Hello there everyone this is my first post here
and wanted to know if there's any other lesbians who are pregnant or have children.
My partner and i have been together for 2 yrs and i've always wanted a baby. Anyway it's difficult sometimes and just needed to find out if others have had the same expierences ↓
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| Name: Kortney | Date: Sep 14th, 2005 5:33 PM |
| Hey Shariee it's too late i'm already pregnant. Found out yesterday i'm 3 months along. ↑ |
| Name: bigdaddy | Date: Sep 19th, 2005 10:19 PM |
| You're totally blessed! Shariee (previous poster) doesn't have a clue, and will probably raise queer kids just because she is more concerned about your lives than she is about her own kids. I am helping a couple have a second child--their first is a 13 year old boy and he is one of the most well-adjusted (I am a therapist, BTW), adolescent kids in the neighborhood (who insists he's straight). I also know a number of queer families, and, yes, one of them has had terrible problems with their daughter, but the moms are substance abusers--no different from straight families, sad to say. Please accept love and support from this total stranger, keep it clean, and you go, girls! ↑ |
| Name: bigdaddy | Date: Oct 4th, 2005 8:34 AM |
| Bigdaddy HAS a therapist, thank you, and love her to pieces. Try it, you'll like it! This is a SUPPORT forum, and your deviant obsession with homosexuality is not welcome here. Go rescue abused kids from straight couples like I had to in my job, for crissake. Leave us alone so we can expend our energy raising happy kids. ↑ |
| Name: bigdaddy | Date: Oct 4th, 2005 11:28 AM |
| I was addressing the previous post to RK, and not to the splendid Kortney, just in case it was not completely apparent. RK needs her own forum, the "Do not come here for support" support forum. Don't worry, she'll come around when her kid comes out to her. ↑ |
| Name: Izzy | Date: Oct 10th, 2005 3:40 PM |
Congratulations!
I'm sorry you're having to deal with such horrible closed-minded people here. I am a heterol married woman, who's 10 weeks along, myself. I was raised by a lesbian couple and can say that I was harrassed far more for not buying "cool" clothes than I ever was for having two moms!
Rest assured that if you and your partner are loving parents and surround yourself with a loving, supportive community (unlike what we're seeing in this forum, unfortunately), you and your kid will be just fine. I'd check around to see if there are any local LGBT support organizations who might have family workshops or chat groups. If you're anywhere near a big city, or even a smaller city with a university, there should be a community ready to help.
And I'll repeat the advice that people have given me over and over: while you're pregnant, do what you can to surround yourself with supportive, positive-thinking folks who care about you and the baby and make you feel good about yourself. Now is not the time to stress over hurtful remarks from small-minded twits. ↑ |
| Name: Kortney | Date: Oct 11th, 2005 2:03 PM |
| Hi Izzy thanks for the kind words. It's something i really need right now. It's been hard enought being pregnant for me. I mean i've been sick a lot and really tired. But I guess it's just the joys of being pregnant huh? ↑ |
| Name: beebopmama | Date: Oct 29th, 2005 4:49 AM |
Hi Kortney,
I am a lesbian mommie as well, my partner and I are in our 6th wk of a new life. I am proud of you for posting this and would love to keep having a dialogue with you. Our baby is due June 2006 so it will be a long haul, when is your baby due?
Well keep your chin up and surround yourself with positive energy. Ignore the ignorant comments from the small minded people, just move to the next reply :-). This is a world where we have to embrace all kinds of people. Remember a baby is a blessing from your higher power.
take care. ↑ |
| Name: nicola | Date: Oct 30th, 2005 4:34 AM |
hi there, my partner and i have 2 girls (she was married before). we have been together for 3 years. one daughter is 5 and the other is 6. people don't really understand why we are together they think the kids need to be with a mother and father. but the girls don't seem to mind. they see there dad every 2nd weekend. you just need some supportive friends and family.
next year my partner and i are fostering a baby. but it may be different for us as we have the support of family. we did try ivf treatment with a sperm donor but that didn't work out. ↑ |
| Name: Kortney | Date: Oct 31st, 2005 3:07 PM |
| Hey beebopmama thanks for the encouraging words. To answer your question. I'm due March 4th and it's been pretty difficult. I hope to hear from you soon. Take care sweetie. ↑ |
| Name: lita | Date: Nov 4th, 2005 6:20 AM |
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| Name: april | Date: Nov 8th, 2005 8:17 PM |
| congrads i have to say i also am expecting with my 1st and i have to go and say it my moms a lesbian i dont see the big deal ive tryed it both ways but hey atleast i know who i am and dont question my preference which would be men i mean my fiance lol good luck to all btw when ur child tells ppl your lesbian its not a bad thing lol they just want to let their friends know that their mom is wild crazy and very very open lol i should know my mom asked me why i told every 1 hehe i love this stuff ;) be happy all byeeee ↑ |
| Name: april | Date: Nov 8th, 2005 8:19 PM |
| beebopmama what day in june are you due im due the 29th talk yall all soon bye ↑ |
| Name: Kortney | Date: Nov 8th, 2005 8:33 PM |
| Hey April thanks for your kind words, and it helps to know you grew up in a loving situation my partner and i want the same for our baby. ↑ |
| Name: april | Date: Nov 10th, 2005 3:24 PM |
| kourtney thanx for the note you are the 1st person to reply to me on this site and all i can say is do what you think is right i will tell you older people these days dont know how to take a couple who is mm or ff but they will have to get over it lol i have a funny story when my mom came out to her parents they are older like 70s and 80s lol my grandma was like so if you are... is it contagious does that mean april has it what does that mean exactally lol i busted out laughin when she told me that but my mom was lie no its not contagious but she will choose to be however she likes you know her and so yeah i thought that was hilarious for some reason ppl think its like a dissaese which is rather weird but always do what you think is right for you your partener and always your soon to be child and i have to say a weird well probably the weirdest part of your upcoming childs life or atleast for me was when my boy friend at the time just popped out one day and said ummm... since ur mom is lezz would that make you a spit baby i was like ummm no but if i was it would be pretty cool and told him to get off the L word just to make it funny but this is really long so i will quit with my stupid stories i just had to tho i thought all of yall might find some humor in them lol but ttus bye lol ↑ |
| Name: Kortney | Date: Nov 10th, 2005 4:35 PM |
| Hi April thanks for the stories it made me laugh. I needed it today cause i'm not feeling to well. I've been pretty sick today throwing up and i have a bad case of diaherra. What makes it worse is my partner's out of town for another week so i have to try to take care of myself. Anyway i hope to hear from you soon honey. ↑ |
| Name: april | Date: Nov 10th, 2005 4:49 PM |
| im sry you arent feeling well but if it makes you feel any better im not feeling to gr8 their i have my 1st doctor visit at 230 so im worried i dont know next to nothing about having a baby so im like yes no i dont no that sorta thing i just cant get over snezzing a million times a day and my head aches they are horrible i swear and dont worry im alone also bc my fiance did some rather stupid things and is currently in jail so atleast yours is coming home soon be happy ↑ |
| Name: Kortney | Date: Nov 10th, 2005 4:54 PM |
I'm sorry to hear your not feeling well either. I know your nervous about your dr's appt. but don't worry you'll get through it honey. Also i'm sorry to hear you've got to do this on your own.
How much longer is your fiance in jail? ↑ |
| Name: april | Date: Nov 10th, 2005 5:27 PM |
| honestly hes in there until he can make bond and im the only one who will do that for him but the thing is i would have 2 find some one else who would talk to the bonds man bc im not old enough in ga u have to be 25 to do anything like that so it really sux hes had a bond for 3 weeks i believe but ive got to call his attorney and see how much time he will spend if he doesnt make bond soo yea stress stress stress thats all it seems to be for me in the past month up to now hes been in there since oct 6th so we went from every day 24/7 contact to an hour and a half a week and through letters so its not easy 1 bit but i know i can do this its just hard sometimes he said all he wants to do is get out to go to work so he can support me and our child that he wants to be with me through me pregnancy and doesnt want me to go through labor alone with out him so thats helpful thinking that hes going to stay but i just wish he were out lol it would be so much easier! ↑ |
| Name: Kortney | Date: Nov 10th, 2005 5:36 PM |
| Oh sweetie that's tough, yeah i can read the stress in your writing. I hope he gets out soon and can help you out. I'm sure you could probably use a massage. I know i could. I'm really starting to put on weight and it seems my back hurts more and more everyday. But like i say this is just the joys of pregancy, right? ↑ |
| Name: april | Date: Nov 10th, 2005 5:51 PM |
| the main thing im nervous about the whole doctor thign is @ 11 2 day which idk where your from so about two hours ago i started bleeding kinda like i was starting my period but its not heavy its light thats another thing of why im scared to go to the doctor bc i cant lose this baby if josh my fiance has to be in jail a while i wanted to have some peice of him with me and ive never be pregnant before so i figured my parents would flip bricks but they are happy and with me and the strangest thing is my step-mom ummm well she said if josh is not going to do good that i can do it on my own and she would help me she already said i needed to move close to them bc she said she would baby sit for free so her grandchild wouldnt be going to some person where you really didnt know if it were being taken care of or not so thats a releif i could work and she would watch my baby she already watches my 4 month old nephew and so yea i really want my baby right now im just scared of what the doctor might say that and im affraid of neddles lol josh laughed at me and said he was sorry he couldnt be withme but i would have to soooo now i really am i only have liek 30 more mins before im leaving but i havent got any work done bc of this im so worried so yeah i think this one is really long lol sry ttus ↑ |
| Name: Kortney | Date: Nov 10th, 2005 6:16 PM |
| I understand why your so nervous. Just remember your not really alone. Please let me know how it went when you get back ↑ |
| Name: april | Date: Nov 10th, 2005 6:18 PM |
| ok ty ttus it will probably be on monday though and i will let you know bye ↑ |
| Name: april | Date: Nov 14th, 2005 1:16 PM |
| hey kortney i went to the doctor thurs and was 7 wks 1 day im healthy and so is my baby so we are ok he said that it was a threatened miscarriage but the baby has a strong heart beat 155 bpm and was 1.09 cm lol so im gunna have a big baby lol bc i read at 8 weeks its supposted to be 2 cm and i still have till wed to be 8 wks so yeah its gunna be tall lol and im only 5 ft so ya know but ttus and hope you had a gr8 weekend ↑ |
| Name: Kortney | Date: Nov 14th, 2005 2:51 PM |
Hi April that's great news, yeah that definetly sounds like your gonna have a big baby. Take good care of yourself and that baby. I'm kinda sick today and my head won't stop pounding.
How are you doing today? ↑ |
| Name: april | Date: Nov 14th, 2005 3:19 PM |
| im fine but the more and more i read on threatened miscarriages it worries me i heard its heart beat lol it was really diff but super fast and loud so i think everything will be fime i will keep saying i just wanna go to the doctor to find out for sure but the flip side of things josh got a probation hold on sat so hes not gettin out his child will probably be around 8 months to a yr old before he ever gets to see him/her face to face w/o glass between them so that worrys me but ive picked 3 names boy and girl since i dont know what it is yet i love the girl names which are Zoe Lachelle bc my middle name is michelle lol or Zoe Emma and if its a boy i like Joshua Blaze but my step mom doesnt like blaze bc i named my dog blaze bc i loved the name and thought of my dog as my child but since im having a baby i would want its name to be blaze if its a boy but i really want a girl i think bc i love those names but ttus and btw do you know anyone or know anything about the doctor telling them they are having a threatened miscarriage??? but ya ill let you go and i hope you feel better soon i havent really been all that sick so idk what to think ↑ |
| Name: Kortney | Date: Nov 14th, 2005 3:28 PM |
Wow those are some great names i really like Blaze for a middle name. That's good you haven't really gotten sick yet.
I have a girlfriend who was told she might have a miscarriage b/c heart rate was so low. But she carried full term and now has a beautiful little boy. I'm sorry Josh won't see your child face to face for awhile but i'm here for you sweetie so stay strong honey. ↑ |
| Name: april | Date: Nov 14th, 2005 3:42 PM |
| ty yes josh really knows now that he messed up so yea and what you said about your friend helps gr8ly the doctor said that me and the baby were perfectly healthy though and the baby heart beat was really strong he was shocked lol bc im not that far and it wasnt hard at all to get the heart beat but i guess i am going to be a mom i have the worries already lol i just want it to be healthy wether its a boy or girl so yea i got pictures to and i showed them to my coworker lol she was like wow you can tell its a baby and not a dot lol but yes i also agree that i think it will be a rather big/long baby so lol by the time its about 8 it should be taller than me lol aint that crazy i think its funny but bye ↑ |
| Name: Kortney | Date: Nov 14th, 2005 3:49 PM |
| Yeah that's funny your gonna have big baby and in turn have a big kid. My girlfriend calle me last night and told me she has to stay away on business for another two weeks. I got so upset and i've been crying a lot. I just need her here i miss her support and love. ↑ |
| Name: april | Date: Nov 14th, 2005 4:36 PM |
| do you work or are you staying at home? omg i recently moved and my neighbor is a guy i went to high school with he knows im preg and doesnt care hes totally hitting on me and said preg women turn him on lol i laughed bc i think its funny but yeah it is rather weird sooo but i hope your gf comes home soon and not to be nosey or over step any bounds what state are you from im from ga i just curious so lol ↑ |
| Name: Kortney | Date: Nov 14th, 2005 4:39 PM |
| that's so funny that guy you went to school with lives next door now. I'm not working right now my gf makes enough money so we decided i can stay home until after the baby comes. I live in california. ↑ |
| Name: april | Date: Nov 14th, 2005 4:55 PM |
| yes lol the guy that has always had a crush on me and swears by it when we went to school i liked him lol he helped me move my stuff lol josh would be rather jelous lol anyways his name is tobby lol its really weird he said that anytime i needed to wash my dishes to tell him and he would do it last night he cooked at my house lol with some friends its very funny from where i am i dont know what else to do but laugh and he also has made sure no one smokes in my house and he quit smoking yesterday lol ummm and he said that he wants me to go night fishing with him this weekend or go out clubbin keep in mind i am preg lol its really really funny ↑ |
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