it). I believe your bond will strengthen if you listen to what they have to say without going mad and try to understand them. Anyways, according to grown ups, this phase thing will be over after some years (not in my opinion anyways). P.S. Its not the music that makes us feel sad or something, it just shows us that there are other people in the world who understand us and who have problems like we do. hope i helped a bit out P.S.S. If you have any questions or feel you would like to ask for advice/tips/just talk, dont hesitate to e-mail me. [email protected] bay bay xxx [3 ↑ |
| Name: mother2five | Date: Apr 30th, 2007 5:40 PM |
| what is EMO? ↑ |
| Name: Nicolaaa | Date: Apr 30th, 2007 6:58 PM |
| Emo is a uk term...not sure if its used eslewhere... Most emos are harmless (lol sound like im doing a nature show) it stands for EMOtional teen...and basically I think its tame punk goth....if you google emo, im sure youll find plenty of pictures... I listen to emo music *SHOCK HORROR**** lol Panic! at the disco, is apparently an emo band...but i think theyr ace. lol ↑ |
| Name: meesha | Date: May 4th, 2007 11:47 PM |
| geez...promblems?...it aint a problem, its just who she is..and a theropy? whats up with that?..i would be angery too if my mother told me to go have theropy. thats down right sad. just leave her alone. i feel sorry for her....you just dont get it do you ↑ |
| Name: Lizzi | Date: May 5th, 2007 3:04 PM |
| xxxvampireheartxxx, you calling me that just shows your immaturity level. And by the way,it looks like you need to take a GRADESCHOOL course in SPELLING! Hmm......oh that's right! you were too busy being rebellious and blamming your parents for ruining your life! What a BRAT you are! ↑ |
| Name: imarhcp | Date: May 5th, 2007 7:04 PM |
| ok. at first, the term 'emo' was just a type of music. it has been blown waaaay out of proportion, imho. i am a teenager, under 16, and my mum seems to think that i am an emo. im not. definitely not. and she seems to think that i want to run away. i have thought about it before, but hasnt everyone? and so many people have the wrong image of what emo is. panic! at the disco, my chemical romance and fall out boy are not emo. coheed and cambria, refuse: they are. the ones who cut may dress like 'emos', and listen to 'emo' music, but they are probably cutting because they are depressed, not because they want people to think they are 'emo'. recently, i found out that one of my best friends has been cutting for about a year, before the 'emo' trend became widespread. yes, she wears black jeans. yes, she wears black eyeliner. but shes not cutting just for the image. if anyone does, then they should stop. its not worth hurting yourself just to make you look good. its attention seeking, its pathetic, and you dont look good. ↑ |
| Name: emoconker | Date: May 10th, 2007 1:25 AM |
| I AM EMO! and i am proud to be emo.....and i cut myslef....and i listen to emo music......and when my parents tried to change me.....i just rebbeled.....and then i ate a bowl of frosted flakes.....the end ↑ |
| Name: emoprinxex | Date: May 17th, 2007 9:41 PM |
| hi to all, i'm just 15 n i'm emo ; i start when i was 12 i found in the emo society lot of love n peace but u know sometimes the ppl say it dangerous but it's not true, we r all good ppl romantic, melancolic, a full of sadness n pain just couse all the old ppl is deroying our world, is bad with us, ours parents hate us just cuse we r not wearing a toxido with a tie n learnin laws! we r in our own world, writting poems, singings ours songs may be ur daughter momof3dolls, do that yeah? may be she haerd alessana or from first to last or may be my chamical romance or panic! at the disco, they sing real things!!! well the poin it 4 all the mothers here WE ARE JUST ALL WE WANT TO BE, WE WON'T BE LAWERS OR THAT THINGS, MAYBE POETS, ARTS, SINGERS OR ACTORS N WE 'LL LIVE IN OUR OWN WORLD FULL OF LOVE N PEACE BUT IT'S NOT REAL (BUT I KNOW IT WILL) COUSE ALL THAT F*CKING PPL IS DESTROYING IT!!! so shut up and leave all kids, sons, daughters to be an Emo just couse we r romantic, melancolic, lonely, sad, angry as u think just becouse of u! i will be allways an emogirl n stop seing "i don't want to lose my doughter/son" all of u couse is all becouse of u n lot of ppl hates me 4 be one but well I'M EMO SO WHAT????? n don't try to fix it couse we r nor broken n my doctor end my teraphy saying:" well u r right if better if u still in that way" and shut up with that thing they need attention, i have all day attention but i'm not happy, i have all i want but i'm not happy n u know? U R NOT HAPPY TOOO!!!! SO SHUT UP N LEAVE US BE LIKE WE WANT DON 'T SEPARES US OF OURS FRIENDS THEY R LIKE US! N I KNOW U SMOKE, U HAVE PROBLEMS, U CRY IN THE DARK, BUT U R JUST SCREAMING AND SAYING "STOPI WEARING EYELINE" AS MOTHER BUT WEEL THAT ALL i still in my own n u still in your life n leave ur kids alone it's better in that way EMO IS A STATE OF MIND IS NOT FASHION i don't smoke, í dont drink i don't take drugs but i hate my self n my mother don't call me EMO, but i'm one n u parents make us !, i born emo n i 'll die emo!!!!! CHEER UP EMO KIDS!!!!!! [email protected] p.d. i'm sorry i can't be perferct! (as simple plan say) ↑ |
| Name: 53217 | Date: May 24th, 2007 2:43 PM |
| people seem to not understand things about being emo or seeing emo kids on the street see changing our outward appearences doesnt always change the person inside so moms, if your sons gonna get bangs whats that going to do to him? other than change his outward appearence the whole world wants everyone to be the status quo there are people out there that dont want to be they want to be different my advice: stop trying to deal with it :) just let her go if shes smart enough to be thinking on her own im sure youve done a great job of teaching her right from wrong your not always going to be there for her shes goign to have to learn how to handle her own how old is she? ↑ |
| Name: DefendUs | Date: May 26th, 2007 9:18 PM |
| Why do you patronize us about it? ↑ |
| Name: ashtonHxCemolovesheather | Date: May 27th, 2007 3:54 AM |
| ].[ wow...you people are abit on the crazy side.. most of you 'parents' don't give most kids the credit they deserve. so..first off.. there are 3 types of emo.. 1.) music 2.) state of mind 3.) fasion by state of mind, i mean, very emotional, i, for example, am emo, for all 3 reasons, i am pretty emotional, but i bottle it up inside, and i cut to relive the pain inside, because it feels good, not because i 'think its cool' its just my way of coping. BUT you don't have to be a massicus to be emo..if you look emo, your emo..period.. second, 'marija' you are pretty stupid, from that last comment you made...about 'kids being posers and not even knowing where goth came from' you really think kids are that stupid? your stupid if you think that.. MOST kids actually have the thinking capacity on and above most adults, you might not believe it, but its true...remember i said MOST..because some of those stoners are pretty..messed up... now..to your question 'Momof3dolls' The music you listen DOESN'T force you to do anything, it doesn't put negitivity in your head, its just music, if it 'does put something in your head' that means it was already there..the song just helped it along... why do you have a problem with your daughter dropping out of school? i know, you want whats best for her, but its her choice, her life,yes. you wrote that to help your daughter, but have you ever stopped and thought.that maybe she has an idea, maybe she had problems in school? maybe she has issues in your house, that everyone keeps from you? i know, i keep stuff from my mom now, because i feel like if i say anything, it will hurt her feelings, i hate making people feel bad, especially people i care for, and love... this might not have helped or changed your minds, but..it was worth a shot. by the way, i live in the USA,Texas,Spring- I am 15 years old, and i am emo. My name is ashton, and i am not just emo, i am also goth and proud of it... If i offended anyone, i am terribly sorry... ↑ |
| Name: DefendUs | Date: May 27th, 2007 2:13 PM |
| Thank you. ↑ |
| Name: DefendUs | Date: May 27th, 2007 2:18 PM |
| None of the parents here follow there own advice. Look at the others point of veiw. All parents do is hit and yell. See "please Help", to see our point of veiws, and please comment, as long as it is not vulgar. ↑ |
| Name: Erotophobic | Date: May 30th, 2007 8:28 AM |
| oh wow you parents are clueless! My name is Jared, im 17, bisexual, im "emo" I LOVE music it is my life. Why dont you people just let ur kids be what they want to be? And as for cutting, its just a cry for help. If they cut there must be something wrong, you need to talk to them and not judge them by they way the dress or do their hair or what kind of music they listen to. Its our way of life and you are just going to have to deal with it. P.S. - tell ur emo kids to add me on myspace www.myspace.com/2 manyscars2count haha goo d luck trying to change ur kids LMAO ↑ |
| Name: Layne | Date: May 31st, 2007 3:02 AM |
| why do kids think parents arent individuals also...Its you and its us...sorry but adults are not all the same...grow up! ↑ |
