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| Name: x...emo...luver.....x | Date: Sep 22nd, 2007 8:03 AM |
| ok i have to say i am an "emo" teen and well i love the music i listen to and the black nails and the hair cut and the way i act ya im failing in school but thats because i cant do the work not because im emo, i get called emo al the time but really i dont think i am ya i went throught the stage of cutting but that has nothing to do with any of the emo stuff now heres my advice ok ,well you can get your emo child into counsiling but do you think there really going to open up to someone they have just met or somone they may not trust???...so try and see what the kids goin threw and if they push you away from the life and there matters thats there disision!! ok so just leave them be ya be worryed but you have to give them space and dont call them emo what eva you do coz that isnt going to help!! its a matter of word of steriotype your using and it f***ing hurts!! ok so if you care pay attention of what i just said XoX ↑ |
| Name: lifeznotfair | Date: Sep 27th, 2007 12:29 PM |
| OMG!!! im 14 and im emo. why do u parents have a problem with that? I used to cut my wrists for about a year but my parents never found out cuz they just dont care. My mum let me dye my hair black and wear black clothes. She lets me listen to my music and she likes one of my albums. i stopped cutting when my mum bought me a punching bag when she noticed how angry i am all the time.she also put me on primrose oil which is used for pms but it helped my anger till i foundout why she put me on them. i have lots of emo freinds but they didnt influence me to become emo. i like my music because i can relate to the lyrics and i also like the beats. i like to be left alone just like ANY other teen and just because your emo doesnt mean you cut your wrists. but if your children do DONT freak out its the worst thing you could do. you should stay calm and try to talk to them but if they dont want to talk dont pry you'll just make it worse. also a teacher sent me to the school pshychiatrist (sorry about spelling) but i hated him he just sat there staring at me and i was like so freaked out. the haircuts are awesome by the way. if you want to know i got my razors from pencil sharpeners (cutting is addictive). the best advice i have to give you is 1. no theropy 2. listen to her but dont ask questions 3. find a way forher to express her anger (karate, art, etc) 4. dont get angry or diassapointed and finally 5. leave her to do what she wants she'll eventually grow out of it. ↑ |
| Name: Liviya | Date: Oct 5th, 2007 5:40 AM |
| She doesnt want you to think shes weird and think theres something wrong with her. Theres nothing wrong with her. She wants to know that you support her style and stuff. People call me "emo". i recently stopped going to school as well and im now home schooled. I know exactly what shes going through. and honestly..its just a phase. She just needs to figure out who she really is. Shell figure it out sooner or later. no worries ↑ |
| Name: ..RoSey.. | Date: Oct 6th, 2007 7:31 PM |
| EMO IS A FASHION. THAT IS IT.. EMOS DO NOT " CUT " THEMSELFS, DEPRESSED PEOPLE THAT NEED HELP DO THAT. Notice all the emos are about 14 years old ??? its a FASHION and FAZE to look cool.. thats the end of that. ↑ |
| Name: xxxClaraxxx | Date: Oct 28th, 2007 1:47 AM |
| Okay lets gett one thing clear I mean clear on this 'emo' thingy it's not about cutting bands music style or anything I'm 13 years old and you know what i listen to the music the bands wore the clothes still do the music of 'em' is emotional hardcore meaning that theses songs that mothers and parnets dis apporve of are about something that happen in the singer / band memmbers life and lfe things your daughter if she dose cutt I can understand how she really feels teens that are 'emo' get pick anyone can get pick on you got no idea what we eos go throught therpeople who want us dead for our music and looks not all emos are sad depress cutters ! we cna be really funny goffy good people if you let us hair slyle for this reason FREE COUNTRY FREEDOM get that your daughter is showing you how she feels threw out her clothes and her ahir stlye it's great don't put a teen down like so much of a mom makeing her kid feel like crap that your problem you probly made her feel red for or loved I kow you love her but making her feel isn't love it's great that your helping her but she needs some one to understnad how she feels . pleas don't don't ever blame the bands the sounds and lyrics for example : Waltz Moore I can't eat anyhting without sloveing my hands down my thorat I can'r remmber the lat time I seen my own eyes or the color of my skin do you know what it's like to feel ugly all the time see this song was about his past being bumlic he felt lied ulgy like no one even cared plus his parnets right before him joining the band said he was abed which made him feel fake see theres always a story to a song they songs they show an emotion it can be all kinds love , peace , happy , death , killing , rape , fake , all theses are emotions everyone has a time in their life plus to let you miss 'anti emo mothers' chill out yes help your kids if they ctt great your doing good but show them you love them let them be who they want to be god Pleas just stop doing this stuff this hurts your kid (s) that your not showing them you don't care about them as long as their happy that you cna understand ↑ |
| Name: ..RoSey.. | Date: Oct 28th, 2007 6:10 PM |
| oh shutup, your pathetic.. ANOTHER 13 year old trying to tell us that emo isnt a fashion.. if its NOT a fashion how come emo wasnt around 5 years ago ?!?!? ↑ |
| Name: Xx.maria.xX | Date: Nov 11th, 2007 2:40 AM |
| Ooookkk... First of all, EMO.. whats emo? emo is mostly a music style, at it's begginings, it had a lot to do with depressed teens, who cutted themsleves, who felt alone, etc.! BUT.. its ok! emo has become a fashion! Every teen now wants black or really blond hair, a wacky haircute (spikey, dyed in colors, flat on the front...) and the music is ok now.. there is this genre called screamo, where bands yell their lungs out, but moms, u can check the lyrics, and it's all ok. Emo/Screamo music has a lot to do with feelings, so dont be frightened.. the music is all but satanic.. kids are just following a fashion!! It will pass.. take my word!! ↑ |
| Name: peter TERROR | Date: Nov 23rd, 2007 6:54 AM |
| Oh and to Rosey, emo originated in the 1970's. So technically is was around 5 years ago....learn your facts before you put someone else down. And by the way. Their are other websites for self mutilation / suicide prevention. Here are some of the following: TWLOHA.com selfmutilato rsanonymous.org hopeline.com there are many more websites like that. ↑ |
| Name: Anne xoxo | Date: Nov 23rd, 2007 9:48 AM |
| My niece was one... and she seemed to get over it. She was in black started lashing out for no reason. Sort of got into the self mutilating stage. Then she grew out of it. She now has an apprentice job. She is very calm and now she even tells me to be calm and not care what the world thinks. Nowadays it seems to be part of being a teenager. The world has gotten twisted. Try councelling by all means but this could be a stage she will grow out of. And at that age they want attention also. Good luck :) ↑ |
| Name: -morgan macabre- | Date: Dec 5th, 2007 10:58 PM |
| i went through that stage from about 8th grade to well last year, my sophomore year, and i cut myself as well, pretty bad actually. my mom found out and threatened to send me to a mental institution if i did it again and of course i did.suprisingly she didnt do anything. i went to her and asked her if i could see a shrink but she wouldnt let me. i thought it was gone but recently i started doing it again. i strongly encourage you to get your daughter one. i think if i had had one i wouldnt be doing it now. and about the aggressiveness towards family members..i mean come on shes a teenage everyone is like that at this point in life. ↑ |
| Name: darkness_ninja | Date: Dec 13th, 2007 10:05 PM |
| hey i understand completly i am 15 and i have struggled the same problems and meh amily has put me through conseling i have had multiple add adhd test also tiroide and inimic tests but the truth is all i want is to be left allone and to have the rest o my amily not be me because i no my faults and i do are abought every one but i am sure i dont wanna be the type i used to hate also would you stop being steriotipical EMO is MUSIC GOTH is BUILDINGS and POPULAR is has the most friends BY SLEPING WITH THEM so y use the names in the first place i am tyred o people saying hey emo chik and wow ! plus there is alot more we could be doing than cutting (think abought that)it is simply away we express our self s33 most o US are dessprettly trying to well were othres just think its cool i on the othre hand am a person trying to ell you see i used to feel so much but now i feel nothing not joy or love (wich eveyone mixs with lust) i just look at the sad and say i dont care because all i want 4 once is to eel what love really is and to be wnted by someone who relly needs me not to be emty but to ...sry i am just alittle wiered tell this to the world whide web if you really what to here my story i will tel you over email [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: sophieSLAUGHTER | Date: Jan 2nd, 2008 8:17 PM |
| hi im sophie im 13 im not sad enoff to label my self but is i was a label or if you asked some1 wat i was they would say emo all you people moning about you kids been emo is really sad and nagging about cutting its not cutting its self harm and no not all emos do it but yes most do but some are smart enoff to stop there are lots of ways people self harm like solvents and sliting there wrists also one of the most common things with emos is hating there life and trying to kill them self. also all of you here moning about your kids beeng emo did you know 83% of emos are just wanna bes and do it to fit in 7%have a reson and 10% are allready dead and its not nice to have to go to your friends funeral at 13 because your friend has killed them self im not gonna lie i have tried but next time you nagg about you kid been emo think why? it could be because of you ↑ |
| Name: EmoScene | Date: Jan 6th, 2008 2:22 AM |
| well to be honest... you cant blame the music... i myself am an emo and the music is all part of the whole emo thing...it does not generally influence your child to do as the lyrics say unless your child has mental problems... to be honest im a emo child and im not a mum but i may be soon. Your child may have been bullied or she feels alone which has made her feel so alone I slit my wrists and yes it hurts and yes it doesnt look nice but it takes away the pain. There are other ways though she could hold ice in her hand.. that is painful but not self harming. Putting her through therapy may only make this worse.. she my feel pressured to go or she may feel like your all turning against her.. the best way is too talk to her or atleast try and understand why she does what she does ↑ |
| Name: heythere | Date: Jan 12th, 2008 6:15 AM |
| woahwoahwoah. therapy?are you kidding me?think about that!you think some creepy lady in a pant suit asking "and how does that make you feel?" is gonna make her behave better or not be emo?not a good idea.teens, especially emos, hate therapy. if they wanted your psycological help, they'd ask. if they want to talk at all, they'd rather talk to you than to some stranger with a clip board. and her music is probabaly the only thing that keeps her from eating off your face most of the time! u have no idea how much music means to an emo. and your reading way too far into the lyrics. i'm guessing what she wants is for you to stop judging her. and don't keep constantly asking how she's doing. leave her alone once in a while. emos like their space. and if she tries to talk to you about something. LISTEN! to the whole thing. and think before you say something. don't be insensitive.don't accuse or brush her off. when you get a chance to talk to her, dont push it away. don't question her too much. wait for her to come to you. but also be there for her and let her know you love her and care about her. thats my advice. yeah ↑ |
| Name: emo-kid | Date: Jan 19th, 2008 2:46 AM |
| WOW lady don't blame the music obviously your daughter has issues but people who become emo most likely dont do it because of the style but because it suits better with how they feel... (just a tiny comment towards lizzie: why not let your son get that haircut? its his life his hair... i told my mom that and she lets me cut my hair anyway i want) back to momof3dolls: why are you ashamed? there is no reason for you too be ashamed... obviously i dont have a clue how this mother thing works but it doesnt make sense too me that you feel ashamed just because your daughter is emo. amanda: 1: goths dont cut AT ALL 2: not all emo's are cutters just the ones who think its feels nice too cut themselves 3: if youre a prep THAN WHY ARE YOU TALKING BOUT EMO'S AS IF YOU KNOW EVERYTHING ABOUT THEM!! because trust me.. nobody knows emo's better than emo's themselves i know all about preps but that is because (ashamed to admit this but wth) i was a prep bout 2 yrs ago thank god im out of that stage jeez people emo is not a condition that you can cure its not a cry for help.. its a style too most ofcourse others carry alot of pain but they are not crying out for help believe me ↑ |
| Name: emo-kid | Date: Jan 19th, 2008 2:48 AM |
| ps: i agree with heythere... good points ↑ |
| Name: jabeck | Date: Jan 20th, 2008 10:16 PM |
| So sorry that you are dealing with this. I am encouraged to hear she is starting therapy. Just to share - a niece of mine was what is now termed an emo. Though nothing in her background was distressing (ie. divorce/bullying/bad parenting...), she got involved with a group of friends who seemed to all be focused on the 'black' side of life and did the things you describe above. It was like a different person existing in my sweet niece. I say "was" because the phase lasted around 2 years. And you're right, music adds to it. I do know that her parents stepped into action regarding her activities. They disciplined her with love, and tried to accept some of the things going on that were not too bad (ie black bedroom). It seemed very wise to me that they didn't try to push her out of it completely because she was trying to express herself.... but they didn't slack on vigilance. She's now 28 and a mother herself. She looks back on it like..."What was I thinking?" Hopefully a professional can give you advice on your specific situation. In the mean time, I hope someone else replies with more experience than I. Just wanted to let you know you're being heard. ↑ |
| Name: screamo_emo | Date: Jan 26th, 2008 5:21 PM |
| u sicken me! not all emos are bad. they dont all self mutilate. im 14 yr old emo. so reading this kinda made me mad. being emo isnt a cry for help. its not a fashion statement either. emos are people too. deal with it! its not like all emos go around with "outrageous or wacky" hair, if u all think that then your just sterotyping us emos. its not about the clothes or the hair or anything like that. its a state of mind. and thats all i have to say. good bye. ↑ |
| Name: screamo_emo | Date: Jan 26th, 2008 5:23 PM |
| and theropy??!?!?!?!?! r u kidding me? if u send her to some lady or guy in nice ironed clothes saying "how does that make u feel or something like that" then your crazzy. ↑ |
| Name: emo isnt a action | Date: Feb 11th, 2008 7:14 PM |
| im emo and i love the fashon and the music but i dont belive u have 2 self harm to be emo i almost done it but i waz like well im doing this beacuse im sad beacusse people r making fun of me so i didnt self harmed and i just ignored them so i think u talk 2 ur daughter and find out wats the matter ↑ |
| Name: iamsad | Date: Feb 18th, 2008 2:22 AM |
| Emos are not bad people. while im not in to the music and the clothes and stuff ifeel the same as them. cutting isnt as bad as people say either. its relly addictive and helps you get over crap that happens to you. and emo girls are hot. ↑ |
| Name: HurtandDepressed | Date: Feb 22nd, 2008 6:20 AM |
| srryy... and another thing i don't think therapy will help your child at all just sit down and talk to her...and i guarantee ever thing will be better if only i had someone that could do that with me....... ................................. ............... bye, ..................... ........................... HurtandDepresse d, 15, MI ...................... .......................... ↑ |
| Name: JENN | Date: Feb 24th, 2008 5:59 AM |
| hey well im Jenn.. I useto cut myself.. and i useto be very depressed.. My Advice.. Well When i went through all of this i wanted help and also didn't.. TAKE AWAY HER MUSCI.. it's a big influence.. and sometimes.. what she needs.. is to see you show her how much you care.. Talk to her.. cry. let her see your emotions.. Show her things that will make her realize her life infront of her.. take her to a grave.. ask her if thats really where she wants to be..? Try to let her see what she's doing.. And you may not believe in God.. But PRAY for her.. ↑ |
| Name: JENN | Date: Feb 24th, 2008 6:03 AM |
| oh and im looking at some of the advice that you'v recieved.. Honestly if you cut.. It could be a trend.. But in my case.. ( & it could be in her case) I would cut because i was honestly hurting inside.. there is SOMETHING influencing her to do thid.. you need to find out.. WHY? ↑ |
| Name: Ali_anarchy | Date: Feb 28th, 2008 1:51 AM |
| I'm a 15 year old. I am not emo but I love a lot of music. I can't stand the stuff that talks about cutting and suicide as if it is no big deal, but the genuine music where the singer talks about his problems, it isn't bad. The term emo arose from the genre "emotional hardcore", which itself evolved from hardcore punk. Punk is another very misunderstood scene, one which is actually much more positive and idealistic than the common eye would think. The worst thing you could ever do to a teenager, especially one who identifies with a particular scene such as the emo scene, is take away their music. Music is pulse and heartbeat, it's connection and expression, so many other positive things. The 'emo' bands actually pulled me out of a really bad time in my life, because it feels good to know that you're not alone. I've connected with other kids on different music scenes just by complimenting them on their band tee (hey, you like This Day Forward? So do I!) or relating to them on different forums. Parents who try hard but can't really understand their kids; bullies who don't understand the scene at all; sell-out bands; kids with problems who use punk as an excuse to be violent or emo as an excuse to whine. We can all relate to these, no matter what scene we're from or what music we listen to. All of these scenes were founded solely on the music. They are a way for us to pretend, for a moment or two, that the world isn't quite as lonely, corporate, violent, or ugly as it usually seems. And is that really a bad thing? ↑ |
| Name: luquien | Date: Feb 28th, 2008 11:28 PM |
| Emo could just be a fad or trend, but often is a sign of a serious lack of quality attention from the parent. I think the responder Tania Melchor of Arizona, a.k.a. [email protected] is a perfect example of someone that is using Emo to warn others of a serious internal problem. Perhaps she was abused or perhaps her parents ignore her. Either way, the angry outburst in her response, along with posting her personal information all over the internet, I think is a cry for help. I shouldn't have been able to learn her home phone, state, birthday (November 4th), type of glasses she wears, or her school (Mountain View in Mesa) within 2 minutes of online searches. But, she made it all public. If I wanted to cause her problems, I could take the photo she posted and wait at her school until she came out. Google your own daughter and make sure she isn't posting personal information as well. Someone should get in touch with miss Melchor's parents and let them know there is an issue with their daughter. On another note, music doesn't influence as much as you think it does. Growing up, I strayed through periods of Black Sabbath, Pantera, Megadeth, Throwing Muses, Burl Ives, K's Choice, Cypress Hill, Lacuna Coil, Flyleaf, and on and on and on. Not once did I become a drug addict, satanist, self-mutilator, murderer, or anti-government terrorist, even though those topics were discussed in the songs. If a child has a good relationship with their parents and has been taught how to deal with issues; clothes, music, or friends won't make them a bad person. Being as your daughter treats you and her father and siblings very poorly, I'd suspect she will be easily influenced by friends, and not for the better. Based on your original post, she started therapy over a year ago. Did it help? ↑ |
| Name: xxxihatemyselfxxx | Date: Feb 29th, 2008 7:19 PM |
| i am en emo...i do not self mutilate....i am a healthy christian. you dont have to hate life or cut to be emo. it can be a look or a style. how old is your daughter...im 16 myself tell her its okay to be emo...but dont get caught up in the crowd. ↑ |
| Name: PanicAtTheDisco | Date: Mar 3rd, 2008 6:29 AM |
| well, I'm not dealing with it, but I am it. and I can say, by trying to help her, you're making it much worse. I have experience with the "mutilating" AKA cutting. the girl you see on the outside is probably the girl on the inside. unfortunately, the way people end up being like that, is that they find themselves lonely, or hurt, and are very sensative and EMOTIONAL. thus, emo. cutting isn't so much of a big deal, it's more of a release for emo's. therapy and counceling just make people want to stand out more, and therapists and councelors seem to get sick joy from other people's pain so they make you feel worse. I must sound insane, but I'm telling to truth. give your daughter some space. she needs to have some friends who can comfort/understand her in a way that a mother cannot. ↑ |
| Name: this is my username | Date: Mar 30th, 2008 6:03 PM |
| Hello I'm 15 years old and I follow the fashion of 'emo' 'emos' get a lot of slate for dressing the way they dress because somewhere along the lines people have started thinking if you're an 'emo' then you're depressed and self mutate. And because of this message even now most kids have started self harming in order to be a 'TRU EMO' and it's pathetic. If I met your daughter I'd tell her to stop being so stupid following a trend like that. No offence or anything. Some people self harm for ACTUAL reasons most just do it for attention. But: Nobody CAN be emo though , and it's a mistake that many people make over and over again. it DOES NOT mean emotional. It means EMOTIVE HARDCORE which is a music genre which started in the 80s. Over the years its grown into a fashion and somewhere along the line people think it links up to depression and self harm. Some kids who follow this trend of self harming in order to be a true emo probably have only heard people call emos self harmers or fags. IT'S JUST A FASHION. some people take it way too seriously. Also there's a fashion called 'scene' which is getting bigger. type in scene kids in google images and you'll see 'emo' and scene are very similar. EMO IS THE MUSIC and scene is the fashion. I don't understand why self harming is brought into it. and now being gay. it's all pathetic. ↑ |
| Name: untiltheydie | Date: Apr 16th, 2008 5:01 PM |
| okay... emo is just another term for emotional which in this case everyone is emo im 16 and it took me 2 years to realize that "emo" and "goth" are just words the person inside you is what really counts. some people stare at me like i have a gun on me and im ready to kill and that hurts im a person i have feelings and sometimes my feelings are ignored. but i get through just dont hate you kids if they consider themsevles something and love them for who they are not what they are thats what my mom always taught me ↑ |
| Name: beatrice94 | Date: Aug 12th, 2008 11:38 PM |
| I have grandson who is 13 and EMO/ we have a lot of hollering matches. He does not like to go tobed early for school and gets up at 5am to fix his crazy hairstyle. He use to cut but does not any more He is basically a good kid he wears skinny jeans dress shirts and ties sometimes but has this wild over the face hairdo. He was told today by the principal that he had to uncover his eyes. I told him that the principal is a figure of authority but he came unglued. I didint want to tell him that it was ok. I will wait for the school to contact me. He is respectful to the teachers and does not cut smoke drink he is always neat but we live in Ala and they are a little backwards. How do I explaine to the principal when they call me that that I am not worried about his hair style and why it it distructive just because his hair is in his eyes does not prevent the teacher from teaching or the other students from learning. Anybody got any other ideas how I can handle this. Last year I home schooled him but he likes being with friends and I feel he has the right to go to public school regardless of his hairdo. [email protected] ↑ |
